When they should be used a pillows *Que rimshot*

They aren't big enough to be pillows. Besides, they are full of hate, not milk.

You sound like Lady Macbeth.

Out, out damned spot!!!!

To me you sound like one of those guys who wants a woman that's needy. The kind of woman who doesn't work, says yes to everything, and has no will or mind of her own. I hope that's not what you're looking for. Those relationships almost always end badly.

On a different note.

Take some time to really think about what you want in a partner. Make a list of things you're willing to compromise on and next time you find someone you'd consider dating compare her to the qualities on the list. You might find that what you want and what you're going after are two completely different things.

Nope, I'm not looking for that type of woman.

Not consciously.

Didn't you say in the bondage thread that you want a slave both in the bedroom and out?

Nope.

I said a slave to my command in the bedroom but an equal outside the bedroom.

I'm reminded of a song verse:

Women seem wicked when you're alone. -- from the song People are Strange from Echo and the Bunnyman.

I have to wonder what kind of woman you are attracted to, Deadman; are you attracted to the type who have a lot of emotional problems, and who you want to 'fix', or are you related to more emotionally stable womenfolk?

If you're looking for a BDSM type of relationship...which is what this sounds like...then I think there are online communities to find that kind of thing. :)

However, let me ask you this: If you found a wonderful, attractive woman, but the only thing she wouldn't compromise on is being ordered around in the bedroom, would you be willing to forgo that in favor of having the better relationship?

First of all.
It's Echo and the BunneyMEN.

Second, that song is by the Doors.

Ahh; I almost typed 'men' instead of 'man', but I wasn't completely sure which it was. XD

Thanks for letting me know who the original singers for that was. I have only heard it done by Echo and by Queen, so I thought it was one of them.

Ah well; spelling and mistaken creative identity aside, my point is still made. ;)

Well depends on the situation but I wouldn't see it working unless she was a submissive,no matter how attractive.

THERE.
Is your problem.

You're looking for two things: submission and hotness.
You will fail.

Are you saying there aren't good looking submissives out there?

Or just none in my case (Yeah I get the fact that I look like a monster)

No, you idiot.

I'm saying that you aren't looking for important qualities in a relationship.
If you want a playmate, then by all means, pick the hottest girl that'll let you choke her, and ignore everything else.

If you want a lasting and healthy relationship, submissiveness and hotness can't be your two top priorities.

Oh.

The qualities I'm looking for are as follows.

She has to have a good sense of humor.
She would need to be loyal.
A good listener.
Be willing to respect as well as be respected (Above all else,because if there isn't any respect between the two of us it just won't work,found that out the hard way.)
She would need to like Horror films.
Be able to tolerate Viking Metal,and thrash along with punk.
She would need be able to stand my stubborness from time to time.

And last but Not least she would need to have a mind of her own and a strong will (If I wanted a parrot I would go to the pet store)

Those are in fact what I'm looking for in a woman. (No B.S. not trying to make myself look good,just being honest)

You can't find a woman like that? Where are you looking, the red light district?

Because we lose interest when we see some guys acting like that. In my case I don´t like boys too needy :/

I actually stray away from those that are thought of as modern day "soiled doves"

What the fuck?

That came out of left field.


What's wrong with a guy that wants to be helpful as well as a good BF/husband?

Girls just wanna have fun.

No, seriously though. I don't know any young girls looking for husband material or even sugar daddies. Most just want fun and excitement, and want someone who can bring them that.

I'm talking about women not girls,the little girls need to brush their teeth,and go watch cartoons, this ride is for adults only.

Most women still want to have fun, it is just a different kind of fun

*facepalm* yes, because I totally meant you should date little girls. I mean young women, genius.

Nothing wrong with having fun,I was raised that you if you work hard you should play hard.

Your views on women seem to be so fucked up I don't even know what to say to help you.

And Noumi pointed it out that fun and excitment is what most young women want, and that being a "provider and protector" is boring, and being needy is a turn off. So whats the problem with what she said?

I liked the way you said that. :D

Yes but I took it as her calling me needy and immature.

Maybe I took it the wrong way.

Because.....
 

Why do women hate guys that bust their asses to provide for them,protect them,and go through so much hell for them?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
It is BIOLOGICAL.
Dogs and cats do it.
If a man "busts his ass" to make a woman "happy" the woman's "parts" note that behavior as a weakness.

Biology dictates that the strongest, most aggressive and asshole male be "alpha" therefore, be "the one to breed with" so that strong offspring are produced. It's a mammal thing, not necessarily a HUMAN thing but... some humans DO think the way animals do.

I am older and had "parts" REMOVED and now I can think straight without all that biological b.s. goin' on. I want a man who will bust his ass for me because I bust MY ass for him. ... YES, I DO. (so, he'd better!)

I'm not saying the woman shouldn't do her part,both partners should watch out for each other,and help one another out.

.. Fine so far.


Are these really THAT important??

This..

And this, 99% of the time are contradictions in a character. If she's willing to cope with you being stubborn, then she probably won't be that strong willed.

Are you fucking stupid?

That question is rhetorical on these boards.

That was uncalled for. She is an older (but sexy!) woman so she has experience and observation that is beyond your comprehension. People's priorities change as they age. You cannot comprehend it, but someday when you are in your wheelchair with your oxygen mask and your liver transplant, you, JCC, will not give a damn about boobs. Hard to believe but it is true. Unless you die young from whiskey and cigarettes.

seriously? do you know a guy who would actually turn out to be good? I haven't met a guy to provide for me yet.. wish i could.. sigh

Liusadih: Movies and Music are trivial,but it wouldn't hurt to have common intrests.

She wouldn't have to cope,only tolerate to a point,who is to say I wouldn't find her stubborn in some cases, I would be able to agree to disagree.

Nothing gets past you! Minutiae reveals the soul.

She didn't say something wise but hard to understand if you're young, she said something stupid.

Humane and Invisigoth, you are both fucking stupid
 

You're fucking stupid because you think the lack of a sex drive makes you some sort of wiser being and you're trying to apply logic of relationships learned on animal planet onto people. You know why you don't get the man who will bust his ass for you? Because you're fucking stupid.
You are fucking stupid because you think with your dick. You defend any woman on this board who you find attractive no matter how asinine they make themselves sound with their stupid, half baked comments. Then they see you as the sweet older guy and anyone with some fucking perception sees you as the pervert who can't keep the blood flow in his brain and his dick in his pants. Also, stop fucking talking down to people who drink or smoke. So you used to smoke, and you used to drink and didn't have a fucking clue how to do it responsibly. You went to AA and now you think you're some fucking enlightened being.

Get off your high horse.

God, you're cool.

Three words are not enough context to pick up sarcasm, but I'll take it as a compliment just for my own amusement.

I was being sincere. If I wanted to be sarcastic, I would have included more words to ensure that you didn't misapprehend me.

Well then thank you.

JCC,Gothicus, and Joker (But the following applies to everyone)

Fucking stow the hostility,it's really unneeded.

Stupidity warrants hostility. If it were coddled like a child it would grow, and that's one thing that we don't need in this world.

Deadmanwalking_05, you may find hostility unnecessary, but personality I need to lash out at forumites in order to feel big and get an erection. You're free to come here and hit or shoot me, if that would please you.

Stupidity warrants education.