[Solumina]

I'm very sorry that he wont go to therapy with you as it seems like there is a good chance that it would help. I am, however, quit glad that you want to go on your own as you therapist should be able to help you come up with ways to get through to your husband and help him to appreciate the things that you do, but in a way that doesn't make him feel like an ass (even if he is being one), because if he feels like an ass he will just get defensive and more obnoxious.