Man, Splintered, I'm sorry your camp experiences have been so horrible. Even so-called "boot camps" are still supposed to have an element of fun to them. At the very least, the kids are supposed to feel safe. I know I don't exactly know you, but this actually pisses me off that those counselors would do that to you.
I'm fairly positive though, band camp is not boot camp. Your girlfriend's biggest worries are likely to be no more than missing you and her family, and maybe being annoyed at the kid in the top bunk who likes to lean over the side and pretend to throw up. Can she send letters while she's there? Maybe next time she's off at camp, she can bring some paper and envelopes and send you a letter or two to let you know she's being treated fairly.
As far as "getting past this", I might suggest finding a way to have a positive camp experience. Maybe try a day camp deal at first, one of those things where you learn how to ride a horse, or go on nature hikes to learn about the area and how to read trail signs. You'll be dealing with the counselors still, but you get to go home at the end of the day. And no one's making you go back the next morning. If something like that works out, you could then try a sleepaway camp. Talk to friends who have gone, find out which ones are supposed to be the most fun, there are a lot of different programs out there for all ages and all kinds of people. And it's all voluntary. Once you know firsthand that camp isn't always such a negative experience, the thought won't frighten you as much and you can relax a bit.
Also, have you talked to a doctor about the possibility of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder? I'm no psychiatrist, but I think being so scared two years after the fact points to things being a bit more serious.
I wish you the best of luck in working through this, buddy.
