You are in luck Miss. (If you actually come back and see this, that is.)
I also have painful grouchy feet, and have been working on this one a while. I still wear sneakers when I must :O but my picks are
Doc Martens. You can get soft leather ones as opposed to the usual hard shiny ones, but I'm not sure if you can get them in womens. And if you get the hard ones, wear them with mens woolen work socks (like Explorers).
' brand boots. I got a second hand pair (mine
) and they're my choice for a heel I can comfortably function in, but be warned - they're vinyl and crack.
Go go boots from the 60s. (Will post a pic when I've fixed them)
Also look in vintage stores for flat knee high boots (not sure if these are meant to be motorcycle/scooter boots or not).
Buy those foam inserts for shoes - two layers in each shoe if your feet get really sore on the bottoms.
Go to the podiatrist for tips on what to look for in shoes, and possibly orthotics if you have flat feet like mine. Expensive but worth it.
Also about the traction - you can get shoes resoled in repair places.