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Metabolik 03-17-2008 10:29 AM

I feel the worst i've ever felt in my entire life
 
Emily told asked me if it was ok is she pretended to go out with one of her friends so these chavs would leave them alone cos one of them is obsest with her friend, I said ok, couple weeks later I look on her myspace and the post from the guy shes pretending to go out with said "I love you 'lots and lots of jelly tots'"
now the jelly tots thing is me and Emilys thing, no-one elses. I didnt realise how hard it would be until I actually saw what they were doing to make the chavs think they were going out, and now i'm starting to doubt if she really loves me.
I don't know if I can trust her, but I still love her...i'm going to try and talk to her but I dont know if I can without blowing a fuse.
Im just gonna tell her that its not ok that she pretending to go out with this guy.
When I read his post saying he loved her...just for that one seconds I wanted everyone in the world to die and leave me alone forever.
I dont know what to do, I feel like shit and im on the brink of becoming suicidal, I've got too much on my back lately, if I get anything else im gonna fucking collapse.
I would never tell anyone else I love them just to prove a point to a couple of fucking chavs, never. I love Emily and no one else.

Stormtrooper of Death 03-17-2008 10:34 AM

Wow dude. That sucks. I think talking to her is the best way for now. Let her know what you really feel and IF possible, go and visit her. You can work through this man, suicide is not the answer. If you need to talk some more let me know, I know what you're going through.

Metabolik 03-17-2008 10:44 AM

I'm seeing her next sunday, thats if I can refrain from saying something stupid that could end our relationship.
I'm fucking shaking, i'm freezing, i've got a runny nose, and thats the worst i've cried...probably because i've held in about 7 years worth of crying.

Stormtrooper of Death 03-17-2008 10:47 AM

It's good to have a good cry every once in a while. We're not all Rambo mountain men ;) Just put on some soothing music and try to relax, works for me.

Metabolik 03-17-2008 10:49 AM

Soothing has the opposite affect on me, so i'll just listen to something angry.

Stormtrooper of Death 03-17-2008 10:54 AM

Meh, well it's the same with me. So whatever rocks your boat!

Solumina 03-17-2008 11:02 AM

I'm really sorry, that situation just sucks. It sounds like you two need to have a good talk about but I think it is the kind of talk that needs to be a face to face kind of thing. It seems like you two have different boundaries and I doubt that she though using "your" thing would upset you. Whatever happens things will be okay *hugs*

HumanePain 03-17-2008 11:07 AM

That really sucks man, and I am afraid all I can say is that this kind of fickleness is all too common with young people your age. You feel betrayed, and it hurts, I know.

If I were you I would start talking to other girls, and try to get back in the saddle again with someone else, and leave Emily behind.

:(

Wormboy 03-17-2008 12:05 PM

Mate, that bites. No two ways about it. Listen dude, with all the things I've heard from you based on your relationship with her, it seems like what you should do is not only talk to her but think long and hard if the love is worth the pain. Mate, if the relationship is more bad than good, you need to get out for your own sanity. If you need to talk, message me. If you want I can PM you my email/aim screenname.

Metabolik 03-17-2008 12:14 PM

I just want to be alone for a little while...

tickingstitch 03-17-2008 12:38 PM

awww Meta that sucks here is a big hug* I hope it all works out

I_shit_bats 03-17-2008 01:54 PM

i know how it feels im so so so in love with my girlfriend and weve been together for almost three years now but we broke up like 2 months back it was horrible she kissed somone else and its the worst feeling in the world its like she didnt want anythingto do with me all the sudde nthen she started calling me again weve been back together for a while now but it was the worst thing ive ever been through physically and mentally i lost 10 pounds from it

Metabolik 03-17-2008 02:18 PM

Well I don't think she should have even asked me in the first place.
And obviously she can't be fucking asked with my feelings, so fuck her.

gothicusmaximus 03-17-2008 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Metabolik
Emily told asked me if it was ok is she pretended to go out with one of her friends so these chavs would leave them alone cos one of them is obsest with her friend

Could you like, explain this further? Because at present it seems to be an impossibly flimsy and transparent excuse to which you should have said fuck no in the first place. No offense man, but if you let her get away with this one, that she doesn't respect you is no marvel.

Wormboy 03-17-2008 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by I_shit_bats
i know how it feels im so so so in love with my girlfriend and weve been together for almost three years now but we broke up like 2 months back it was horrible she kissed somone else and its the worst feeling in the world its like she didnt want anythingto do with me all the sudde nthen she started calling me again weve been back together for a while now but it was the worst thing ive ever been through physically and mentally i lost 10 pounds from it

AHHH!!!!!

Do you see on your keyboard where the shift key is on the right hand side? Do you see the button next to it with a slash and a question mark? Do you see the little button with the greater than sign and the period? See the little period? FOR THE LOVE OF GOTH USE IT! Your posts are making my inner grammar Nazi pull his hair out through his nostrils for crying out loud. If you honestly talk the way you type you need speech therapy classes. After a sentence, stop, breath, and continue. It's a literary forum for fuck's sake, LEARN TO TYPE.

LaBelleDameSansMerci 03-17-2008 10:21 PM

I've never understood people who are so lazy with their typing that they can't type a dot or a comma every once in a while. These things exist for a reason.

Apathy's_Child 03-18-2008 05:35 AM

Good luck fixing it, kid. Tell her how it's gonna be (I wouldn't normally recommend this course of action but she's being a dick) and if she isn't okay with that, then it's pobably time to move on........ to a girl who doesn't care enough about some "chav's" opinion of her to hurt you. Sucks, but will be worth it.

Smile 03-18-2008 05:58 AM

This doesn't sound like she's putting on a pretense, but you never know. Talk to her...and if you have any friends that you can trust who know Emily, talk to them and see if she's told them anything. Suicide isn't the answer; if Emily is lying to you, you would be killing yourself for a girl who doesn't care about you and if she isn't, she and I'm sure many others would be hurt. Myspace is evil, and causes fights between people, that's why I don't use it, but that's my opinion.

Underwater Ophelia 03-18-2008 06:53 AM

I think she just wants an excuse to pal around with this other guy, and she just doesn't have the balls to tell you.

Metabolik 03-18-2008 11:33 AM

I'm going fucking mental at the moment...

KontanKarite 03-18-2008 11:51 AM

Dude....

I saw this shit coming. Sorry, man. I really am.

HumanePain 03-18-2008 11:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Metabolik
I'm going fucking mental at the moment...


I'm telling you man, talk to another girl about it. Some girls become very sympathetic when they hear about what you are going through. VERY sympathetic! :D Look at how many girls responded to you here in this thread!

KontanKarite 03-18-2008 11:58 AM

And boys too. Hell man, it's really bad, but it's not Armageddon.

Solumina 03-18-2008 12:05 PM

I know it really, really sucks but you will get through this and move on to better things *hugs*

Metabolik 03-19-2008 12:51 PM

Ok it's all sorted now, I feel much better...

Metabolik 03-20-2008 02:25 AM

HAHA And just as i'm feeling awesome again it all goes to shit.

Metabolik 03-20-2008 04:10 AM

Ok now shes having a go at me saying shes sick of people telling her what to do? I know i'm in the fucking right hee so what should I say...i don't know what to say :(

Wormboy 03-20-2008 11:19 AM

Oh oh! I know what you should say. GOODBYE! Then turn around and walk out of there like a bad-ass ^_^.

Apathy's_Child 03-20-2008 11:32 AM

Complaining about being told what to do is only a valid argument if the thing you're being told to do is unreasonable. When someone tells you not to treat them like an idiot and you whine, you show yourself to be vain, shallow, immature, and an all-around cunt. Tell her THAT from me.

Dude, seriously. DROP HER. Okay, you'll be miserable either way, but at least the misery of a breakup is short-lived. Stay with her and you'll wind up back where you are now, again and again.

KontanKarite 03-20-2008 11:48 AM

She wants to see homeboy. Plain and simple. Let it go. She's not yours and you're better off.

If you loved her, you'd want her to be happy, right?

ForgetThisLostLenore 03-20-2008 12:00 PM

Ok, I really, really, REALLY should not be giving others relationship advice (lol, see Rant Thread), but I really don't think she's right for you. You seem like an awesome guy, and you shouldn't have to go through the trouble and heartache of dealing with her crap.

Of course, again, my advice might be a tad...awful, but I'm better at giving others advice, and then not following it myself. I'll just say that the break-up is hard, it sucks, I know, I broke up with my "love" over a month ago, and I'm just managing to get back to my normal psychosis. But keep in mind that most of the time after you break up, you find out how much better off you are.

Hope everything works out for you, and good luck.

Stormtrooper of Death 03-20-2008 12:07 PM

I'm going to agree with Kontan and FTLN. I think you're better off with somebody who doesn't play mind games with you.

Tea and Cake or Death 03-20-2008 12:18 PM

You don't need a fickle toxic element running your life. Kick Little Miss Thinks-She-Can-Do-Whatever-She-Wants-Regardless-of-Who-it-Hurts to the curb.

ForgetThisLostLenore 03-20-2008 12:23 PM

Wow, Stormtrooper. Thanks for agreeing. But yeah, mind games aren't cool. My ex-boyfriend actually made me feel like everything wrong with us was my fault, and I was just so selfish. Needless to say, without him constantly belittling me, I'm actually a lot happier. So, it might seem like a bad thing at first, but you do realize that you're a lot happier.

You also realize how much time a boyfriend or girlfriend takes up. My boyfriend hated me sewing, reading, watching a movie with my mom, all because he wasn't there, and I wasn't on the phone with him. Trust me, a bad relationship is A LOT worse than being single.

Tea and Cake or Death 03-20-2008 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by ForgetThisLostLenore
Wow, Stormtrooper. Thanks for agreeing. But yeah, mind games aren't cool. My ex-boyfriend actually made me feel like everything wrong with us was my fault, and I was just so selfish. Needless to say, without him constantly belittling me, I'm actually a lot happier. So, it might seem like a bad thing at first, but you do realize that you're a lot happier.

You also realize how much time a boyfriend or girlfriend takes up. My boyfriend hated me sewing, reading, watching a movie with my mom, all because he wasn't there, and I wasn't on the phone with him. Trust me, a bad relationship is A LOT worse than being single.


My god, I cannot overly stress how right you are. It's like that whole second paragraph was written about me. Thank God we are both not like that anymore.

Stormtrooper of Death 03-20-2008 12:28 PM

Yeah, it takes a lot to make a relationship work. Be it a friendship or a romantic relationship. I still hate being single but, I've got other stuff to worry about, someday I too will contend with these issues once again.

ForgetThisLostLenore 03-20-2008 12:37 PM

Yes, I'm very happy now that I got rid of him. He's still very accusatory in the fact that he thinks that because I only took from the relationship, which I'm sorry, buying the other person stuff because you have the money to is not giving to the relationship, there's a lot more to a relationship then material items. But I'm very happy now, and I wouldn't change anything that I did. And I'm glad you're out of it too, Tea.

Stormtrooper of Death 03-20-2008 12:41 PM

I only had 1 gf, and it lasted 2 weeks, so it didn't last that long. But I'm glad we both are glad where we are.

Metabolik 03-22-2008 12:47 PM

You know what? Forget I ever had a girlfriend...i'm still going out with her because I love her, she apoligised to me...we both cried...etc.
Either way I don't want to hear anything from anyone about this matter again again...this thread is closed, good bye.

KontanKarite 03-22-2008 12:53 PM

Goodbye as in Goodbye, G.net or just goodbye to this thread?

Stormtrooper of Death 03-22-2008 05:38 PM

*starts slow clap* That was cool.

Metabolik 03-22-2008 06:11 PM

the only reason im doubting me and emilys relationship is because people keep filling my head with this shit...why is it impossible for two people my age to actually love eachother.
im not going on g.net anymore, good bye everyone (no im not fucking killing myself you fucking idiots) this entire site can kiss my ass.

Stormtrooper of Death 03-22-2008 06:20 PM

Dude just chill out. We're just giving you our opinion of what you could do. Just relax.

gothicusmaximus 03-22-2008 06:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Metabolik
the only reason im doubting me and emilys relationship is because people keep filling my head with this shit.

Also, she's dating another guy.

Crying_Crimson_Tears 03-22-2008 06:45 PM

Dude, she was 'pretending' to date someone else.

THAT IS BULLSHIT!!!!

The only girls I know do that to get some from someone else why leaving their other one behind just to make sure they have something to fall back on in case that relationship doesn't work out.

She is not in love with you.

KontanKarite 03-22-2008 06:59 PM

Meta, just know that you may feel angry at G.net and its contributors. But when the worst happens, we're still going to be the friends we've always been to you. At least, as much as people on the internet can be for you.

From my own personal experiences, I can already say that given the evidence you show and the way you're taking it, you're doing it all wrong. At least for yourself and at least for her.

blackwater1110 03-25-2008 06:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Stormtrooper of Death
*starts slow clap* That was cool.

Quote:

Originally Posted by gothicusmaximus
Quote:
Originally Posted by Metabolik
the only reason im doubting me and emilys relationship is because people keep filling my head with this shit.


Also, she's dating another guy.

As usual, I'm left in admiration of how funny you guys are. I'm still laughing as I type this.

As to the topic, I had a girl like this once. It ended very badly.

KontanKarite 03-25-2008 06:18 PM

Yep. I do enjoy Gothicus' stabbing, mousetrap like humor.


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