Rant Thread - Page 92

Shi'ark · 03-03-2006, 07:03 AM

For Blushing Heliophobe

Quit your job, tell the guy who was your boss to fuck off, go get the degree, be the good mother we all think your be.
Every one here believes in you.

Deviant Kitten · 03-03-2006, 07:16 AM

BH - your boss sounds like an arrogant dickweed! I know that military peeps tend to be very big on commitment to their work, but doesn't he have the sense to realise that a parent's priority is always going to be their child and not their job?! Breastfeeding is so much healthier for a baby than formula is; maybe you should explain that to him. He probably wouldn't listen though... *sigh* Do what feels right to you, hun, and don't let your boss make you feel bad!

Shi'ark · 03-03-2006, 08:14 AM

I just run out of tea bags at work… SHIT!!!

Iriacynthe · 03-03-2006, 09:00 AM

I have this friend who's a few years older than I am, and I've always seen her as an example, in some way. When I got to know her I was 14, and I really wanted to be like her. Now I've grown up a bit, and I just want to be like myself, but I still admire her very much.
She's been together with her boyfriend for ages, and two years ago they married, and I've always seen them as an example of true love. A few days ago, she told me that she's seriously thinking of leaving him.

I was shocked. I knew they had some problems, but every couple has problems now and than, and I had no idea they were this serious. I really feel bad about this, not only because she's my friend and I want her to be happy, but also because their relationship represented a certain ideal to me, and that ideal of ever-lasting love suddenly seems very naive and unrealistic.

I feel very strange, and I just had to tell this to someone, so thank you all for being here and reading this.

Empty_Purple_Stars · 03-03-2006, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Blushing Heliophobe

Agh.

I'm gonna lose it.

Okay, so I work with jet fuel - JP8. This stuff has various carcinogens in it, including Benzene which causes birth defects. So, according to the Fetal Protection Act, I was removed from my regular job and here I sit on the computer.

My boss had asked me if I was considering breast feeding. I said yes, and he told me that I could stay out of the shop while I breastfed until I get out of the military.

Benzene is absorbed through your skin. That means I can't breastfeed my baby without passing on all the chemicals to him. But, he says that I should be feeling selfish for wanting to breastfeed my baby and that since formula is an option, I am the one putting my child at risk, not the AF.

FUCK, isn't that kind of like discrimination?

If I don't get this job, I think I'm going to get out on the pregnancy option before my baby is born. I don't want them telling me that I can or can't go 'express' (pump) milk, when everybody else is on a smoke break. I am tired of being in the damn military. I am just about halfway to my degree so I'm thinking of just getting out and finishing up my degree fulltime while being a SAHM.

The thing that bothers me the most is my boss constantly talking in the most PC terms that I am shortchanging the military by not being in my real job (IE PREGNANT) and how selfish it is of me to want to not go back (IE BREASTFEED) and how eventually I'm going to have to stop fishing for excuses (IE STOP WORRYING ABOUT MY CHILD'S HEALTH).

If you really wanted to press the issue, you DEFINITELY have a case for discrimination..

But this is the Military, so that would entail some serious Headaches on your part to accomplish. However it IS highly illegal what he is doing, and suprises the crap out of me because the US Military is very clear on what policy is in these issues. He's risking alot by advising you in this fashion. What a dumbass.

Breastfeeding your Baby is not only the best for his developement, but it is in my opinion the most special thing you can share with your child. I can honestly say I have never felt closer to another living human being, than when I was Breastfeeding my son.

Not to mention Benzene is EXTREMELY dangerous, and any amount you absorbed through your skin would in turn find its way into your breast milk.

I'm with you on this, if you can get out on a Pregnancy Option do it.

It's not worth the risk, especially if your boss is such a Manipulative Prick..

However, do be sure to report him as you do your Exit Interviews, at least that will go into his record. Plus if you decide to persure legal action AFTER you leave then it will be in his File and you will have a record of your complaint.

Fuck that Asshole. Connor's health is more important.

We're behind you 100% Girlie..

*Hugs*

Demonista, what E_E said!!
We've all done it at one time or another. I don't want to see you leave *sniffle* but I do understand if you need a break. We all adore you and are still counting the days until you are legal.. *Hee*

*smooches*

Disfunction · 03-03-2006, 02:22 PM

Nine Inch Nails concert was postponed until after this school year. That really pisses me off because I was all ready to see it, and it was going to be the highlight of this hellish weekend. Fuck you for being ill, Reznor! Fuck you!

Magpie_Tendencies · 03-03-2006, 04:20 PM

Had the flu vaccine and it's making me feel like crap. I felt fine when I got it done last night and tried to go to my Tae Kwon Do class but halfway through I started feeling really crap. Finished the evening by getting kicked in the head while I wasn't concentrating. Terrific.

WolfMoon · 03-03-2006, 06:01 PM

BH, sorry for not responding to your post, hun.

I was just incensed over what my customer had gone through.

I agree that breastfeeding is one of the most special things you can experience as a mother. I did it with both of my kiddos. Truly amazing!

Get out on the Pregnancy Thing, if your boss is being such a prick! While I'm all for doing your duty if you signed up, I also don't think it's right of your boss to manipulate you like that. You don't need to come back from maternity leave and deal with that bastard! You'll already be on an emotional rollercoaster as is. Factor in the likelyhood of post-partum depression and you're in for a tailspin.

Fuck that asshole! Get out of there for the safety of your sanity and the health of your child(lil Connor, I like that name. I'm Connor McCleod from the Clan McCleod.).

WolfMoon · 03-03-2006, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Disfunction

Nine Inch Nails concert was postponed until after this school year. That really pisses me off because I was all ready to see it, and it was going to be the highlight of this hellish weekend. Fuck you for being ill, Reznor! Fuck you!

Damn Trent for being human!

Empty_Purple_Stars · 03-03-2006, 07:48 PM

It's funny how one phone call can change everything..

My Mother just called and my Grandmother is not expected to live through the night..

And I am here 2300 Miles away while my MiMi dies..

I am waiting on my Dad to check his voice mail, so I can give him the news.

I didn't want my Mom to have to deal with this alone.

Mimi was doing so much better and had finally been able to move back to her home with a live in Nurse in January. She was getting her Spring Orchid Bulbs ready to plant.

And Now She is going to Die.

Somehow I have to find a way to Sprout Wings and Fly to Texas..

But I won't make it before...Sob..What the Fuck?

I keep thinking about the advice I gave Disfunction, and how Ironic it all seems now..

I want to be there when she dies, and I can't..

I don't know how I am going to tell the Hellspawn..
I don't know how I am going to tell my Dad.

I want to be there for My Mom.
I want to be there for MiMi..

Sob..

Disfunction · 03-03-2006, 08:13 PM

My grandmother died yesterday at 5:15 pm. The took her off of life support at 2:00 pm the previous day. I didn't bother mentioning it because I didn't want to. I know what you're going through, EPS. I was here while the rest of my family was there, and there's even doubt as to whether or not I will have the luxury of making it for her funeral due to academic complications.

I hope you work through it all.

03-03-2006, 08:19 PM

EPS... I am so sorry that you need to go through that... If you need to make my shoulder wet with tears and wipe your snot on my shirt, feel free... and bend my ear if you want.

Dis, that goes for you too...

*opens arms* Much love and good thoughts to you guys.

Empty_Purple_Stars · 03-04-2006, 12:00 AM

Thanks Guys.

It doesn't even seem Real yet..

And I'm still 2300 Motherfucking Miles away, and I can't do shit about it.

I'm just wandering around the house, with my cell phone clutched in my hand, waiting for the call. I feel so Helpless.

Fucking Sob.

Dis, I'm so sorry for Your Loss..
Just know your not alone, and I will try and get a hold of you sometime soon..
Big Hugs.

And the Wild Regrets and the Bloody Sweats,
None knew so well as I:
That he who lives more lives than one,
More deaths than one shall die.

- Oscar Wilde
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edible_eye · 03-04-2006, 12:26 AM

jesus...

dis - http://anchoredbygrace.com/smileys/hugs.gif i'm so sorry, man.

and e_p_s -
http://www.wtv-zone.com/sunshine/hpd/gifs/hugs1.gif

and just because the hug pic for eps is bigger doesn't mean i'm giving more love there. that's just the way the pics worked out. i wish neither of you was feeling the pain of loss.

and blushing - isn't there someone you can ask to mediate between you and your boss? there must be a neutral party there to help work it out.

03-04-2006, 01:21 AM

EPS, you now you can call me if you need an ear. I love you girl. Just remember, she knows you love her no matter how far away you may be.

*Tight Hugs

Please keep me updated. You are one of my closest friends. I want you to be well.

Empty_Purple_Stars · 03-04-2006, 02:13 AM

She's gone..
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Goodbye Grandma...
I Love You
We'll Miss Y ou V ery Much....
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Though here at journey's end I lie
In darkness buried deep,
Beyond all towers strong and high,
Beyond all mountains steep,
Above all shadows rides the Sun
And Stars for ever dwell:
I will not say the Day is done,
Nor bid the Stars farewell.

~JRR Tolkien
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Sanctus Dei · 03-04-2006, 02:58 AM

EPS... I'm sorry.

edible_eye · 03-04-2006, 03:16 AM

http://www.smudo.org/blog/archives/i...C_0173-720.jpg

i'm sorry for your loss, e_p_s.

Deviant Kitten · 03-04-2006, 03:56 AM

EPS and Dis - I'm sorry to hear of your losses. I know that you don't know me very well, but if it means anything you are both in my thoughts. Much love - Deviant xxxxx

Wise Child · 03-04-2006, 05:04 AM

E_P_S, I'm so sorry to hear that you're losing a loved one. Hang in there. *sends you pretty things like kitties and rainbows*

JuliaGaltic · 03-04-2006, 05:25 AM

Oh EPS, I don't know what to say honey. I know it's a sad time, but if it helps at all, I will be praying for you, your family, and I'll be praying that your grandma is in a better place and had an easy time crossing over to where ever it is we go.

My thoughts are with you, feel free to PM me or send me an instant message. If you ever want my cell phone number, feel free to ask for that as well. 4am, it doesn't matter. Any time you need to talk, I'm here.

*big bear hug and a kiss on the forehead*

03-04-2006, 10:58 AM

It is times like this that i wish i were more eloquent with words.

Just know that my heart sincerely goes out to you both, EPS and Dis.

If there is anything that i can do, just let me know.

Lackluster_Heavens · 03-04-2006, 03:25 PM

EPS and Dis, let me say i'm very sorry for your losses and I know what your going though, in my short time on this earth I have lost a brother, a father, and both sets of my grandparents, all when I was old enough to remeber all the funerals. So my deepest sorrow for your losses. I hope for them to find a better place, and for you two to find peace and happiness.

Disfunction · 03-04-2006, 03:37 PM

I keep trying to think of something to say, anything to say, but I'm lacking in anything, in any sense. So I'll just try to get something out there, even if it's minimal.

Firstly, thank you to everyone for your kind words. It means a lot to me. I know that I'm going to work through this and it will be just fine... because this is the kind of sadness that I almost seem to welcome when it comes. It's natural. It's understandable. In time, it will go away and it'll just be a faint thought. I wasn't close enough to my grandmother to warrant excessive amounts of tears, but... still. For those who know of me and my emotional history, though, I just wanted to make sure that no one worried about me going to an extreme because of it.

Secondly.. EPS, I'm really sorry that this had to happen to you as well. Death seems to be creeping around this season among friends like it's got to reach a quota. My thoughts and whatever secular equivalent I have to prayers are with you.

Empty_Purple_Stars · 03-04-2006, 04:02 PM

I really don't know what to say..

It all seems like a terrible fucking dream..

I didn't even know she had gotten sick again until last night, hours before she died. All because no one wanted to worry me, because worry and stress make the disease I have flare up much worse. I can barely walk from one room to the other right now. But I told them I could do it, would do it. I don't care how ill I am, I want to be there..

And Now She's Just Gone..

I didn't get to talk to her..

I didn't get to tell her how much we love her, how much she's meant to us..

She died holding my Mom's hand, moments after my Mom and the rest of the family finished reading the 23rd Psalm to her from the Bible.

It was apparently very Peaceful and she just quietly let go when they reached the end of the Psalm.

My Parents won't let me attend the funeral, because they are afraid that I will end up in the Hospital if I try and make the trip in the condition I am in currently. I am absolutely crushed that I can't be there to say Goodbye to her. I can't be there for my Mom. I can't be there for the rest of my family. I can only sit here in this useless crippled body and mourn.

It's not right, I should be there when they bury her. Not here 2300 miles away..

Thank you all for your kind words and prayers, it means alot.

Dis, I'm here if you need me and I appreciate your Warm Thoughts as well..

It just doesn't seem real..

Could someone please just wake me and tell me this is all a Bad Dream?

Fucking Sob...