Dressing Too Young?
 

I've been doing some self-evaluation lately, and wonder if I'm dressing too young for my age. Just for those who don't know, I'm 21. I like to wear a lot of jeans and silly t-shirts like Ruby Gloom and that. It seems like most of the other girls at my school have a more sophisticated look going on, like khakis and button-down shirts. My boyfriend once asked me,"What are you- thirteen?" Should I "grow up" and dress nicer?

Well, since 30 is the new 20, (according to some crap i saw on vh1 the other day), i don't see anything wrong with it. 21 isn't that old. you're still wet behind the ears, so to speak. ;-) maybe just update the material that's on the t-shirts. make it more provocative. :-D

Huh, that sounds like a good idea!

I believe that you are as young as you think you are. Dress however you want. Just be tasteful.

Hmmmm...
I wear silly t-shirts
With short floofy skirts
Striped tights
Big stompy boots
My hair in ponytails

And I'm 30.

I don't give one half a damn what everyone else my age (or any other age) is wearing. I wear what I like.

I personally don't think of khakis and button-down shirts as sophisticated. I think of them as BORING. I think I would become physically ill if I had to wear them.

Lastly, no offense to your boyfriend, but I pity the guy who ever criticized me like that. I'd probably dump his ass. :P

If you're wearing clothes that make you feel good, keep wearing them. If you feel pressured to fit in, well... I feel sorry for you.

conformity bites

I do what I want.

I highly reccomend it. If people don't like you how you are, they don't like you. Deal with it. It's not that bad really. Think about things this way: most people are cattle, most people won't like you if you aren't cattle also. Do you WANT to be a herded used creature?

Also, if you're overweight, khakis make you look like a giant potato.

Don't be that guy.

And...

Is that a trick question?

Wouldn't you like to know?

1/ Jeans and various t-shirts are what I wear when I'm not in work, and I'm pushing forty. If you think the t-shirts are a bit 'silly' try less 'branded' t-shirts try 'Alchemy' or Offworld designs - though, again, nothing gets between me and my 'little goth girl' t-shirt.

2/ As previously stated, button-down shirts and khakis aren't 'sophisticated'. You want to dress a bit older? Try tailored trousers and silk blouses, or chinese tops and straight skirts - whatever suits you. But don't assume you have to dress like the other girls. It may suit them, it may not suit you.

3/ Giving your bf the benefit of the doubt, maybe what he wants is a more 'dressed-up' gf occasionally. Speak to him - maybe get him to help you pick out less casual clothes. For ideas, look in Cosmo or other upmarket women's mags - your local library should have copies if you don't want to shell out the £2-3 (about $5?) for them, and you can always photocopy anything interesting. I got a few ideas from them myself - admittedly, it was for a high-elf LARP character, but then I am fairly wierd. Even by Goth standards.

onnixx -

is this the same guy who said he wouldn't have sex with you or something along that line if you cut your hair a while back?

i say - time to dump the bum.

Oh god, I can't remember if he said he wouldn't have sex with me, but I came to realize that short hair actually makes my face look fat, so it was to my own benefit to grow it out. And to me, the whole button-down/khaki thing is for when I'm on the job as a cub reporter for the school newspaper. I've decided I'm gonna take his requests and do them or not do them as I please. I have a right to dress the way I want to and I'm gonna do it!

It's not a matter of looking sophisticated/trendy/harlot.

Even now, a lot of women my age (33) don't have a clue as to how to look FEMININE...

Feminine, people. Not anything else, just feminine...

It doesn't have to be an everyday thing, but once in a while, pleeeease....

I'm curious what you mean by looking "feminine." Can you expound and/or give examples?

Well, feminine is the opposite of masculine. But then, aren't man-like clothing items supposed to be in for women this season? Maybe I'm reading too much Glamour/Cosmopolitan.

I find that I dress much too young. For instance, I'm not wearing any clothes right now.

Umm, that's not dressing too young. For one thing, you're not even dressed! Secondly, you don't have to be young to be naked.

When you are first introduced to the world, what are you wearing? Nothing; exactly. Well, unless you want to get into the context of the bithday suit, in which case, I'm dressed completely in birthday suit attire.

Huh, I guess you do have a point there. *bows humbly*

You can't beat wearing black...heck,you never have to worry about your clothes matching in the morning for one.