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triggerhappi26 · 05-28-2010, 08:47 AM

You know alot of people list BDSM but in real BDSM it's much more different than described. Seems like people are talking about what BDSM has been assumed to be, these dungeon dumbs dressed in pvc or leather holding a whip and saying something like "Are you looking to get punished?"

Hell No!!!

That's not bdsm any more than strippers are burlesque dancers.

First off you'd NEVER hit someone with a full length whip, it's only for aesthetic purposes ONLY, there's simply not enough control in a whip that you'd end up harming beyond a pleasurable purpose. Use a flogger, paddle or riding crop, there's more control and less likely to do real harm.

Second a real Domme would NEVER say "are you looking to get punished" it's completely counter productive. The Domme WANTS to be obeyed, she wants control that is her fetish, just the same as the sub WANTS to be controlled. The only reason you'd ever punish a sub is for disobediance. A punishment is exactly that you're being punished it's something NOT pleasurable.

For example, a punishment could be almost like a time out, not being allowed to be touched or touch yourself for days. Not necessarily getting beaten, that would never be a punishment if the sub enjoys pain.

So the act of BDSM is a scene, this is put off almost like a great dance, using tools, toys, and other objects at the Dommes disposal. There can be paddling, spanking and so on in a scene again only if it is a fetish of the sub, or the Domme and as long as it stays within the subs limits. Also a proffessional Domme would never have sex with her subs. Sex in a scene is only done when it's partners, like a boyfriend and girlfriend.

Finally the main objective is subspace, some would call it achieving nirvana. Really all it is, is when the submissives body creates chemicals that makes a high. To the inexperienced this is DANGEROUS, it's addictive as any drug, but to those who can use it, it's a gift given from a Domme to her subs.

Should probably make people relist their fetish to say "bondage" os "pain" or something more fitting than BDSM.

05-28-2010, 08:47 AM	#731
triggerhappi26 Join Date: May 2010 Location: Here and There Posts: 259	You know alot of people list BDSM but in real BDSM it's much more different than described. Seems like people are talking about what BDSM has been assumed to be, these dungeon dumbs dressed in pvc or leather holding a whip and saying something like "Are you looking to get punished?" Hell No!!! That's not bdsm any more than strippers are burlesque dancers. First off you'd NEVER hit someone with a full length whip, it's only for aesthetic purposes ONLY, there's simply not enough control in a whip that you'd end up harming beyond a pleasurable purpose. Use a flogger, paddle or riding crop, there's more control and less likely to do real harm. Second a real Domme would NEVER say "are you looking to get punished" it's completely counter productive. The Domme WANTS to be obeyed, she wants control that is her fetish, just the same as the sub WANTS to be controlled. The only reason you'd ever punish a sub is for disobediance. A punishment is exactly that you're being punished it's something NOT pleasurable. For example, a punishment could be almost like a time out, not being allowed to be touched or touch yourself for days. Not necessarily getting beaten, that would never be a punishment if the sub enjoys pain. So the act of BDSM is a scene, this is put off almost like a great dance, using tools, toys, and other objects at the Dommes disposal. There can be paddling, spanking and so on in a scene again only if it is a fetish of the sub, or the Domme and as long as it stays within the subs limits. Also a proffessional Domme would never have sex with her subs. Sex in a scene is only done when it's partners, like a boyfriend and girlfriend. Finally the main objective is subspace, some would call it achieving nirvana. Really all it is, is when the submissives body creates chemicals that makes a high. To the inexperienced this is DANGEROUS, it's addictive as any drug, but to those who can use it, it's a gift given from a Domme to her subs. Should probably make people relist their fetish to say "bondage" os "pain" or something more fitting than BDSM.