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Originally Posted by Tam Li Hua
Granted, one can not hide from idiots forever, but that doesn't mean one must succumb to them either.
As for the stereotype of "It's okay for a guy, but not for a girl!", I guess what I'm looking for is a bit of a more specific example: When did this actually happen? What was the story behind it? Is this -really- how most people think? And so on.
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Maybe not MOST people, but a hell of a lot. And like I said, I don't even think it's a conscious thing usually, which is even scarier.
People won't actually come out and say, "oh, that's not cool, she's a GIRL", but I tend to find a double standard if you look at the subtext of many situations. Ok, example - and I'm not gonna touch the guys, as everyone already knows how sexist THEY can be. I live with my girlfriend, and a roommate who's a friend of mine. She has people over a lot, so her friends regularly see me, hungover, in my underwear, rubbing my eyes, coming down, sometimes showing a little more than they probably care to see. They don't mind. They think it's funny, even cute. Yet I once heard them ripping one of their number to fucking shreds because they were sunbathing, and this girl had a tiny little bit of hair sticking out of her bikini. They were so revolted by her inability to shave herself properly, they practically took it as a personal affront.
Also, I never heard any of my guy friends call a girl a slut or similar, outright. It's not PC for guys to say it. Yet I've lost count of the number of times I've heard girls talking about one another that way. These attitudes have become so deeply engrained in our culture, that we can now rely on women to enforce them.