Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?

[Kinflame]

'I wasn't going to answer, it would dignify his comments.'

I'm sorry I'm just so blatantly inferior. The tone of your post to me was one of misery and woe over an insignificant issue, and with so much else in life to dwell over than foolish school children... well I stand by my opinions. Apparently this is not an issue to be broached with any of you.

I may have been rude and my remark may not have been pertinent, however I must point out in general I am in impolite person. You may not like it, but I tend not to have respect for others as my own opinions and beliefs are ones I stick to very strongly, and what is probably too often I tend to view most other opinions as stupidity. Let the matter rest, you believe me to have been out of line and nothing I can say will change your minds.

[Circle V]

If you don't have respect for others, don't expect them to have any for you.

Don't be weak. Stop whining.

[mutsumiasakura]

Kinflame - It seems to me that the best idea when joining a forum is to be as polite as possible until one is enough of a senior memeber to get away with bitching at others (bitching for good reasons, that is).
Otherwise, it usually ends up like this. ^_^ That would be my typical plan of attack.

Originally Posted by Blushing Heliophobe

What I hate the most about it is when you actually do find the most perfect person, and you're subconciously afraid that they're going to do exavtly what that *other* person did, which isn't fair at all.

I know exactly what you mean, Helio. I had some pretty bad experiences with in my first relationship and it left me with some nasty expectations of men that I'm still trying to get over. I know they're wrong, but sometimes I find myself not trusting anyway. It's hard.

[WolfMoon]

Originally Posted by Kinflame

'I wasn't going to answer, it would dignify his comments.'

I'm sorry I'm just so blatantly inferior. The tone of your post to me was one of misery and woe over an insignificant issue, and with so much else in life to dwell over than foolish school children... well I stand by my opinions. Apparently this is not an issue to be broached with any of you.

I may have been rude and my remark may not have been pertinent, however I must point out in general I am in impolite person. You may not like it, but I tend not to have respect for others as my own opinions and beliefs are ones I stick to very strongly, and what is probably too often I tend to view most other opinions as stupidity. Let the matter rest, you believe me to have been out of line and nothing I can say will change your minds.

Your parents don't spank you nearly often enough.

[Wise Child]

Originally Posted by Kinflame

I may have been rude and my remark may not have been pertinent, however I must point out in general I am an impolite person. You may not like it, but I tend not to have respect for others as my own opinions and beliefs are ones I stick to very strongly, and what is probably too often I tend to view most other opinions as stupidity.

You know, it's a sign of maturity when you can do both.

Having your own opinions and beliefs is fine. It doesn't necessarily follow, however, that you have to shit all over someone else's. If what you're telling us is that you're a rude, intolerant asshole with no plans to change, then I for one would rather you left.

Pity... it really was a good intro. *ponders*

[Sanctus Dei]

Oh dear Kinflame... bad bad move. You've inadvertently pissed off the Sanctus, she's tired and mighty bitchy... 'so it be a good time to play'.

Let's see only 29 posts in and you've already revealed the undeserved elitist pole up your proverbial ass.. your response to the Cellist had little relevance to the content of her post dumb shit, a little deep practice in concentrated scrutiny would serve your spiteful tongue to better elect it's intended candidates. You want to play ball with the big boys, then throw down with me... you fuckin skank cunt, I'll rip you chin to dick without an eye flutter, cause guess what ass spank??

I'm a bit of a fucking impolite person myself..

[OnixxFilth]

One of my exes was totally a control freak. He had me under such a spell that I was forbidden to leave the house because he might call and if I wasn't there to pick up, he'd get pissed. He also conned me out of like $700 and cheated on me with a girl in his own town (it was a long distance relationship).

Originally Posted by Blushing Heliophobe
What I hate the most about it is when you actually do find the most perfect person, and you're subconciously afraid that they're going to do exactly what that *other* person did, which isn't fair at all.

I agree. Those insecurities make me worry more than anything. Thank gods I'm slowly waning from them and becoming a bit more relaxed with my boi. I wish I could forget what they did so that I can give each guy a new fair chance. But I've found someone who understands and still cares, so I've started to relax. It's nice...

Onixx... been there, done that, burnt his t-shirt...



















With him in it...






Just kidding... he only sent me one letter in 3 years and compared to the multitude I sent him... *fucking sigh* Ya... a t-shirt would have been... out of his range.

Thank god I'm rid of him.

[Kinflame]

I actuallly have plans to change, though unfortunately I can be a rude intolerant asshole from time to time.

While it may have been a shitty remark, it's kind of dissapointing to see such hypocrisy. 'Having your own opinions and beliefs is fine. It doesn't necessarily follow, however, that you have to shit all over someone else's.'

I have my own opinions and beliefs and I may have shit all over someone else's, however that's exactly what all of you are doing to me. If you think I'm an asshole I'm sure not all twenty of you have to come out and say it.

What can I say? It was apparently an inflammatory remark and I doubt your first impression will be easy to change. As a future reference, I do not claim to be a nice guy and I am especially intolerant of others from time to time. Also for future refernce I am trying to change, or at least to ignore what I see as foolishness.

[Kinflame]

Sounds fair.

[Kinflame]

I may be intolerant but I'd say i'm pretty good at understanding fairness. I think everyone jumping on the 'my assholeness' bandwagon was unneccessary and overly vehement a reprimanding, but nonetheless most of you had good if repetitive points.

[Kinflame]

Even if the points are good ones.

[Catch]

Actually the thread is about abusive relationships not people that were pricks to you highschool. It's okay though, identifying potentially abusive relationships in advance is good, but think maybe An Eccentric Cellist is to protective and Kinflame needs to control their anger a little more. So not everyone has had the crap totally beaten' out of them and relates to the topic differently.

[Sanctus Dei]

Over? Fuck that... I'm not done. It appears redundancy is a necessary action when the result of the original is less then satisfactory my dear Xng. What this ass monkey still owes is an apology to the Cellist for chastising her over an issue she had already buried because "He handled it more like a 'champ'!". Bravo dick weed... what do you have planned next? Gonna berate the handicapped because you've managed to develop more productively? Fucking self-righteous little twat you need a lesson in initial impressionable maturity, this isn't a fucking grade school recognition war... you don't earn points for puerile forms of dilution.
You still want to play the hard ass 'intolerant' game, bitch? You had better be damned sure you've come equipped to win cause now I'm on you like flies on shit.
I already don't much like you, and if you try and label me with your hypocritical bullshit then you've proved yourself illiterate twice over. I could fucking care less about respecting an iota of the luggage your haulin'... or in other words "I AM shitting on your opinions" your a fucking imprudent douche and until you learn to collect every last instance of information before flapping your jaws so will my deduction remain. Grow up Tiny Tim, take the time to cultivate a patch of adult pubes on those baby balls of yours and perhaps develop judgments worth deliberation.

[angel011]

Sanctus, no offense, but I think you are overreacting. Kinflame admitted that he was very wrong to act the way he did; he also said he was trying to change. If EC wishes an apology, I believe she's strong enough and capable enough person to demand it herself.

[WolfMoon]

Originally Posted by Kinflame

I may be intolerant but I'd say i'm pretty good at understanding fairness. I think everyone jumping on the 'my assholeness' bandwagon was unneccessary and overly vehement a reprimanding, but nonetheless most of you had good if repetitive points.

I think it's fair enough.

You acted like a douche-bag and were treated like one.

If you continue to do so, you're going to be flamed unmercifully.

Saying that you're going to change while defending your earlier remarks is childish and immature.

Calling hypocrisy, yeah never heard THAT before...


*sigh*

[angel011]

Originally Posted by Xnguela

Dude, don't stop the Sanctus. Every single word she typed was true, albeit harsh. She's right- he can say he's changing all he wants, but without an apology it means nothing.

I'd just prefer to see EC demand an apology, if she wants it. We all agree Kinflame acted like an asshole, but EC is the offended party.

[An Eccentric Cellist]

As long as he swears and keeps to his word that he'll never rag on someone for voicing an opinion, I don't care. An apology would be lovely but don't force it from him, that just breeds resentment.
Lrf, V jbhyq yvxr na ncbybtl. Kat=Xng. How do you write the English alphabet vertically if there are only thirteen spaces?

[Sanctus Dei]

Originally Posted by angel011

Sanctus, no offense, but I think you are overreacting. Kinflame admitted that he was very wrong to act the way he did; he also said he was trying to change. If EC wishes an apology, I believe she's strong enough and capable enough person to demand it herself.

Angel... no offense, but fucking boo hoo... welcome to the real world sweetheart, I don't handle impertinence with the soft hand of mother Theresa, and I'm not about to start because you feel I might be "overreacting."
I've been here long enough to see the effects people like this brat have on the mass, if he has no clue how to publicly conduct himself in a mature and responsible manner first hand then he will be held accountable and I'm sure he's fully aware of the consequence of his behavior.
As for the Cellist, I actually could care less if she requires the apology...this isn't a round of "Sanctus protects the fucking Children" I'm fully aware of the "apparently inconceivable" notion that the child can stand on her own I want the fucking apology for the well being of the forum. Any supercilious openly proclaimed bully will know first hand the tolerance level we maintain here... so roll over and take it up the ass anyway you wish but don't even think twice about requesting I do the same.

[An Eccentric Cellist]

Originally Posted by Xnguela

You know he'll never figure that out.

Did I tell you that, or did you just randomly decode me?

I was prowling around here before I actually got an account, so I was told. Also I'm reading The Da Vinci Code.

That's the point, if he's smart enough to recognize the clues then it's pretty easy all he has to do is problem solve. It'll prove he's worth speaking kindly to again if only because he's intellegent.
I'm restating:
How do you write the English alphabet vertically if there are only thirteen rows, but two columns? Lrf, V jbhyq yvxr na ncbybtl.

[Kinflame]

Add twelve to each letter, that's an unbelievably hard code.

O_o

Or it would be if V wasn't capitalized and stood alone, thus obviously representing I. From there, it's easy. Anyway, Sanctus may want an apology 'for the better good of the forum', but I'm not apologizing to fucking anyone. I have a personal belief that actions are not condoned my mere apologies, often insincere and meaningless.

[Circle V]

My "ignore" finger is a-twitchin.

If apologies are often insincere and meaningless, show us what a real one looks like. Apologies by themselves do little, but refusing to apologize in a case like this doesn't reflect well on your character.

You aren't making many friends here by standing up for your belief in... what? Assholery?

Keep in mind that Cellist is one of the very few people here that's actually willing to forgive you.

(On a vaguely related note, that code is pretty fucking hard if all you have to go by is "Xnguela," y'know.)

[Nardol]

I think the code is rather easy. But I always did the random association puzzles in the paper, so I guess I'm good at them. On the other hand, there aren't that many letters involved so it could be hard to piece together. Usually all I have to start with is that one of the single letter words is always 'I' or 'a' and then I start postulizing about two letter words, because there aren't many of them. Usually between I, A, the short list of two letter words, and a little alphabet chart to help keep track of the letters I've eliminated it's possible to figure out a short paragraph in say an hour.

[Sanctus Dei]

Originally Posted by Kinflame

Anyway, Sanctus may want an apology 'for the better good of the forum', but I'm not apologizing to fucking anyone. I have a personal belief that actions are not condoned my mere apologies, often insincere and meaningless.

Fucking elementary level tripe spewing bitch....

Not only could I care less what your angst ridden beliefs are, but apparently there just as futilely fuckin' infantile as your attempts at forming a complete thought.

So...Your not redeeming your mared personality by simply showing you've the balls to atleast 'act' grown up?

Well then guess what kiddo??

Your respect card is amusingly denied and you've exhausted your opportunity to prove any level of maturity exists in that narrow tunneled brain box of yours. Play hard ass all you want shit wit, you've already lost the game with anyone with an ounce of self-respect…. We as adults have the accountability to own up to our mistakes and the maturity to see that we in some way repent our actions. You’re undoubtedly just a fuckin lost cause to society and I'm gladly washing my hands... ring me when you finally decide to quit slumming sesame street, junior.


*Ignore*

[Kinflame]

Let's say it's a matter of pride. I'll apologize for my unneccessary cpmment but not for being 'wrong', because those who would care don't deserve and apology. Also, it's true that with just 'Xnguela' the code would have been rather difficult...

Sanctus, thanks for needlessly insulting my matuiry and clarity of thought with YOUR 'elementary-level tripe ridden' post.

If your definition of being mature is lying when it's not needed, feel free to be as high and mighty as you wish. Or as I believe you'd phrase it, 'Stop spewing your pointless shit everywhere you self centered arrogant fuck'.