Thank you for the welcome.
I'm in San Diego. The clubs I generally go to here are De Sade and Sabbat. There is also Sin Factory (more stompy, less swirly), Underworld, and Gimme Gimme Gimme, as well as Klub Therapy, which I haven't been to in years. It's said to be pretty dead these days, but not in the fun Las Vegas way.
Ascension is another club with really good music, but the venue is very small. How many goths can fit on the head of a pin? Just count whoever manages to fit on the dancefloor. I wish they'd get a bigger venue, because Robin spins there a lot, and she is just very good.
To be honest, I'm taking a break from clubs for a while, but De Sade has rarely dissappointed me musically, and Sabbat is also always good for dancing, especially when Drew, Robin or Tym are spinning. They spin enough old school to make me happy.
I would recommend my good friend Lady Noir's website
socalgoth.com for info on the clubs and events in So Cal. She's been on the web from very early on. It was actually a phone line she ran for the community before the web came into more common usage.