i'm hopeless

Totschläger · 07-17-2007, 09:44 PM

i can't ever get a girlfriend. most girls that i like think i'm weird. the one's that don't, i don't have a chance with cuz they're taken. the few girls left usually don't like me. the even fewer that do like me, i don't have the courage to ask out. can someone help me with this, or am i doomed?

Tismine · 07-17-2007, 10:13 PM

We're females. We KNOW when you're nervous. We prey on you.
Grow some balls and buy them some flowers. The worst they can do is say no.
Well, they can do much worse, but that isn't my point.
Just GO for it.
Now, please don't be offended by this, but:
Stop being a pussy! Girls won't want to date you if you are one, love.

/bitch.

biohazard · 07-17-2007, 11:33 PM

This sounds very familiar. I have the same problem. I really have no idea what to do, because I have no friends that are girls in my school. You should ask Jillian for advice, he gave me some good advice. But the main thing is to get balls and talk to them. That is my problem, I am a pussy. And there are also other problems with me, such as nothing to talk about and other things. I really can`t help you, but hey, at least you`re not the only one

I already gave up, you should too.

maggot · 07-17-2007, 11:37 PM

They're just girls, they're not inhuman.

Befriend them first, it'll be less awkward.

biohazard · 07-17-2007, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by maggot

They're just girls, they're not inhuman.

Befriend them first, it'll be less awkward.

You make it sound so easy, Maggot. I admire you for that ^_^. Anyways, it is not as easy to talk to them in real life as it is through MSN or a forum.

maggot · 07-18-2007, 12:02 AM

o_O
My girlfriend lives 5 minutes from me, thank you very much.

Beneath the Shadows · 07-18-2007, 12:24 AM

Just have fun with them. (No, I don't mean fooling around.) Hang out with them (and other people), and have a good time. Treat them the way you treat your guy friends. In other words, act like you would with someone that you're friends with but don't want to get with. That'll make them more comfortable, and they'll be able to get to know the real you.

Minyaliel · 07-18-2007, 06:04 AM

Don't be desperate. No girl likes to feel as if she's only a random target for some desperate guy who can't get anyone else. (Yes, I know that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.)

Heartless ArchAngel · 07-18-2007, 06:15 AM

play it cool with a guy you like act as friends at first then slowly show interest it ormally works when im desperate

Heartless ArchAngel · 07-18-2007, 06:17 AM

in your case a girl

Minyaliel · 07-18-2007, 06:21 AM

[groan] Learn to spell and use punctuation, kid... [/groan]

Valerius · 07-18-2007, 06:34 AM

And let's not forget to look sharp while courting a girl. Nobody wants some smelly and scraggly-looking person hitting on them!

Crying_Crimson_Tears · 07-18-2007, 07:30 AM

1.) Look nice.
2.) Befriend them
3.) Be the true you (don't try to be someone you're not)
4.) Be patient (the right girl will come)
5.) Be polite and don't act macho.

HumanePain · 07-18-2007, 08:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Crying_Crimson_Tears

1.) Look nice.
2.) Befriend them
3.) Be the true you (don't try to be someone you're not)
4.) Be patient (the right girl will come)
5.) Be polite and don't act macho.

And I would add

6.) Be confident
7.) SMILE!

Lapin · 07-18-2007, 08:34 AM

My advice, (since, you know, I'm a girl) about talking to girls is simple. Start very small. Ask to borrow a pencil. Nod at one. Smile at one. Say 'hello'. Eventually, you'll start to become comfortable enough to have conversations. Then you can try to ask one out.

(We're actually pretty easy to catch)

Heartless ArchAngel · 07-18-2007, 08:36 AM

sorry about spelling and punctuation on my part im not good with grammer or language arts,but i agree with lapin.

Heartless ArchAngel · 07-18-2007, 08:45 AM

I have a question ...............How do you try to explain to your boy friend you cheated on him with out him getting pissed?

Cyntrox · 07-18-2007, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Minyaliel

Don't be desperate. No girl likes to feel as if she's only a random target for some desperate guy who can't get anyone else. (Yes, I know that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.)

Now, there's a problem. How far can you go before you seem desperate? That's really annoying xD

Cyntrox · 07-18-2007, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Heartless ArchAngel

I have a question ...............How do you try to explain to your boy friend you cheated on him with out him getting pissed?

That'd be next to impossible, and not relevant to this thread.

Tha Duckman · 07-18-2007, 09:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lapin

(We're actually pretty easy to catch)

[Begs to differ].

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Lapin · 07-18-2007, 09:15 AM

Allow me to correct myself: We're easy to catch for people who don't use lame-ass pick-up lines.

maggot · 07-18-2007, 09:23 AM

Retarded insane teenage girls like Heartless here are the reason you will want to befriend them first, so you know what you're getting into.

HumanePain · 07-18-2007, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by maggot

Retarded insane teenage girls like Heartless here are the reason you will want to befriend them first, so you know what you're getting into.

You are wise beyond your years Mag. I know men who are in their 40's who STILL haven't figured that out yet and end up in their 3rd or 4th divorce.

Lapin · 07-18-2007, 09:32 AM

Oh, but divorces are handy for some people. One of my friends wants to be a divorce lawyer. Yay money!

psyches_reflection · 07-18-2007, 09:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Lapin

Allow me to correct myself: We're easy to catch for people who don't use lame-ass pick-up lines.

I second that! Don't listen to anyone who tells you it works.

You've got plenty of good advice here already, but you also need to be persistent. If a girl turns you down the first time, continue to be nice to her and try again after a while - she may change her mind. We girl-types like to do that.