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Old 10-19-2007, 06:31 AM   #51
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I think a part of why I dress "alternatively" is to filter out certain people. I mean if someone is closed minded enough to actually not talk to me because of the way I look, I REALLY don't need someone that shallow in my life anyway. So it weads people out which leads me to get pissed off a lot less. If you knew me you would understand that that's a GOOD thing.
I actually have to agree with you there.
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Old 10-19-2007, 09:46 AM   #52
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Yup, I've gotten plenty of that (still do). But it's something only you can control. People don't create negative feelings in you, it's the way you choose to react to them. One of the most powerful things you can do in that situation is to laugh WITH them, either that or just ignore it.
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Old 10-19-2007, 05:18 PM   #53
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The girls I was talking about-I don't really talk to them, rather they talk to me and I am polite (I don't like to be rude). They only talk to me, however, because we have mutual friends.
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Old 10-19-2007, 09:39 PM   #54
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Kind of a long, prattling story, so get yourself a bag of chips and get comfy.

I mostly got the brunt of criticism for being different, in that society's perception of young black males is that we're all supposed to be drug dealers, con artists, and alcoholics.

In my community, if you were a black male you had either two options: dealing drugs or going to jail. It was partly my mom's fault that I came out different: my dad is a stereotype, and she never wanted me and my brother to be like him. So she pushed us to better ourselves in a major way. My bro may look and act the stereotype but he isn't. He's just as smart as anybody else and quite clever too. It never dawned on me just how opposite I was from all the other black kids in my neighborhood until around 4th or 5th grade when I became a bully magnet because I never dressed in any basketball or football jersey's, Nike's, or any other form of namebrand outfits that was supposed to be alright for the other black kids around to wear. It was like I was a blood traitor because I wore hand-me-down clothes, fading Chucks, read books that middle-schoolers were reading, and quoting off historical facts that nobody wanted to know or care about.

It was either from other black kids or from those who wanted to generalize me as a stereotype that gave me crap about being different. I never had a friend that was black (yeah, sorry to use the color thing, but all my friends have been white) and didn't meet another black kid that loved rock and metal like I did till about my Senior year. Sure, there were other black kids who were kind of like me at my school, but they either fit in with the prep crowd or the thug crowd and I was never meant for either. Even without trying, I was already sitting at the Misfit corner of the lunchroom (we had a small Vampire-clique at our school, but a majority of this clique belonged to the punk-Goths because nobody was actually brave enough to be full-on Goth) without ever really trying.

Like Sylph, this is filled with irony: I recently went through my yearbook and found that of the kids I graduated with and knew who gave me hell through school, a small portion of them actually did end up going to college or even graduating from high school. I see a larger number of them living up to the stereotype that they believed was all I was ever destined for.

And I love being different and weird. My mom may still slap her forehead now and then when I walk out the house in darker and darker clothing, but I hold back and laugh sometimes and say "You made me you know."
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Old 10-20-2007, 06:53 AM   #55
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Spoon, you remind me of this one guy at my school. He's some black metalhead skater guy.


Except he's stuck up, like most kids from my town are, so he thinks he's better than me, me being a degenerate and all.



And I assume you're not.
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Old 10-20-2007, 09:44 AM   #56
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I wish this board allowed for karma points, you'd get ten, spoon!

As for myself, eh... I try not to notice, though sometimes I see strange looks. A little bit of questioning from family, and sometimes from young children (15 and below).
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Old 10-20-2007, 09:48 AM   #57
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me being a degenerate and all.
Really? I thought I was the only one :P
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Old 10-21-2007, 10:12 PM   #58
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I still don't understand why they make fun of people who go outside of the mainstream. Sure, I know to them it's not normal, but...

Have they looked in a mirror? Same khaki pants, feathered farah fawcett hair, striped shirts, sneakers, caps, and so on. Oh, right, don't forget the identical slutty outfits a lot of girls wear. If anything, everyone should be laughing at them for being clones of each other.

I could be wrong, though, about them being all the same; maybe there is an individual amongst that flock... I'm just stating from what I've observed at my school and around town.

And the "gangsta" kids, don't even get me started....

Which reminds me. Today a group of baggy-pants-wearing a-holes were shouting things at me like "devil gurl" and "satan bitch."

Which was funny, considering I wasn't even wearing anything over-the-top... just a black skirt, frilly, lace top, and my usual combat boots and striped stockings... if anything I looked like a reject from an Anne Rice novel.

Sorry for the rambling everyone.
I agree. I once walked down a hallway and counted 11 girls wearing Polos, faded jeans and Birkinstocks.

Nobody actually dared make fun of the way I looked in school because I'm intimidating no matter how I dress (yeah, short asian girl and intimidating is an odd match), until this year, when the new freshman came in. Apparently my brother pissed off one of them, so he decided to spread a rumor that I have a porn site.
As if he'd be able to afford any porn I do *snorts*

But yeah, there's a lot of whispering amongst the freshmen, partly because of the porn thing, and partly because I called out this bitchy girl who was trashing my friends, and who happened to be popular in her grade.
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Old 10-21-2007, 10:49 PM   #59
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Rumours are unnecessary. Why must peope be so cruel? Humans are the most vulgar creatures I know of. I know because I am one.
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Old 10-21-2007, 10:52 PM   #60
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Why ARE people so cruel? I don't get made fun of as much as people just call me weird.
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Old 10-22-2007, 08:33 PM   #61
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In my American Literature class, we had to decide whether human beings were evil by nature or good by nature.

Guess what I chose.
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Old 10-22-2007, 09:00 PM   #62
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People are cruel because of their inadequacies and insecurities. I crack a smile when someone passing me smirks or grimaces, finding it humorous how easily they're manipulated by my unusual appearance.
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Old 10-22-2007, 09:03 PM   #63
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I like the feeling I get when someone gets that weird look on their face that shows that they've never seen someone so strange in their life. It's as if I dropped an atom bomb of culture into the cow pattie that is my town. I don't mean to sound conceited, I'm just frustrated.
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At some point, you need to look yourself in the mirror and realize that what other people did to you does not define you as a person. You and your actions define who you are as a person. It's up to you to be a good person, in spite of all the evil you've faced. In fact, it should be because of the evil you see that it's good you do. Be the change you want in the world. Next time someone tells me that they're an asshole because they've had a bad life, I'm stabbing them in the eye with a spork.
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Old 10-22-2007, 09:12 PM   #64
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Humans are greedy by nature; we're born wanting food and warmth and comfort, and it only grows the older we get--clothes, money, looks, fame, power--we only become more and more greedy. We have the tendency to covet things that we don't have a right too, and even the best of us, I think, are secretly vain and proud. We're a walking mass of sins *chuckles*

That girl I called out is terrified of me now. She stares at me when she thinks I'm not watching, but when I look her in the eye she steps behind her friends.
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Old 10-22-2007, 09:37 PM   #65
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hah...I'm such a philosopher..
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Old 10-23-2007, 10:22 AM   #66
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Humans are greedy by nature; we're born wanting food and warmth and comfort,
We actually aren't born wanting those things; as babies can't even comprehend the concept of want. We NEED those things to live, so they pacify us. It isn't that we're greedy.
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Old 10-23-2007, 03:33 PM   #67
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We are born innocent only to be tainted by society. Underwater Ophelia is right.

Last night I went to Wal-Mart (AKA: Hell-On-Earth) with my boyfriend. You wouldn't imagine how many people stopped and stared...Kinda funny.
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Old 10-23-2007, 08:38 PM   #68
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I concede, that's the meaning I meant to convey. But I think this time of innocence /is/ very short--my baby sister is not even one year old, and she is spoiled rotten. She does not need lots and lots of attention, she demands it. If she feels like you're not paying attention to her, she screams. But she's so cute most people don't mind xD
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Old 10-24-2007, 09:55 PM   #69
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I've been made fun of countless of times, mostly because of my complexion. I've had people ask me if I have anemia because of my palish skin. I once had this guy at work threaten to tie me up his car hood during a sunny day, in order to ensure that I got the proper tan that according to him everyone should have (WTF?). I once dated this guy that always made fun of my complexion, as well. Obviously, we're not together anymore.
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Old 10-25-2007, 04:15 PM   #70
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I actually find some of the reactions people have when they see me quite funny. I remember this one time at school I was walking towards my bus, and I walked past this girl with long blond hair. As soon as she saw me, she yelled out, "OH MY GOTH!!!!!"

I'm still laughing.
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Old 10-25-2007, 04:46 PM   #71
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I actually find some of the reactions people have when they see me quite funny. I remember this one time at school I was walking towards my bus, and I walked past this girl with long blond hair. As soon as she saw me, she yelled out, "OH MY GOTH!!!!!"

I'm still laughing.
I would have walked up and hugged her hahahahaha
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Old 10-25-2007, 04:57 PM   #72
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I think a part of why I dress "alternatively" is to filter out certain people. I mean if someone is closed minded enough to actually not talk to me because of the way I look, I REALLY don't need someone that shallow in my life anyway. So it weads people out which leads me to get pissed off a lot less. If you knew me you would understand that that's a GOOD thing.
Yeah i can completely relate to that. I have a few extreme ideals and opinions, and I tend to share them first. If I scare them away, oh well, if not, I can know I won't have TOO many problems with them.
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Old 12-08-2007, 07:38 PM   #73
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my family is a bunch of closed-minded bastards. the dislike anything they think out of the norm. super conformists! naturally, they hate my goth lifestyle. my friends on the other hand accept me. i laughed when they called me casper though!
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Old 12-08-2007, 11:37 PM   #74
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Lets see, I've been called a Behemoth because of my hair when it gets a little wild; I like being called a Behemoth, it makes me feel all giddy.

Now in Australia, especially Melbourne, people are actually quite good natured about sub cultures etc. but there are a few dicks out there.

there was the guy who threw a beer bottle at me (it missed and shattered on the wall behind me, this was on my way home one day) and called me an "emo shit" which i didn't even look like, in fact considering my clothes and hair that day; I looked like a "bogan"

there's the guy in my school who thinks I should cut my hair and become a man, start liking girls because he knows in his heart that gay is wrong as he was told by god, oh and also bisexuals are ALL just attention seekers, NO ONE can actually like both sexes...


Also some girls I used to fondly call "plastics" in the lower years have apparently created a fan club for me ( i dont pretend to get it either), it just shows you how people can change and how most people are generally nice people. I don't have any real quarrels with those girls anymore and we talk quite often.

Finally the beach guys in Perth not only are they hot BUT they also are incredibly friendly, I was just strolling down there one vacation and some guys i'd never met called me over to their table in a cafe and there were one or two girls, the girls asked me how i got my skin so beautifully pale *blush*, and the guys told me i looked like an interesting person and we just chatted the hours away.

But at the same time alot of people find me intimidating and scary, apparently i have a presence or something...>_>
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Yes, the usual stuff. Fatty, Fat ass... I've also been called Emo...
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