Scars

[PersephoneX]

We just all chucked our own five cents into the conversation as we gave advice.

[MollyMac]

in telling someone how to hide a destructive behavior there is always a level of culpability. The big issue needs to be addressed before the miniscule issues need to have a band-aid.

i see little difference between this and helping someone hide anorexia or a drug addiction.

[Lykaios]

Originally Posted by killer_asian_Dax

That's the part that makes some believe it's an actual mental illness. It's not that they're doing it for attention, but like a drug- they're addicted.

For me- it's complicated to explain- I just know that when I did it- it wasn't for attention even though I'd do it in the middle of class (I would sit in the very back where not even the stoners would sit and the type of school I went to- the teachers never cared). For me, the stress from school played a big part in why I started cutting, but I never wanted anyone to know.

The thing with cutters who have a serious problem and aren't some dumb kid looking for a rise out of people is that like mogli raised by wolves- after a time- even though you know you're someone else- you've done it for so long that it kind of just becomes a part of you and that's all you know.

Either way it's scary as fuck.

Cutting is a scary thing, to be sure. I'm a recovering cutter myself, and I certainly didn't do it for attention, but rather I did it out of extreme depression that I still, even now, suffer from. It's an addiction, and a hard one to break at that.

I have scars on my left arm that keep me from being able to wear short sleeves. I wear long sleeves on a daily basis, because if I didn't, it would become extremely obvious what I'd done in my past. I don't want to deal with that. Only a few people know, as it is, the things I've done. Those are my close, close, close friends, who I know will always be there for me. My second to last time was so deep that it didn't stop bleeding heavily for 4-5 hours. I just sat in my room, waiting. That scar will never fade. It's a part of me.

For a while, I actually carried a razor in my wallet, even at school, just in case I needed it. When the addiction gets so bad that you'll do it in semi-public places, it's time to really start worrying. The path that'll take you down is incredibly self-destructive. (I still have difficulty admitting this all)

To the OP, I say to do your best to quit. I wish I could offer advice as to how to hide the scars, but I myself have problems with that, so I can't really offer any.

I'm pressed for time, or I would've written more.. Damn, I bloody hate ol' father time, sometimes.

[Dancing_in_rain]

I'm overwhelmed. When I originally posted this topic, I really didn't think there would be many answers to it. Just goes to show how wrong my assumptions were. Now that I think about, maybe posting this issue in the Fashion board was not the best place. Well, anyways, I'm sorry about the posting misplacement. MollyMac and everyone else who has advised me to get help, I am getting help. I am currently seeing my school counselor on a weekly basis and she has helped me through a lot of tough things. Once, my cuts wouldn't stop bleeding and I ran to her. She helped me with that and still is helping me. MollyMac, it's actually pretty scary how much you sound like her. I only started cutting about three months ago, and I am desperately (sp?) trying to stop, before I completely lose control. This is as scary for me as it is for some of you people. I believe that I usually have a lot of self control. When I first cut myself, I was astounded. I could not believe myself. I had never understood how anyone could inflict pain on themself and then suddenly, voila, I got it. So please, don't judge people by what they do. If you have friends who cut, don't immediately assume they are psychotic and/or suicidal and that they should be institutionalised. You really don't know what demons they could be fighting.

Thanks.
Rain Dancer



Ps. My e-mail address (hoping it will work this time):
dancing_crimson_tears@ hotmail dot com

[Saddiction]

Originally Posted by Dancing_in_rain

I am currently seeing my school counselor on a weekly basis and she has helped me through a lot of tough things. Once, my cuts wouldn't stop bleeding and I ran to her. She helped me with that and still is helping me.

One thing I have learned in the past is that you can only help someone who wants it, otherwise it's a lost cause.

It's good that you are seeking help.

[Underwater Ophelia]

Yeah, I'm not sure she was really interested in stopping cutting, it's just that everyone else said it would be a good idea to stop.

[MollyMac]

Dancing-

Damn. I sound that old, eh?

No one really cares about where you posted this. Ain't no thang. I don't care where you posted this, I only care that you are ok. And I'm glad you are getting help- count yourself fortunate that your counselor understands cutting for what it is and not a suicide attempt like it was back in the day.

All the same, treat the wounds well, let them air and let them heal. Take care to avoid keeping them too moist and prone to infection. long loose sleeves, non stick gauze pads, and bacitracin zinc with peroxide or (owwww) lemon juice. It stings, but it helps fade scars if you are pasty. If you are darker, I heard mederms ia a better option.

All the same, take damn good care of yourself. You know you deserve better, you deserve to treat yourself better.

[Spiderstosilk]

I'm sorry if it seems like that was a how-to guide.

However, I believe if you've gotten to the end of your rope and just HAVE TO cut, then they should be as safe as possible. It's better for her to have a sterilized blade and antiseptic then some sharp she just randomely picked up.

I have heard of a great technique as of late though: When you feel like cutting, get a timer and set it for fifteen minutes. Then isolate yourself from sharp things, and do somthing else entirely. Tell yourself if you can wait 15 minutes, you can hurt yourself. ***BUT*** Once the fifteen minutes are up, you may find yourself not wanting to hurt yourself anymore. If you let it, the moment will pass. If you still do wan to hurt yourself, set the timer for another fifteen minutes. This can get you through a whole night, though I would recomend only using it in an emergency. [[Because doing it for a whole day would probably be really hard, and eventually fail.]] Or maybe calling a friend for those fifteen minutes.

I hope this will help someone.

[badteccy]

Originally Posted by IsolatedReptile

I've often made people very upset and uncomfortable with the fact that I turn the most inapropriate topics into jokes. I was thinking the same thing you were typing.

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Yea, ya do that often. I happen to take things to far though, and say some pretty bad things...remember my little abortion saying at Double TT last night? I am so ashamed...

[cryuntildeath]

I cut too dearie. Not necessarily proud of it, but not something I want to stop. Just know your bounderies. I'm not going to be the "Message me and talk about it" people....I hate them, who want to "help" when I feel like I'm helping myself for the time being. You can message me if you ever have a question..I'm not going to give ya tips on how to self-mutilate but I'm available always.

People, fuck off

[maggot]

STOP RESURRECTING DEAD THREADS.


You're seriously annoying.