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04-20-2009, 12:23 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2009
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How do u break up with someone....
..... and not come off as a total asshole?
I've been seeing this guy for just over a month and I just don't feel anything for him. He is really really nice and basically everything I'd want from a partner but there is just no spark for me. I've been waiting for something to just click but now I know there isn't going to be any clicking and I have to break it off.
I don't want him to hate me and I'd love to stay friends but it's heading to a serious place now and I can't be intimate with someone I'm not in love with.
The thing that makes it worse is that I only said I'd go on a date with him to force myself to stop thinking about another guy whom i love more than myself.
So basically this guy I don't have feelings for him...how fucked is that!
I want to hide under a rock. I never EVER thought I'd have to break up with someone. help!
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04-20-2009, 12:29 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Heaven and Earth
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Just tell him how you feel, but gently. Depending on how deep the relationship is, it might be best to tell him in person. Make sure he knows that you don't hate him or anything, but make it clear that you just aren't feeling it.
It'll probably sting for him for a little bit, but you can't help that; it's much MUCH better to break it off now than to wait for things to get deeper and thus, even more difficult to break off.
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04-20-2009, 12:30 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 281
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There's no nice way of doing it. You just have to go for it, rip off the bandaid. Meet the guy face to face and explain that you don't have feelings for him. DON'T do it over text or phonecall etc. That's cowardly.
It was also very irresponsible of you to lead him on in the first place. It's not right to toy with people's emotions like that.
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04-20-2009, 12:33 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2009
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i have tried a l0ts 0f time but everytime when i'm infr0nt 0f him he seem t0o inn0cent and i d0nt have en0ugh c0urage!!!!i regret t0 have dated him...but what t0 d0 i was helpless i really wanted t0 f0rget the one i really l0ve which i've failed t0 d0!!!!!!!!!!!
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04-20-2009, 12:36 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Heaven and Earth
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Princess: You can't help your feelings, and there's no point in regretting things. If you keep dating this guy when you don't love him, you aren't giving him a chance to find someone else that will.
You just have to suck it up and tell him. Trust me; the sooner, the better. Waiting will only hurt him more.
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04-20-2009, 12:36 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2009
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Quote:
Originally Posted by dabbadmc
It was also very irresponsible of you to lead him on in the first place. It's not right to toy with people's emotions like that.
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thats n0t what i wanted t0 d0 but i'm the first girl he loved and he proposed me t0o many time at last i said "yes".....h0w w0uld i kn0w it w0uld end like that!
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04-20-2009, 12:37 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Heaven and Earth
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Princess: Wait...he proposed marriage to you..?
I'm a bit confused. Is any of this post for real?
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04-20-2009, 12:44 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Posts: 52
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n0t marriage...bwahahahahha
i'm still t0o y0ung....i think i'm the y0ungest in this f0rum!!hIhI
i said yes t0 date him..l0ol
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04-20-2009, 12:47 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Posts: 4,678
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Tell him, "My father has made it clear that I am forbidden to consort with you. Goodbye." No man can argue with patria potestas.
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04-20-2009, 12:49 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2008
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Originally Posted by PrInCeSs 0f G0tH
thats n0t what i wanted t0 d0 but i'm the first girl he loved and he proposed me t0o many time at last i said "yes".....h0w w0uld i kn0w it w0uld end like that!
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You shouldn't have acted like a dumb bitch and told him 'no' again.
If all else fails, follow JCC's sound advice.
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04-20-2009, 01:01 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2009
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Quote:
Originally Posted by JCC
Tell him, "My father has made it clear that I am forbidden to consort with you. Goodbye." No man can argue with patria potestas.
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yaaaa i think i'll d0 that....
and i'm n0t a bitch 0r anything else....and i'm sick of l0ving s0me0ne,,,its always him!!!!!it makes me mad that i'm n0t like the 0thers wh0 have many b0yfriend and can f0rget their ex....its fucking shit at this age
i'm fed up!
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04-20-2009, 01:04 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Heaven and Earth
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Originally Posted by PrInCeSs 0f G0tH
..its fucking shit at this age..
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And that age would be..?
By the way, crushes and one-sided loves tend to happen a lot in life until you find your Beloved. It sucks at -any- age, but it happens.
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04-20-2009, 01:10 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Posts: 52
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Originally Posted by Tam Li Hua
And that age would be..?
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16 
i already f0und my bel0ved but he isnt with me!!!!!!
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04-20-2009, 02:20 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Massachusetts
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Originally Posted by PrInCeSs 0f G0tH
yaaaa i think i'll d0 that....
and i'm n0t a bitch 0r anything else....and i'm sick of l0ving s0me0ne,,,its always him!!!!!it makes me mad that i'm n0t like the 0thers wh0 have many b0yfriend and can f0rget their ex....its fucking shit at this age
i'm fed up!
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JCC was joking. lol.
Anyway, I recommend you fake your own death. If you're lucky, he'll kill himself out of despair, and you won't have to move to another state!
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04-20-2009, 02:49 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Los Angeles
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16? Not the youngest then.
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04-20-2009, 03:30 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Harlem
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He must be a REAL piece of work if he's in love with you.
Bless his soul...
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04-20-2009, 09:13 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Athens, GA
Posts: 1,696
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Text message breakup.
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04-20-2009, 09:26 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Earth.
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You've only been with him a month.
It's not a big deal.
Just call him and tell him it's not working out for you, but if he likes, being friends would be cool.
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04-20-2009, 10:32 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Posts: 3,360
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Tell him you're way smarter than him, and therefore, can't be with him. It has to be true. ha.
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04-21-2009, 04:46 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Posts: 52
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ummm i d0nt kn0w...t0m0rr0w i'll meet him and decide!!!its a mess...
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