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are you the black sheep of your family, and why
ok this is th place in which you may if you feel so inclined post you synopsis of the relationship you have with your family, or to state this in a way that is diferent from the previous statment, are you the black sheep of your family and why.
to start; I am the black sheep of my family not because i am a sheep but because i dont fit in. That being said i dont speak like they do, i dont think like they do, and some times i wonder if i am actualy related to them. so to ease the tension i simply stay far far away from them. now you try. |
First of all i think this should have been a Whining thread.
Second...i guess i am a blacksheep in the herd of lambs that is my family. i dont think like them at all, i guess thats why i'm the only member of my entire family that spends my time on gothic.net. They are all Catholics that never question their faith or any kind of authority. They also vote strictly along party lines...i do not. They are naive in thinking that i am the proverbial "good one", yet i know better. No, i am not the black lamb of my family, i am merely the friendly wolf stalking the shadows preying on other herds of sheep. -ViNce- |
Nope, my family loves me even if they do think me a bit eccentric
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my appologies for my drunken miscommunication. i had recently,and by recently a mean a minute ago, discovered that a black sheep is one who is or has been disoned by ones family. that is not the definition in which my drunken self had thought of at the time of writing this thread. I had confusingly concluded that black sheep meant to be vastly diferent than. this is of course completely untrue. now due to my current inability to think of a word that best deskribes this concept i will leave the original post as it is . but to say that for the purpose of this thread we will define "black sheep" as one who is vastly diferent than. and yes i am in fact loved deerly by those of my family. given this clarification this should still be listed as a general thread and not some random musing. I appologise for any miscommunicaton. you may continue the thread as i intended
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Nope, I'm the Sexual Sheep of my family. http://img69.imageshack.us/img69/5635/sheep1qn.gif
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I have a love hate relationship with my mother (who doesn't?). I suppose I am different fromt he previous generation of my family, but my mother's side, anyway, is full of crazy, different women. My sister is also somewhat of a dark personality (she write angsty poettry. However, unlike me, she writes good angsty poetry).
So, erm. . .I like to think of myself as a red-plaid sheep anyway. that would be defined as someone who is the only person in their family who has the abition to pull off red plaid skirts, btw. *grin* |
Indeed I am. I'm not exactly smart and I'm the only one who doesn't get straight A's among my siblings. I'm also a late bloomer, it takes me a while to get around things. I didn't turn out to be one of God's beautiful beings either, I just have all the leftovers.
I have never been outgoing nor do I have many friends. I don't like people that much. I feel that there's "competition" in my family. And I'm not even competitive!! Then I get mad at myself for actually caring. I wish I could be more like them sometimes. It would be so much easier if I were the only child. Gentle and passive describe me best, whereas my mom and brother are aggressive and firm. If you met my brother and I you would die of shock. I'm night and he's day. I'm organized and clean unlike my family, I mean they're pigs! I clean up after them and take up most of the house chores. I have to because I'm OCD. All I need is Andrew Eldritch sitting at the kitchen table smoking a clove and demanding dinner, and I'm already a house wife. :lol: What my family and most people would find sad and strange is that I actually manage to be happy. (Many find me to be distant and uninteresting. They think "How can she survive such a boring life? What a loser!!") Not that it bothers me but at least I know. The only gene I carry from my family is being artistic. |
My mom and my stepdad are the black sheep of the family. They are quite childish, selfish, and my stepdad can be quite abusive. I, on the other hand, have a steady job, go to school, can pay all the bills, clean up after myself and don't drown myself in hard drugs and alcohol. And my sister is a black sheep too. Silly family members.
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Does red-plaid indicate a sheep who mauls the English language when they type? If so, there are two of you here. :roll:
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English deserves to be mauled sometimes. It's worse than German. I mean I'd probably kill myself if I had to learn it as a second language. It would be a true pain in the ass.
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Hey now! Don't make me take out the *Diplomacy-Bat*, people!
<--- Is certainly no sheep.................................... V""V |
Yes, don't let this become an argument over the already fragile grammer of the english language. And to stay on topic...
I can say that I am th "black sheep" of my family on the account that I am th eonly one who dares to wear black on anything other than a funeral. I am also the only one that could care less about what others think about me... Other reasons can be noted but it seems to become repeditive.*sigh* |
:wink: You guys are priceless...
I am not the black sheep of my family, my family is "The Black Sheep Family. :lol: " (Talking about birth family, not my Wife and kids). All growing up, my Aunts & Uncles were all rich and successful, my cousins were all preppy, and then there was US. I think that all stemmed, in part, to the fact that my father took a carreer that he loved (teaching) as opposed to one that paid well, like all my uncles. If anyone in my family growing up earned the title of "black sheep" that honor belongs to my brother. By the time he was done pissing off my parents, I could pretty well do whatever I wanted. |
I think I qualify because I'm apparently this "hippy liberal" and my now ex-stepdad wanted to kick me out of the house because of it! Is it so wrong to hate war and just wish everyone could get along? Maybe I'm just the black sheep of my immediate family- my grandpa agrees with a lot of my views. My mom's a really fundamentalist Christian and agrees with Bush because of that and she opposes abortion (well, I do too, but I'll allow for exceptions like incest or ****). It annoys be to no end that she doesn't look at the whole picture and only votes for someone because they're a Christian or they oppose abortion.
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You should only vote for people that offer you free breakfast in the morning!
Eh, not to thread-jack, but sometimes war is a necessary evil. |
I guess I'm the "black sheep" (grey sheep?) of my family because the rest of them tend to follow mainstream society. I like to wear black and bright colours together, and the rest of my family wears very very subdued clothes (lots of pale colours, preferably neutral). I'm more artistic than the rest of my family; they're a bunch of scientists and engineers and mathematicians and all that. I'm also more tolerant of other cultures and lifestyles than most of my family.
Ah well, I tolerate them, so... *shrugs* |
Let's see.......
Completely diffrent from rest of family...... Check Artistic......... in heart, check, in talent......next Moody.........when I can't find weed, so check. Comfortable in the lower forms of society...... check for now Unable to live happily with a 40 hour a week job at $14 an hour.... big fucking check About to join the coast guard (that dinky little branch of the military), and completely piss off every man in the family (who think that I should stay home and work in the plant for the rest of my life), just to be able to run away from this shitty, shitty little town/state...... check (sorry, should have taken this to whinning) Black Sheep.......... Nope Soon to be invisiable sheep who never seem to please anyone other than himself.......check |
Sorry to hear that, Plane!
I don't think there's anything wrong with joining the coastguard. Yeah, except for the teensy lil fact that you just finished your tour of duty, but hell, if you're that bored........... Why don't you just move? |
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yeah. definitely the black sheep. i have tons of reasons, but the main thing that sets me apart is i had no desire to stay in a backwards town in a backwards state and hate minorities just because they're not white and uneducated (in other words "them -insert racial slur here- aint like us").
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Aww E_E... the little baby ducks falling through the thingie makes me sad. :(
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well, here's a blunt-smokin' fool to lighten your heart and make you laugh again...
http://www.robins-world.com/TheMarch/DSCN2392.JPG |
Oh yeah... much better :wink:
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That guy's bogartin'!
Come on! Pass the toochie on the left hand side! 8) |
It's like something out of a movie. One of my little brothers drives a BMW and goes to Cal Poly, the other plays football and get's straight A's. They're both hardcore preps, and my conservative parents just don't understand how one of their kids turned out to be an eyeliner wearing, drug dealing sexual deviant.
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I'm like... at least tenth in line to be black sheep of my family. Well, my mom's side anyway. My dad's side just doesn't like us for some reason, and we don't know them... except for my grandmother, who called me a goul with no maternal instinct. My brother's probably the black sheep. He's a succesful scientist that doesn't have any mental disorders besides dyslexia. My family is one big chemical imbalance, but at least we can laugh about it.
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I'm definitely the black sheep in my family. All of my younger siblings play some sort of sport, but I'm heavily involved in music. Singing, composing, playing instruments. The whole nine yards. I was just never very athletic. I also tend to be the quieter one in the family. I don't ask for much. I just sit at the computer or at my keyboard and work on my music. I've got a job so I don't really need to ask for money there either. As far as things go with my parents. My dad (being a pastor of a church) hates many of the things I wear and alot of the music I listen to. I told him off on the music part, basically told him to either give up preaching and compose music, or respect musicians for their art. As far as the clothing goes, he hasn't confronted me directly about it, but has been badgering my mom about it. My mom, she's a sunday school teacher, but she doesn't really mind the music I listen to or the clothes I wear as long as I'm not out smoking weed and drinking. Though she did have a little annoying moment where she thought faeries and elves were satanic. I was like "Okay, just because this is a new age store doesn't mean it's satanic". My mom is cool about stuff like that though, it's just my dad that I have to worry about, on the odd occasion that he's actually gotten off his ass and done something other than sleep on the couch, flip through the five television channels we get or sticking his nose into various bible texts. Those are my ramblings for today.
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I was labeled as such during three different events:
#1) I became Wiccan. They thought I was worshipping Satan. The folks got over it. #2) I became Gothic. They once again thought I was worshipping Satan. The folks got over it. #3) I became engaged to my boyfriend at age 18 and moved in with him two weeks after doing so. They began to believe my boyfriend was Satan. :) They still have yet to get over this one, but they're learning to cope. I don't really give a hell what they say about me or how I live, so it's not like I was "hurt" by their disapproval. |
I think that I THINK I'm the black sheep of the family.(Probably doesn't make sense when you read it does it?) I'm pretty much diffrent from everyone else in my family. They're all devout catholics and I'm pretty much an atheist haven't stepped foot in a churcxh for over six years. Although my opinions may differ from my family's from time to time (most of the time) They still accept me for who I am and all my weird and eccentric ways.
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im the black sheep because my mother is catholic and im a satanist she doesnt treats me very nicely (if u get my drift) shes a shit under my shoe and i am the new rock that crushes her...sorry about that...anywAY MY DAD IS DEAD AND MY STEPDAD IS A CUNT end of
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I probably would consider myself more a black sheep than my family would consider me as such. I always get the discrimination in my family as being the "good" one because I always got halfway decent grades in school and have never done drugs and all that sort of things. Yet I feel a very real disconnect from most of my family, and in fact I don't really like most of my family to begin with. Not just parents, but siblings and other relatives too. I've always felt a bit isolated from the rest of the world.
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I am the BLACK sheep for I wear BALCK; usually and they expect me to do otherwise.
I am the black sheep for I can go without yelling and screaming my freakin head off, for no fucking reason, with the other members of the family for atleast two freaking minutes. I am the black sheep for I know how sick it is to abuse your children physically and mentally, and will never do so to myself when/if have kids. I am the black sheep for many other reasons unexplainable in words, and things i cant even remember right now. I am the black sheep because I hate them, I've always wanted to stab them while they were asleep, right through the chest; and burn the bodies. YES, I am the black sheep :) |
I am the "black sheep" of my family, in a way. My father's side, along with my father, have completely disowned me and forgotten (are trying to forget) that I exsist in any way, shape, or form. My mother's side is pretty small but the ones that have not seen me in the past couple of years don't know who I am or what I look like for the fact I think school pictures are completely and utterly pointless. (Sorry to get off topic) I am the only person in my family that makes any sense and the only goth. My mom is cool and so is my stepdad but the rest of my family, I just don't know... *grrs*
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I try to be the black sheep cus I don't get along with my parents at all... but they're just too damn tolerant. fucking hippies >_<
only the time they thought I supported the KKK, they really got angry. I was just doing a school project ^_^ My Mums sister and her branch of the family I really don't get along with though. Fake-sweet fucks :/ but none of us really do, anyway... |
I'm not the black sheep. I did stuff that my parents didn't agree with. I accepted atheism as the most logical religious philosophy (I suppose that's appropriate terminology). However, against that, my parents and I both heavily investigated the Buddhist faith despite all of us having been raised under the Christian way (my father is a Protestant turned agnostic and my mother is a Catholic that imbues her faith with much of the Buddhist philosophies). My father has had his struggles with depression, and even with neglectful parents. I count myself very fortunate for having been born into such a wonderful family, regardless of whether or not they've been over-zealous in their concern for me.
I do have some qualities that some might consider as making me the black sheep of the family, but I personally believe that since my parents have done everything in their power to accept me as who and what I am and what I choose to do (as they realize I have a fairly wondrous capacity for doing what is right) I am no more a black sheep than any of they. Hell, it's not like my sister and I are much different, we're just two people with similar world views on seemingly opposite ends of the social spectrum. |
I am one of the black sheeps in my family for the fact I cant stand beinhg around a bunch of people who are fake to one another. They say stuff behind everyone elses backs, its so stupid. So I stoped going to family events for 3 years, however I went to last years thanks giving and it ended for me when my uncle wanting to fist fight me. He wanted to because his kids could not keep their mouth shut, and when I told them of this they got mad at me and cried to the dad. I told him exactly what I told them and smiled he went to punch me while I moved he hit the chair and fell over, I then laughed and walked up stairs and said good bye while laughing and walked out, right as I was walking out I was told to get back in so I just flipped them all off. They did not like that one bit, it was quite funny watching their response.
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don't you actually need a family to be the black sheep of one??
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Black Sheep? more like white sheep in a black family... not being racist it took me 2 years to realize it....
I live in a foster home of all the places and the people i live with are all moari love hip hop and im white as snow love heavy metal/rock. My foster mum wont let me go completely goth though i buy things behind her back and dress my way when shes not around. Anyway my real family me and my brother like the same music so im not completely the black sheep there.... And now that i think of it i'm the only one i know whos gothic at my school in my small town.... |
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I guess I could call my self the blacksheep of my family although my eldest neice is what 'normal' society would call strange also, I myself have never been one to follow rules, which wasn't any good when I was in school becaue I attended an all girls catholic school, I like to dress like a boy, to the dislike of my boyfriend but he puts up with me, I'm now only starting to along with my mother as she is finally coming around to my lifestyle. We did have a huge falling out when I was 15, because I started to use drugs, and like most controlling parents they put me in rehab and I'm now clean but only on special ocassions I will smoke a little dope. It can be hard sometimes at family gatherings because none of my sisters have really forgiven me for taking drugs and don't really talk to me much, but shit happens I surpose. No one is perfect, except maybe for my four year old who is totally perfect in every way for she is also an individual and knows what she likes and what she wants and it's not barbie dolls thank the goddess.
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I suppose so. My older cousins have both gone to top colleges, met political icons, and gotten top paying jobs, and all without a single cavity. And my parents never let me forget it. But I'm a dramatic and eccentric nonconformist, and I'm looking for stardom. I like to try anything different, and though I may not be visually gothic(Mom won't let me), I'm dark and different. Still don't know where I got that from...
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I suppose I am the black sheep in the sense that I am completely different form the rest of my family, who all seem to share roughyl the same ideals, etc. But it doesnt mean that I am outcasted from them. Infact, I get along with all my family now more than I ever have.
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All I can say is that I'm the smartest one in my family. I don't know if that makes me a black sheep. I just don't fit in. I'm not like all of them. I'm the odd ball of the family. I think different from them. I had a rough life I must say.
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I have always believed that those who have suffered most in life are the ones that turn out to be the nicest. Some might disagree with me but that's ok. It's a shame to be raised by assholes. Abuse is terrible. I'm sure alot of people can sympathize with me on that one. My step father was the biggest Jerk in the world tell he was guned down in a drug raid. I let the Gods take care of it. What comes around goes around. You don't go through this world unpunished for your crimes. http://www.marvunapp.com/Appendix/devors6.gif
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Glad to hear you got your justice.. I wonder what punishment could be severe enough for my so called parents.. |
Hmmm, Blacksheep, I dunno. My parents are bot catholics and we do the whole "yay it's sunday CHURCH" Sort of thing but I'm not into God, there is no god. I'm the only one in my entire family and circle of close family friends (not a large family) that likes Cradle of filth and the such except for a cousin on my Dad's side, don't know about her...never had much to do with her. She moved out of my uncles house at 14 and joined the circus...literally. My parents hate the music I listen to and my Mum cried when I said I didn't believe in God. All my teachers think I'm going through a "phase" but I know better. It's been going on longer then they think. I'm also the only one in my family etc that laughs at death and inhumane slughter. They think I'm sick...but I dont care Ah well...I suppose I am the black sheep...well not as black as my cousin, maybe I am just a differnt sort of black. She's the black that wears clown hats and I'm the balck that wears fishnets.
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