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SPC,
First of all, yes it is possible to love someone so much it hurts. Yes it is possible to look past their faults. Yes you are being codependent and you are enabling this person's unacceptable behavior, and yes you have received some excellent advice here. I suggest you take it. However, it is easy to give advice when you are outside of the relationship, and very hard to take that advice when you are inside it. Unless you are an amazingly strong person, extricating yourself will be difficult. Realizing that you are in a bad relationship is the first step. My suggestion would be to find someone you can trust and go stay with that person for awhile, because you need to distance yourself from the relationship so you can 'get your head on straighter.' Preferably that trusted friend should be of the same gender and preferably someone who will not try to hit on you, which will only make matters worse. (The reason I suggest this is because a bad relationship can be emotionally addictive, and you will need someone to help you get through the 'withdrawal' symptoms). Good luck and hang in there.
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