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fair enough and i see your point. i'll reiterate, though - this isn't a crisis website and if someone does drop by here with the intention of posting only some cry for help... well, take a look at some of the back posts.

people have had their ever-lovin' heads torched for just such behavior.

neither you nor i would wander into a group of strangers with the sole intention of baring our soul. and if we did, we'd deserve whatever backlash we received. dropping provocative life-bombs unto strangers usually results in someone getting their ass handed to them in one form or another.

on the other hand, if you spent time getting to know a group of people and that group suddenly found out everything coming out of your mouth was bullshit, you'd deserve that backlash as well. and if someone waltzed into that arena whilst that backlash was taking place, without any knowledge of who you were or what was happening, it would behoove him or her to keep his or her mouth shut on the subject until he or she figured out what the deal was.

look, santarea is a **** counselor. she works with women in crisis. i work in two different emergency rooms, one in an inner city where **** is about as common as turning on the television, thanx in part to the massive crack and heroin abuse in the area. part of my job is to counsel the women who come in to report what has happened, contact boston p.d. and facilitate the utilization of the forensic RN to gather the evidence - the **** kit xnguela spoke of. thank god i've never had to do one myself, but if the forensic RN can't make it, i'm supposed to collect that evidence. the point is, there are people here who work with women in crisis as part of the job.

joy spit in each of their collective faces with her bullshit and she got what she deserved in terms of a verbal writing off from the site - why? because when push comes to shove, most people here do respect and welcome those who have undergone shitty adversity in their lives, by and large. and on a personal note, for every man i was unable to beat down who assaulted a woman i've had to counsel, joy earned my rage with her flippant attitude toward r.ape.

members of this site have a freedom to express themselves. if someone wants to divulge private information, so be it. personally, i don't feel the need to do so but i don't speak for everyone. i understand that while posting here and getting to know some of the personalities on the board, it becomes easy to feel comfortable and when someone feels comfortable, sometimes things that have festered within our hearts and souls are purged. sometimes this place or one like it is the only place someone is able to spit out what has sat in their gut, making them sick to their core. in a way, it's like confession - revealing what's in your heart to the man behind the wall. and that's all right, if that's what you need to do. i doubt you'd find anyone who'd fault you for opening up.

but those who are on the receiving end of a confession should, in some way, have some comfort with the one baring his or her soul as well. it's kind of a two-way street.

again - you don't walk up to a stranger and open a conversation by telling him or her you like to shove dildoes up your ass while you masturbate, or any such thing. but maybe, after hanging out with that stranger for a while, such a statement wouldn't be so off the wall. that's the point i'd like to make to you about people feeling comfortable posting their personal secrets.