The relationship thread

[Duane]

This thread is for people who have little bits of advice on relationship. If you want to post your little set of rules on how to get a girl/guy, post them here.

[Tha Duckman]

1 ) Don't be a chump.

[honeythorn]

Don't be me.

Also ...stop going on about it.

[Duane]

1) Don't stare at a woman's breasts when they're talking, pay attention so that when it's your turn to talk, the only thing you can think to say isn't "I like yer boobs"

Honeythorn, this is just a reference thread, this is not me complaining about be a single dude.

[honeythorn]

Fair enough, but you have been going on.

Ok here's a good one. Do not ignore the desired persons friend/s as though they do not exist. Yes, you are interested in doing whatever with this one, but that one standing right there? No matter how undesirable/weird ect, is actually a human being and does not appreciate such ignorance. No one is asking for a twelve hour political discussion, just normal light conversation . It's polite.

[Duane]

2) Don't wait. If you have feelings for the desired person, gather tha courage and tell her/him how you feel.

[DeathToLems]

Originally Posted by Duane

2) Don't wait. If you have feelings for the desired person, gather tha courage and tell her/him how you feel.

I don't agree with this one.
Patience and the right time is most important before you go telling someone you fancy them.
Otherwise the person you're telling it to may have no clue that you liked them and turn you down right there and then from shock.

You need to get to know this person well enough and know the right signs before you make your move in letting them know you like them.

Oh and if you happen to rush in asking someone out and they turn you down but you think you may be in for a second chance because they said some shit like "I just got out of a long relationship bla bla" "not ready"
DONT GIVE UP but be patient

[Duane]

That's something I meant to add... but brain fart... ugh... CURSE YOU 5 MINUTE LIMIT TO EDIT*Shakes fist*

[Xombie]

Originally Posted by Duane

2) Don't wait. If you have feelings for the desired person, gather tha courage and tell her/him how you feel.

I definitely don't agree. I can tell you, as a girl who's turned down boys with no patience, that this does not always work. Let me tell you a short story.

There once was a boy whose name was Tony. He began talking to a lovely girl, Xombie, one night when he was feeling lonely. The next day they spoke on the phone. That very same day, Tony confessed that he had feelings for Xombie and wanted to know if she would date him. Xombie, shocked and not very flattered by this boy's quickness to gain feelings, rejected him. The end.

[Duane]

I meant that they shouldn't wait too long.

[Sinless]

I understand how you feel Xombie. I once met this guy and we were just friends for 2 hours before he said, "Go out with me." I was shocked by how sudden and random this was and I said, "Uh uh." And he said, "Awwwwwwww..." Like a little baby. Thank god I turned him down.

duane:here's a tip for you. 1)If you truly like a person, get to know them better. Find out things about them. Gain their trust and friendship before asking them out.

[Noumi]

Have any of you lived with your bf or gf, without being married? When does it work and when not ?

[Duane]

Lolz, these tips aren't for me, I'm a lost cause. Just for anyone who happens to need a reference.

3) Don't stalk them.

[Mir]

4) Don't be Duane! =P

[Duane]

Originally Posted by Mir

4) Don't be Duane! =P

Okay tip, here's a better one...4) NEVER be Duane!

[Xombie]

Hahahah. You stole my idea. I just wasn't mean enough to say it.

Also, I was going to mention that I wouldn't take any advice from Duane, seeing as he's always the one bitching about NOT being in a relationship.

[Mir]

I wasn't being mean.

5) Don't be Mir. Don't EVER be Mir. I turn down the affections of those that ARE interested whilst I pine for those I can never have. I've always been this way. I think it is some kind of weird defense mechanism. I'm not sure. Hindsight's 20/20. Foresight non-existent.

[Xombie]

I've got the same issue. But you're getting old and your time is running out, whereas I'm only 16 and I can do whatever I want. :]

[Mir]

You don't know how old I am. I could be 14 for all you know. Ha.

[Xombie]

I'd guess you're around 28.

Maybe I'm comletely off. It makes no difference to me.

[Mir]

I don't sit around thinking about women or relationships. What I do stress about is that time is indeed running out and I still can't solo like fucking Buckethead or play rhythm in weird time signatures like Adam Jones...

[Duane]

That was a cheap shot...

4) Watch some Pick Up Artist, see what that does for you.

[Mir]

If you mean me, then no. I wasn't taking pot shots at you.

[Tha Duckman]

Originally Posted by Noumi

Have any of you lived with your bf or gf, without being married? When does it work and when not ?

It works when both parties have jobs.

[DeathToLems]

Originally Posted by Noumi

Have any of you lived with your bf or gf, without being married? When does it work and when not ?

When does what work?
I'm still waiting for my lad to get a place of his own so i can move in. His mum keeps dropping major hints to him about moving out, even going as low as not cooking him a decent meal. One time all she gave him was rice pudding and 2 sausages! Srsly this woman has issues!
Anyway, moving in together? My brother built a little log cabin at the end of our garden and moved his girlfriend in whom he had only been with for about 8 months. She needed a place to live so she kinda talked him into building this house. Since living together (almost 2 years now) they've had money troubles and arguments.

moral of my post?
Don't move in with each other until you've been engaged for at least 6 months and have stayed round each others house for about a week in a row and even gone on holiday together for about 2 weeks.
I'm guessing if you can survive that then your good to move in and stuff.