My parents are separating.
 

I was just told that my mom and stepdad are probably going to get a divorce. As of ten minutes ago my stepdad moved out. I don't really know what's certain anymore or what to do.

That positively sucks. Try avoiding being alone unless you absolutely need to. Go to the closest person to you that isn't a parent and just talk to them. Doesn't even have to be about this, just talk. Don't put yourself in a situation where you're going to feel alone. Just try to keep your chin up.

How long were they married? Could you tell their relationship was in trouble or was it a shock to you? Do you side with your mother? How close were you to your step-dad? Sorry to hear you are having to endure it.

Yeah, my sister's here with me so I'm not alone. I could tell they were having problems but they seemed so trivial at the time. They were married for almost twelve years, but I didn't really ever get close to my stepdad, so you could say I side with my mom. Thanks for the concern guys, it means a lot to me even though I don't know you. I just feel kind of confused. My stepdad gave us this long speech about what pushed him over the edge to finally move out, and none of it was pretty. I don't ever think I heard so much cursing in my life.

When my parents split up it was a surprise. When I was 17 I heard yelling one night upstairs, ran up to their bedroom to find my dad yelling at mom, and when he saw me he shut up and ran out of the house, and the next day moved out.

Mother told me later they had problems for years but refused to fight in front of us kids, and stayed together for us. But they both became a lot happier after the divorce.

So I feel for what you are going through. :hugs:

I think my parents will be happier too, now that I think about it. I feel bad for everyone who went through this so your hug has been taken and multiplied to all of gnet.

Porn heals everything.

You make me angry.

You're disgusting. Her mom and stepdad are splitting up and you go off talking about porn. I pity you.

@ Erotica: I'm so sorry about your situation. I hope you feel better.

Thanks, and I'm actually already better than the crying mess I was earlier. I feel like my parents will be better without each other and am currently packing up my crap into totes, just in case we have to move fast.

I'm glad you're feeling better. :)

Holy fuck.
Shade came in here saying his boyfriend died and he fucking asked if that meant they were together.
Megeara comes in here because her parents are separating and he fucking comes in here telling her that porn will heal it.
Worthless piece of shit.

I'm sorry to hear that, Megeara. Glad you're feeling better!

Shit gives the best advice. It knows that in the end, you just sit there stinking as pests eat you and shit you out.

Dude, being an edgy jerk on the internet is not cool in any way, shape, manner, or form.

It has been fucking done to death.

No one is impressed by your uninspired in-your-face attitude.

You haven't heard me talk about religion or the christian right then.

One of his sentences was actually:

"Your goddamned mother is such an fucking, cunt-licking whore who needs to go to hell, leave me the fuck alone.

Multiply that into a whole ten minute rant and you have my stepdad's reasons for leaving my mom.

Sounds exactly like my dad. Except he never left.
...

*hugs*

Aww, now I feel bad for you. Hugs to you too.

Eh, I don't really care. This was going on what... 6 years ago?
You shouldn't feel bad, you're going through this stuff now. *hugs*

I'm edgy? More liquid, I think.

I've begun crying again. I have a horrible crying face.

For what it's worth, I'm hoping something good comes out of what you're dealing with. Things will get better.

Why are you crying over someone who talked about your mother like that?

Ouch, razor-sharp wit you've got there, Albert Mond. Everytime you post, you are contributing an image in my mind of some sad old pervert that joins about fifty Internet forums and spends the rest of his time thinking of stupid shit to say to people on the said forums and watching porn because he doesn't have any real friends.

MegearaErotica, I hope you'll be all right and I wish I could do something. I have a friend whose mother has had three equally traumatic relationships and consequent break-ups, it does suck. Just remember to keep on living through it I guess.

It's pretty bad. I'm sorry to hear that.
How is your mom ?




You sound like Oprah.


"Are you happy ?"
"How's that make you feel ?" Blah blah blah... etc.. etc.. etc...

*bit of a rant*
Ophelia is right , doesnt matter how she migh have sounded . A guy like this deserve not even being talked about!
Megara , you are really lucky to be on the side of mom and sister .
Me , I was completly alone and trying to hide my feelings in front of everybody . They never were the perfect couple , but a cold , distant one , never got into a fight in front of me , but I remember myself wondering if other happier , communicative parents were the norm or the exception . I always knew something was wrong with them .
Someone told me I was lucky not to hear and see shit , but one is still seeing silence and feeling the bad vibrations between them ... I dont know which is worst , honestly ... You cant messure pain ...
To see your parents divorce makes you think that nothing is sure in this world and leaves you wondering about yourself and your future in relationships . Thats the worst part of it . You get over yelling and moving and such stuff with time and peoples support , but you should know you'll have to work it alone , you'll have still to fight with what happened a long long time , inside your mind .
Anyways , they get the divorce , not you . You got your mom and your sister . He is alone , and deserves it , because one must be a coward if hes saying that to the kids . He wasnt able to give you and your sister nothing , his yelling showed it .
Hope you , your sister and mom , get a better life after this . Your place is now with them , try to help each other and be there and you'll make it .
Lot of love for you , Meg .

So what.

They could both be dead.

Count your lucky blessings.

I'm not going to lie. I don't see this as a big deal. My parents are divorced and there's been a lot of nasty stuff involved between the two, but I really didn't find it that troubling. Even so, unlike Sir over here. I can understand why this may be hard for someone else. Everyone's limits and trials are different in life. I offer you my condolences. Though you should not be upset over a guy that says those things to your mother.

Why are we all "Oh how could he say those things about your mother?" What if her mother is a fucking cunt-licking whore (as his pejorative term, not as if I think those things suck)?

Even if she were , he should keep his opinion to himself , not yell at the kids .
Enough barmen and psych. are there for him .

Because parents should not talk about the other like that near their children. Do you know how damaging that can be?
And how immature?
My mom did that with my dad almost my whole life.
But my dad only made one negative comment about her to us and he apologized because he understood why it was not the right thing to do.

Same with my dad, I can't stand talking to him very long because he'll go on and on about what a cunt my mom is, its painful to hear namely because I love my mom very much, and on the other hand, THEY DIVORCED TEN YEARS AGO. Its absolutely ridiculous that he has a new family but still feels the need to take a jab at my mom. And he told my little brother all sorts of things, that mom is a slut and left him for another man.

*Hugs* Megeara, I know its going to be tough, but your stepdad sounds like a real douche bag, good riddance. But yes this is still going to cause pain. How is your mom handling it? How are your siblings?

Sorry M, I am sure its a very difficult time even if it sounds like you maybe better off without your step dad if he says things like that about your mother in front of you.

Hopefully after a while things will end up being better than they were before he left.

Hear hear.

I hope you feel better soon megeara.

Sorry to hear that, M. Been through it myself.

Hope everything ends up alright, I'll say a prayer for you and your sister.

You'll be okay,

Seeing that you weren't close to you're stepdad you could get throught this.

HOW do we even know that this is even true?

Could it even be possible that someone is telling blatent bullshit in the vain persuit of some egotistical game that we are unaware of?

I don't trust OP.

Good for you?

Meg I'm sorry to hear that you are going through such a hard time. It really does sound like this is best for everyone so just try to focus on the positives.

I could paint you a really vivid image of **** and ***** if it was allowed by the censor.

I'm sure that someone of your vast intellect could find away around that, as for why you would want to do such a thing, I have no idea

try to think of the positives. my mom and stepdad split up about half a year ago and i like it so much better like this. i didnt hate my stepdad but i have so much more freedom now

Freddy like Kruger?

yes i love him

Then, we'll have our post count going up.


What can go wrong with saying "Sorry to hear, it's sound bad. hang in there"?

We might get taken advantage of...you know, in that totally wasting-calories-to-type way. The horror. The horror.