[secretboy]

In my senior year of high school, some of the popular kids went through similar changes. It's all part of growing up and figuring out who they are. Some of them became a LOT less superficial. I consider that a good thing.

The dangerous thing is if you don't want other people in the 'scene' because you want to feel special and different. If you feel resentful about other people joining because you feel less different.

In high school I was a nerdy, depressed kid who listened to a lot of Siouxsie and the Dead Kennedies. But I wasn't considered 'punk' simply because the group of punks didn't want me in their 'scene'. I couldn't care less...the only reason I wanted to hang out with them was so I could talk about music with them anyways. So, I didn't hang out with them. Big deal. But to them, it was a big deal.

In college, people called me 'goth' because I dressed in black and the music I listened to. I had no idea what it meant. By senior year, freshmen were coming to me asking me if so-and-so was 'really' goth, and I wondered why the hell I was suddenly an authority. Who am I to say what is or isn't 'goth', who am I to say that some 'prep' you despise has an older sister turning them on to VNV Nation or the poetry of Baudelaire.

Who knows, maybe that cheerleader is wearing black because she's sick of playing those social games and thinks that dressing in black will show the world that. Or maybe she thinks it's 'cool'. Or maybe she's pleased she's getting your panties in a wad by doing so. Or maybe she's heard black is slimming. Who knows?

MorbidBunny's quote was appropriate for a while, but I really need to change my .sig, I think.