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Originally Posted by Grausamkeit
I dislike over-categorization in sex as much as I hate it in music. Sometimes it just seems like a way for a different people to describe the same goddamn thing.
Look at me! I'm super-ultra-pan-poly-bi-trans-fantasi-sexual!
Why do people put so much emphasis on what others like in the fucking fuck room? Fuck's sake, people. Just fuck and be happy!
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I know what you mean, but trans isn't about who you want to fuck, its about your own gender.
In an ideal society labels wouldn't matter. Now, I don't tell everyone I meet "I'm queer!" or make a big deal out of it, but I do think labeling myself as such is important to normalize lgbt identities and sexualities. Its still Other to be anything but straight, you know? And a lot of people don't think LGBT issues matter, I think up here particularly there's been apathy since we got genderless marriage protected by law.
EXAMPLE. I have a cousin who is Conservative, and her own brother is gay, and its just like, why would you ever try to convince me to vote for Harper? As both a queer woman, a feminist, and a cousin to a great guy who happens to be gay, why would I ever vote for someone who fought against same sex marriage and has set back the clock on women's rights? I did think it important to let her know that she's voting for someone who's really hurting people she loves. Before my cousin came out most of that side of the family were deeply homophobic, sometimes it really does take someone you know who's awesome and normal to realize that you're being a dickhead and queer sexuality really isn't queer.
Even if I end up married or partnered with a man, I'll acknowledge the privilege I'll have as passing for straight, but I'd still identify as queer. I think thats also a big problem with many studies on queer sexualities as well, at least an article in the Developmental Psychology journal that I found that study in earlier said something to the effect, they look for who you partner off with, so if you end up with a man they'll say you ended up straight. And its such a weird thing, we know that you could be with a woman all your life and be a closeted gay man, why is it so hard to understand that you can be in a heterosexual relationship without being heterosexual?
