[Ben Lahnger]

Originally Posted by triggerhappi26

I love people like you Ben will you be my friend?

Sure, why not!

Originally Posted by KissMeDeadly

I do understand it's irrational, and this is why I don't ask about previous sexploits. Because if I don't know about them, they won't bother me. Hell, I could have been with a woman who has been in an meth induced pool-side orgy bukkake fest, but I wouldn't know.

I'm just going to leave this at that. I'm not going to change my feelings at the drop of a hat, or at the drop of a message on gnet. I do appreciate you going at this logically, unlike Trigger who apparently thinks I'm a piece of shit for feeling differently than her (I think trigger is a girl, I could be wrong).

Well, I think she probably doesn't think that but probably does wish you were more open minded. I do understand that we're all wired differently, and that's why I commented on it logically. I wasn't trying to make you feel bad or even make the point that there was anything wrong about your feelings ... just that they had the potential to be limiting to you in the future.

I keep trying to convince my SO that she'd be a lot more healthy if she included more vegetables in her diet, but her mother totally ruined it for her. Her mother made vegetables plain, with no seasoning or even butter or salt ... and my SO was made to eat everything on her plate. For the most part she can't stand them ... she can tolerate the occasional green bean if she has to, and potatoes are fine but hardly the most nutritious of vegetables.

So at this point, I say simply and lovingly that I want her to be healthy for a long time, and it would be nice if she tried to get more vegetables in her diet, but I understand that just wanting it to be so is not enough to change that deeply embedded programming. And we make sure she gets vitamin supplements.

Sometimes you just have to respect that the way someone is wired is the way they are. And you adjust as best you can.