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Originally Posted by Versus
From my understanding of this, it's "What you think you would do" and "What you actually do." I want to say that, right now, they align pretty well. There isn't really any disharmony in my intentions and actions. My problem is that my intentions aren't congruent with my interpretation of a good person.
Maybe. I don't really feel "traumatized." I think it's something that just developed from thinking a certain way, or experiencing certain situations. Like a habit, I think.
Normally, I might be inclined to agree with you, but I don't in this instance. I agree that actions speak louder then words, but:
1) My concern is not that others see my response, but what my response is in the first place.
2) My true feelings become very apparent in closing relationships because they dictate my behavior. Words, as well as actions.
I'm a very... expressive person. I have difficulty lying to people or faking enthusiasm. I can tweak my behavior to lubricate interaction, but only to a certain degree. I don't mean to say I can't function without expressing myself, but more that I have difficulty insincerely apologizing, for example.
But like I said, what I'm asking is how we can forcefully change how we look at the world.
It's nothing like that. I'm not in any kind of distress. Thank you, though.
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I think I know what you're talking about then. But if you want to change the way you look at the world, you have to consider that maybe you don't have all the answers, which is more honest and leads to a little more soul searching.
Maybe I'm a little off, but I define a good person as an honest person. This doesn't make them an agreeable or even likable person.