Rant Thread II - Page 251

MissCheyenne · 08-14-2011, 12:37 PM

I'm hoping that the other four might respond better. As for the other one, she's a waste of the air she breathes. Harsh because she's my sister but true. She's always pulling shitty stunts, such as turning up pissed out of her mind at five am, with four friends in tow, kicking me out of my bed so they could sleep in it while mum was recovering from having a pretty brutal biopsy done. It should be noted that she doesn't even live here.

She's a selfish bitch through and through and if I'm honest, I'm ashamed to have to call her my sister.

Grausamkeit · 08-14-2011, 12:59 PM

MissC, if it was me I would have already come to blows with that sibling. My youngest sister is actually a lot bigger than me in height and weight, but she is afraid of pissing me off. You need to find a way to strike fear into that selfish girl's heart. Set boundaries and let her know that if she comes around looking for a place to sleep in the wee hours that you will call the cops on her for disturbing the peace.

Say or do whatever you have to do to get your more reasonable siblings to visit your mom. Shame the hell out of them or lay the biggest guilt trips of their lives on them. You're taking care of your mother and they are not allowed to be selfish dickholes. Who could just shrug off visiting the woman who brought them into this world in her time of need. What kind of person could just leave something like that completely up to one person? It's not right. Do what you have to to get them to get off their asses. Out of 5 other kids there has to be at least one or two more who would help out.

MissCheyenne · 08-14-2011, 01:03 PM

See, I get that all of them have jobs and lives and in the case of some of them, families of their own to take care of but isn't fair. That's not to say I mind taking care of my mum, I don't but I do mind the fact that none of them seem interested in offering any kind of help at all. They seem to forget that I also have a job and a life as well and they seem to see it as my responsibilty because I'm the oldest girl and I should just suck it up and get on with it.

Grausamkeit · 08-14-2011, 01:10 PM

They need to suck it up and help. If you have any form of guilt or blackmail to lay on your siblings, now would be the time for it. And no, it's not beneath me to do that to my own siblings. As the eldest it's my right to coerce them into doing the right thing(whatever that is).

I'm actually surprised that they wouldn't help of their own accord. My own family are a bunch of assholes for the most part, but when shit gets tough we've always pulled together in the past.

Apathy's_Child · 08-14-2011, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Grausamkeit

MissC, if it was me I would have already come to blows with that sibling. My youngest sister is actually a lot bigger than me in height and weight, but she is afraid of pissing me off. You need to find a way to strike fear into that selfish girl's heart. Set boundaries and let her know that if she comes around looking for a place to sleep in the wee hours that you will call the cops on her for disturbing the peace.

Say or do whatever you have to do to get your more reasonable siblings to visit your mom. Shame the hell out of them or lay the biggest guilt trips of their lives on them. You're taking care of your mother and they are not allowed to be selfish dickholes. Who could just shrug off visiting the woman who brought them into this world in her time of need. What kind of person could just leave something like that completely up to one person? It's not right. Do what you have to to get them to get off their asses. Out of 5 other kids there has to be at least one or two more who would help out.

This. That selfish bitch needs a fucking reality check made of bitch slap, and the other guys really need to pull their heads out of their asses and start pitching in.

It's never been an issue in my family (LOT of brothers and no sisters), but I've definitely noticed the way the girls often get stuck with this kind of heavy lifting in other families when it comes to parents and older family members. It is not fucking cool and you should guilt the ever-loving shit out of every last one of them until they pull their goddamn weight. You ALL have lives and responsibilities - family isn't about shunting your crap onto the nearest available member, it's about pulling together and sharing the burden. Don't let them forget that for one second. If you try and carry the can for everyone, you will eventually burn out. I saw the same thing happen to my girlfriend when her mom got sick, and almost came to blows with her older brother because she was too nice to kick up a mess about it. She was shambling around like a zombie while that asshole dropped in for a couple hours once a week... joke is he was the blue-eyed boy and got the whole, "Oh son, it's so good of you to give up your weekend to come sit with your ol' Mom" spiel. Sickening shit.

Also, yes, take care of yourself. You need to stay in good shape so we can start building our porn empire.

Hope your mom's feeling better soon. Seriously, chew those guys out - this is really not cool.

Geoluhread · 08-14-2011, 02:09 PM

I got so pissed off today that I'm not able to eat properly.. And the thing I already tried to eat I feel is gonna come out of me of either ends (sorry for the graphic image).

I'm dealing with one of the worst people I ever dealt with in my life and that guy feels that earth revolves around him, that everyone should work by the protocol when he, himself, isn't.

You either work with the protocol or don't. He's judging the trainees for fails in following the rules that originally came from him (delays in official papers that led to delays on when should we start).

He blames the center at which I'm training in on why we finished so early when he didn't mention how long should we train. And now I don't even know if I'm gonna pass this. If I don't bye bye scholarship.

That of course other than the hell he put me and my best friend through last year.

Worst effin month so far.

Grausamkeit · 08-14-2011, 02:17 PM

Geo, is there a way to report that teacher?

Geoluhread · 08-14-2011, 02:24 PM

The dean is quite fond of him, so sadly, no.

Grausamkeit · 08-14-2011, 03:16 PM

Oh, that sucks. I hope you can stick it out and pass so that you don't have to deal with this asshole anymore.

MissCheyenne · 08-15-2011, 02:03 PM

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU CK. I've tried talking to my other brothers and sisters about the fact that I want to go back to college come September but all have them have flat out told me that they cannot spare any time to help take care of Mum and I will have to put my life on hold. The unbelivable, selfish pricks. Not that I mind taking care of my Mum but this shit is not right. It's simply not right.

Grausamkeit · 08-15-2011, 02:34 PM

I suggest a roundhouse kick in the face for each of them. Or a good solid kick to the crotch. If it's hard enough it can even take down a woman.

Is it possible for you to take some online courses? I don't like doing classes online, but when your schedule doesn't allow you to be there in person it can be better to take a few that way.

Is your mom completely incapacitated so that she can't be alone at all?

MissCheyenne · 08-15-2011, 02:39 PM

Unfortunately, Mum is incapacitated enough to need someone with her almost constantly. Nipping to the local shops is fine but anything longer than a couple of hours is too long. She can't get out and about alone either, she's too weak to walk so has to be taken out in a wheelchair, she can't bathe alone and she can't manage to make even a simple meal herself.

I'm so fucking angry. Not at Mum, it's something she can't help but I'm angry at my family. They are all so wrapped up in themselves and refuse to see that I need some help. Without wanting to sound selfish, I have my own health worries, both mental and physical and I need time to sort those out, so that I don't get so ill that I can't help Mum.

I'm looking into online courses now since that seems to be my best option right now.

Grausamkeit · 08-15-2011, 02:41 PM

You don't sound selfish at all. You have to be of sound mind and body to be able to take care of someone else.

And fuck those assholes for being dicks.

MissCheyenne · 08-15-2011, 02:44 PM

I wish I could say, that when the day comes that those selfish dickholes need my help, I'd turn them down but I won't. I'm not that kind of person even though in this case, I suspect I SHOULD be that kind of person.

Grausamkeit · 08-15-2011, 02:47 PM

Don't let them walk all over you. They need to learn respect and boundaries.

Saya · 08-15-2011, 06:35 PM

What assholes.

Is there anyway that your health care system might cover a nurse coming by to take care of your mother while you're out?

Grausamkeit · 08-15-2011, 06:54 PM

Saya, I totally imagine you flipping your head back blissfully and pounding away at your keyboard like in your avatar, lately. I don't know why I can't get that image out of my head. lol

Saya · 08-15-2011, 08:14 PM

Hahahaha, it wouldn't be entirely inaccurate.

Especially when I'm on tumblr or talking to Versus.

Grausamkeit · 08-15-2011, 08:40 PM

I knew it!

Renatus · 08-16-2011, 02:40 AM

It's been 1.5 years now, and I still can't get back any peace, my mind just keeps reminding me of everything that went wrong. Sleeping just makes it all worse. I can't get any peace while awake or asleep.

MissCheyenne · 08-16-2011, 03:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Saya

What assholes.

Is there anyway that your health care system might cover a nurse coming by to take care of your mother while you're out?

Sadly, the home help service is so stretched right now that we have to wait on the list waiting to see what help they can offer us. Even if we get some help, it won't be a lot simply because they don't have the resources

Geoluhread · 08-16-2011, 04:46 AM

Today I went to that asshole of a head of department and shared a piece of my mind. Not in the tone I was hoping for but I got my point out in the open.

He kept complaining how an excellent student got to be so sloppy and not report to him for everything (because he was really expecting me to snitch away whatever happened) and that I should've came to him whenever there was something wrong. In my opinion there wasn't, but he disagrees.

I told him that I felt as if I'm punished for being the responsible punctual person that I am, that I felt no longer obliged to be so when it comes to dealing with him. And also that he can't expect me to be so anal about protocol if someone in his position isn't following the protocol, whether it was him or the center (that I train in)and I also said that there should've been at least some kind of a contact between the center and him.

When he started saying that he was expecting for us to write notes about the things we take in the center I told him that I needed to make no such notes, I've gone all through university not doing so (I am the top student in my department) and I will do no such thing in training. He started quizzing me but I only made him suffocate more in loathing because I really do memorize shit by listening to it only.

It felt good to be honest, but him just sitting there with the smirk on his face, that asshole made me feel like a fucking bug. Like I'm not worth living, that it's so abnormal to be such a good student. I really wanted to cry, I didn't.

All I want now from him is not see his face. Ever.

Grausamkeit · 08-16-2011, 07:48 AM

Geo, good on ya for telling that dick what's up! It takes courage to do that.

Saya · 08-16-2011, 09:38 PM

He sounds like an infuriating asshole to deal with, Geo. I know you said complaining to the dean wouldn't accomplish much but honestly I'd complain anyway, especially if he doesn't have tenure yet. At least then if something comes up its known that you had already voiced your complaints, you know?

My rant: Mom got her boy pug neutered, but then found out that the girl pug was pregnant anyway. She's due the first week of September, and she wants me to take care of her that week. It makes sense this way because I live pretty close to the vet, but I've never seen an animal give birth, in person anyway, I don't know what to do or how to tell if I need to take her to the vet (pugs are apparently bad for breeding, they often need c-sections, poor things), and god forbid if Daisy dies giving birth or one of the puppies die, I wouldn't know what to do with myself.

AshleyO · 08-16-2011, 10:03 PM

I don't really think it's a good idea to try to compare military service to a private sector job.