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Originally Posted by MollyMac
Heya Crimson, I actually worte a lengthy, insightful post but then I had to reboot. Simply put, before you do anything, examine why you no longer desire him in a physical manner- is it because of something intrinsic about your friend (like, great guy, but that he eats baby seals is a turn off) or that he is, simply, male?
While I detest relating any of this due to your age, I recall you being younger. I will not say "you are too young, you don't know what you are feeling, yadda etc and so on", (that is bullshit) I will say that you probably have a lot going on with life, liberty and the general pursuit of hormones. And this is one more thing, ya know? Adds to the muddles mess of confusion that I vaguely remember my teen years to be.
Don't dwell. Basically, you are who you are and will become what you will become. BUT, i would clue the boy in. If you are leaning more towards the lesbian end of the spectrum, he may already have an inkling. Sometimes, people will surprise the holy hogfuck out of you.
If he has been a good friend and boyfriend, he does deserve honesty. Even if you aren't certain if the problem is him or the Y Chromosome in general, try to keep it as close to the facts as you know.
At any rate, its not an easy place to find oneself, I can imagine. Just take it easy, examine it all, but don't overthink it. You have time to sort it out.
Or, call up Ted Haggard and friends. They have lectures, support groups, and electrodes that can make you straight. :P
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