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11-04-2009, 12:55 AM
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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So. Just thought of something. One bedroom apartment. Two people. One sewing machine. One sewing table. One duct tape dressform. Three fabric bins. What's a girl to do?
Where should I sew without being in the way?! AAArgh.
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11-04-2009, 01:03 AM
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#52
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Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Cali
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Is there perhaps a corner that is somewhat out of the way? My current apartment has a "dining nook" that Jake has made into his office space and that seems to be working out fine for all of us.
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11-04-2009, 01:39 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Gallifrey
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Well the one we're thinking of doesn't. There's a large living room area that branches into a dining room ans small kitchen and there are doors leading off the living room to the bath and the bedroom, but I suppose I can create my own litlte nook somehow.
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11-04-2009, 07:57 PM
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#54
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: 750 mi north of AZ equivalent to Derry, Maine
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The greatest piece of man advice i ever got:
"there are three simple things to keeping a man happy. Feed 'em, Fuck 'em, and leave 'em alone."
This phase is in no way meant to be demeaning or cruel to either side, it just works really, really well, and then when you do spend time together he will give it more attention and you more respect.
That really is just about all they want. If he wants something more than that he will tell you.
If he says you are beautiful, sexy, wonderful, etc., believe him and don't argue. He obviously believes it, don't point out little bull shit you think is wrong and distract him from what he appreciates.
If he is willing to help with things, great, he will. If you ask him to do something or change something more than twice, and nothing happens, it probably never will happen. That's why you make each time clear and succinct, when there are no distractions. Be specific, and explain the "what" and "how" before the "why" and "how it makes you feel when he doesn't do it". Those parts are important too, but the first two take precedence. ( as a side note, trying to "talk" during sex or interrupting the game or a WoW raid does not count, that will only make him remember you being pissy and not giving a shit about what is important to him) Asking (or whining, nagging, suggesting or reminding) again won't help, and will drive you crazy.
The best way to keep a relationship going good is to make sure YOU stay emotionally healthy. Make sure you have a life outside of his interests, friends, etc. make sure you have "my" friends in addition to "our" friends.
As a side note, make sure you ALWAYS possess the ability to be financially independent if you need to be, and ALWAYS have transportation options that are your own. This helps ensure you are in the relationship because you choose to be, not because you feel as though you have to be.
Now, with all my "worldly wisdom" ( LoL) bared to Gnet, good luck, and may you have many happy co-habitating years ahead of you!
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(shouts) WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG??!!?
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Because some people are dicks. And not everyone else is gay.
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11-05-2009, 08:44 AM
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#55
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Join Date: Jan 2007
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Quote:
Originally Posted by emeraldlonewoulf
The greatest piece of man advice i ever got:
"there are three simple things to keeping a man happy. Feed 'em, Fuck 'em, and leave 'em alone."
This phase is in no way meant to be demeaning or cruel to either side, it just works really, really well, and then when you do spend time together he will give it more attention and you more respect.
That really is just about all they want.
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I find that pretty fucking offensive. A woman has to clean the dishes too.
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11-05-2009, 09:17 PM
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#56
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Gallifrey
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So what do you define as financially stable? I will soon have three jobs and I am going to school but I could never afford a place by myself without someone else being a roommate. Does that mean I'm not financially stable? I can pay all my bills and I don't ask him to buy stuff for me. Does that count?
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11-05-2009, 09:36 PM
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#57
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Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Cali
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Don't worry about it, as long as you don't feel like you need to stay with him for financial reasons then it isn't a problem. I wont lie Jake and I have both been at least a little financially dependent on each other at some point, where we could afford our bills but the other paid for everything else, and it hasn't been an issue for us.
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11-13-2009, 04:22 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: 750 mi north of AZ equivalent to Derry, Maine
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Above, I said "financially independent", not "finacially stable". What i meant was, make sure you have some form of income that is your own, and maintain your own banking ability. Sharing expenses is fine, you can always make do with a little, as long as the little is there.
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I find that pretty fucking offensive. A woman has to clean the dishes too.
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Hell no! We made a deal, I will do all the laundry, wash, dry, match socks, fold or hang, put away, reattach buttons, patch, I even use the freakin' iron under duress, but he does the godamn dishes! Especially if feeding him involves cooking :P
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"Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with catsup." - unknown
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(shouts) WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG??!!?
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Originally Posted by Beneath the Shadows
Because some people are dicks. And not everyone else is gay.
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11-13-2009, 06:46 PM
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#59
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Dirty South
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Whatever you do, be sure to cheat on him as much as possible. He'll appreciate that, and the both of you will begin forming an unbreakable bond.
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02-04-2010, 10:57 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: Georgia
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can't really argue with woulf. make sure to divide yall's time between alone time and togeather time. it adds value to everyones time becuase you have a choice.
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02-05-2010, 08:02 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Seattle
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Identify bubbles. What I mean by that is, there are some activities that absorb one's concentration. For me it's writing/designing code. When I'm in my bubble I do not want to be disturbed until the house is on fire. My wife, also, has her bubble activities. Learn what these things are (for yourself and your S.O.) as they are an important part of "me time". Breaking the bubble leads to more useless arguments then are necessary. For most people, moving in together there will be enough of those arguments without adding more.
So, identify the bubbles. Once that is done both of you need to be ready to have the bubble broken once in a while. It happens once in a while and it's not the end of the world.
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02-05-2010, 08:41 AM
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Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: North Florida
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PJ, if your apartment has a walk-in closet, that might suffice for a sewing corner. You'd be surprised how much can fit along one or two walls, especially if you can tolerate keeping your fabric bins on high shelves or having a few clothes hanging above your workspace. Plus, when you've finished something, you can just turn around and hang it up on the rod ; )
Also, I agree with the need for both together and separate time. If you two never do things independently of one another, you won't have anything interesting to discuss. However, if you don't set aside dedicated time to do things together, you won't have a chance to discuss them anyway.
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02-05-2010, 09:54 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
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Wow, we've resurrected this thread two and a half months later ... I'm sure PJ is living with the bloke and largely no longer in need of the advice.
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02-05-2010, 10:25 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Seattle
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Crap...fucking hell...well, guess I can't bitch as I didn't see it until Ben pointed it out. Fuck I hate that.
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02-05-2010, 11:56 AM
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Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: North Florida
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*facepalm* Serves me right for not checking the date : )
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02-05-2010, 01:56 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Bliss
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I only have one tip from my experience of living with someone I was dating. ~clears throat~ If you run out of tiolette paper and money, public restrooms and national parks have free tiolette paper to their visitors and having been on the property makes you a visitor.
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02-05-2010, 03:18 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Gallifrey
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Wow, we've resurrected this thread two and a half months later ... I'm sure PJ is living with the bloke and largely no longer in need of the advice.
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Not true. In all actuality we have since broken up and therefor I have no need for said advice, but the space saving tips are excellent and always useful.
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02-05-2010, 03:51 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Um, lower, oh yeah, uh, uh ... YES THERE!
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Okay. We really ought to start a "Tips for organizing your things" thread ... it would stay relevant longer! LOL!
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Lead me not into temptation ... follow me, I know a shortcut!
As the poets have mournfully sung,
death takes the innocent young,
the rolling in money,
the screamingly funny,
and those who are very well hung.
Your days are numbered - 26,280 per person on average - 2,000,000,000 heartbeats ... tick, tick, tick
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02-05-2010, 11:15 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Gallifrey
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Subtitle: Because relationships fade, and organization can last a lifetime...
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