Am I The Only One Creeped Out By This?
I've heard about these "Purity Balls" before, but this is just some creepy shit.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XnRIk5bHe58#t=264 Here's the original article that brought it to my attention: Quote:
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Jessica Valenti (who admittedly is the quintessential White Feminist in that she only talks about white problems as if they are universal*) has a book called The Purity Myth that talks a lot about this. Its pretty creepy and they always had the incestuous overtones.
*Actually wouldn't mind talking about this, I'm sure its not just a white thing but she goes on about how the idea of virginity and purity puts girls on unfair pedestals, but the thing is in our society its only white women who are viewed as pure and chaste if they follow these sets of rules; women of colour are hypersexualized from a very young age and do not reap the supposed benefits of "virgin privilege". |
It's funny you mention that, because I've always gotten that sense about white female purity even from reading the edited "Grimm's Fairy Tales." However, in the Tex-Mex Community, based on my own experience, it's the opposite. Any woman who sleeps with a Hispanic male is automatically a whore, regardless if they're dating or if they guy talked her into it or it's the unpleasant word that starts with an R. Should the girl squeeze out a child, and if it's a masculine child, then by Jesus, Mary and Joseph they should marry. If not, he should care for the daughter but never claim the woman as the mother of his child.
It's a very sickening way of thinking I admit. Yet strangely, mothers are seen as the head of the household and final word in the child's upbringing. If this isn't the case of doublethink, than I don't know what is. |
Pretttty creepy. The movie Ken Park (written by Harmony Korine and directed by Larry Clark, sooo of course it's pretty fucked) follows a girl whose father forces her into a thing like this after finding her getting kind of freaky with another guy. It's a pretty dramatic portrayal of the concept and makes it all the more unsettling.
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I hate that I can only think of pop culture references off the top of my head, sorry! Obviously you know way more about views of women's sexuality within your community, but as a whole the concept of virginity, especially in the states, was assumed for white women and denied to women of colour. |
I remember them talking about that in my Abolition of Whiteness class. That virginity was another badge of whiteness and purity. Ones that REALLY get me are conservative women taking some of the intellectual real estate of feminism, dragging it more to the center. A lot of this of course, is the work of white women. I dunno. It was a pretty strange mind fuck. Kinda like how it'd be certainly fair and a victory for women if more women were CEOs and heads of state, but then it's a different thing entirely when it might turn out that most of those women may not be much different than their men counterparts.
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I actually find it kind of frustrating looking at the women in my community sometimes. Because I see so much wasted potential when so many want to come off as "ghetto" rather than be community leaders and actually strive to improve the situation at a higher level. The ones who aren't trying to come off as "ghetto" and earning an education or go into the military are often seen as uptight or as wannabe white. Like "how dare they try to improve their situation in life?" That is a strange mind fuck AshleyO. Part of me wants to find the root of that, the other part thinks I've already found the base watching that video. |
You are not the only one. Mind you, any time I see a father obsessed with their daughter's sex life I get super creeped out.
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This is the first time I've ever heard of this and I find it very creepy. And I agree with you Ape descendant anytime a father is obsessed with their daughter's sex life is wrong and I find it completely creepy as well.
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Definitely creepy shit
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