[Beowulf]

Originally Posted by Elystan

This is pretty inane but here goes:

So there's a concert I want to go to. There's a girl I want to go with. I've put forward the idea to her but she's been sort of non-commital about the whole thing, citing financial contingency.

Question is, do I pay for her ticket, and if so how do I break the idea to her? If I turn round and say "oh hey I actually got two tickets, want one?" it'll be fairly obvious that I bought the second one for her (it would be obvious to me anyway) and that's a whole 'burden of expectation' type thing whereby I have given her a social obligation to come with me without first having asked her permission.

But then if I do ask her permission to buy her the ticket that seems a little, I don't know, desperate? Needy?

I mean I could take great pains to explain that I don't really care about the price of the ticket, if she doesn't want it I'll either give it to someone else or sell it to one of the vendors you always get outside, but then that would dispel anything positive she might take from the fact that I bought her the ticket.

Background info: girl I met at a party years and years ago, took a shine to her but barely said a word, added her on facebook anyway. About 6 months ago struck up conversation on the internet, talked semi-regularly and mutually divulged sensitive information about our private lives. Haven't seen her in person since the initial meeting which hardly even counts.

I agree with Ben, you should just go for it, what have you got to loose ?

Just do it !!!.