Fetishes and Sexual Quirks (X-rated)

[Ben Lahnger]

Originally Posted by Saya

I'm kinda happy to find out there's such thing as a glasses fetish though XD I never got the appeal but at least there's one thing about me guys might find hot I guess.

Don't underrate yourself. For the right guy, your creativity and imagination, your intelligence and humor, your self-awareness and liberation from the typical self-imposed psychological restraints that most women impose on themselves ... will make you a very interesting catch indeed. Any woman can do the physical act; and it definitely is NOT just all about what you look like, regardless of what society may tell you. And there are guys out there that like their women to look exactly the way you do, as well.

I agree with you on the societal programming of women. I've known plenty of women who were turned on by visual stimulation ... pictures and videos ... but most did not feel comfortable admitting it openly.

[TheFeatheredÆtheling]

I agree with Ben, Miss Saya. You should not underrate yourself. As far as your appearance goes, I saw a photo of you on the picture thread a while back, and you're definitely cute. It's interesting that you use Wonder Woman as your avatar because the picture did actually resemble a super heroine's disguise ~ kind of the slightly awkward but irresistably sexy librarian look ~ a woman who might try to blend in but who's far too unique to do so. It sounds absurd, I know; I hope that you won't take any of that wrongly.

Your name "Saya" is interesting to me too. Considering your interests, I doubt that you chose this name simply for its pleasant sound. I really like the name.

[Ben Lahnger]

I found another good writer of erotica. This time it's 37 year old man (or older; not sure when his "about me" piece was written, but the most recent dating on any of the erotica is 2003) who goes by the pseudonym Jordan Shelbourne. He is a professional technical writer who posts erotica on the web as a hobby.

The Stories

He writes deliberate stories that don't always rush to their conclusions but tease and lead you on, filled with detail that makes it more real than the average of what passes for erotic writing on the net. It's good, thoughtful, passionate prose ... and I recommend it highly.

I'd suggest starting with Unwrap Party (a story of revenge sex) and Unmasked (an exploration of what turns on a retired super hero) and Think Of It (which is a tale of forced sex ... or is it?)

I also like some of his non-fiction writing, particularly the stuff in the rants section. Anyone who can come up with the term "balonium generator" is alright in my book.

[Ben Lahnger]

Oh my! This is by the same writer, and is definitely worth two minutes of your time!

Tease

Ha ha ha ha ha!

[Saya]

Originally Posted by Ben Lahnger

Don't underrate yourself. For the right guy, your creativity and imagination, your intelligence and humor, your self-awareness and liberation from the typical self-imposed psychological restraints that most women impose on themselves ... will make you a very interesting catch indeed. Any woman can do the physical act; and it definitely is NOT just all about what you look like, regardless of what society may tell you. And there are guys out there that like their women to look exactly the way you do, as well.

Originally Posted by TheFeatheredÆtheling

I agree with Ben, Miss Saya. You should not underrate yourself. As far as your appearance goes, I saw a photo of you on the picture thread a while back, and you're definitely cute. It's interesting that you use Wonder Woman as your avatar because the picture did actually resemble a super heroine's disguise ~ kind of the slightly awkward but irresistably sexy librarian look ~ a woman who might try to blend in but who's far too unique to do so. It sounds absurd, I know; I hope that you won't take any of that wrongly.

Your name "Saya" is interesting to me too. Considering your interests, I doubt that you chose this name simply for its pleasant sound. I really like the name.

Dawww, you guys made my day ^_^

[isobel black]

Originally Posted by Ben Lahnger

For the right guy, your creativity and imagination, your intelligence and humor, your self-awareness and liberation from the typical self-imposed psychological restraints that most women impose on themselves ... will make you a very interesting catch indeed.

Whereas for those less impeded by the patriarchal and heteronormative beauty ideal you're pretty hot regardless of your other positive traits.

[Saya]

Oh thats right baby, talk feminist to me.

[Ben Lahnger]

I've decided I wanted to highlight another one of Jordan Shelbourne's stories from the erotica site I wrote about above, because it's a VERY interesting take on that anonymous sex fantasy that some of us share. (I've actually scratched that itch once with very satisfying results, but that's a story for another time.)

No Names

I really wanted to post the whole story here, but even though the author gives permission (with credit) I wasn't sure if G-net administration would be okay with posting a full piece of erotic fiction here. I think I will ask in the functionality thread.

Meanwhile, I would highly encourage anyone who likes reading erotica, and especially anyone who has been entertained by the fantasy of having sex with a stranger, to click on the link above and read the story.

[Apathy's_Child]

To be honest, I prefer linking to longer pieces anyway. That way people can just read it if they want, instead of having to scroll past pages of stories they aren't interested in to read the member comments.

[Saya]

Word. I wouldn't mind a thread for X rated erotica, but when I click on this thread sometimes all I want to read is what sick things people are into XD

[Ben Lahnger]

Perhaps a new thread is in order. I think the stories should be posted there, because that will be the only point of that thread, and skipping over the occasional text run there won't break your mouse, I promise. Or, for some, that will be a thread to avoid.

[Ben Lahnger]

Originally Posted by Saya

I'm kinda happy to find out there's such thing as a glasses fetish though XD I never got the appeal but at least there's one thing about me guys might find hot I guess.

Hey, Saya! Check THIS out!

http://i30.photobucket.com/albums/c3...dchicksuv9.jpg

WOW! Those guys in your area are really missing out!

[Saya]

Hahahahaha! Wow is right.

[Ben Lahnger]

Explosive Pornstar By Day, Nerdy Programmer By Night

SOURCE (with censored pics)

If you don't know Jelena Jensen, you're missing a lot. And I'm not talking about her beautiful face, vertigo-inducing curves, and all-natural 34F attributes. Or about the fact that she's a porn actress. All those things aside, Jelena's a supernerd.

A supernerd who programs her entire site, from top to bottom, using PHP, HTML, Cascade Style Sheets, and Javascript, all connected to your usual MySQL database. From the registration to the videos to the galleries, she does it all. And she also does the sites for many of her friends.

Yes, all your dreams just came true.

Ben - A smart and cute woman with the kind of boobs I like to obsess over from time to time. So it sounds like it might be as interesting to talk to her as it is to look at her. Wonder if I can find a clip of her talking somewhere online ... hmmmmmmmmmm.

[Saya]

The comments are horrible again! WHY DO I NEVER LEARN NOT TO READ THE COMMENTS. Actually, it was just two that I thought were disturbing, but still.

Although Ben if you want an interesting, thoughtful read, you should pick up Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power And A World Without ****. Its an anthology of essays and there's one in particular that I think you'd like, I can't remember the name and my copy isn't with my right now but its a four way (heh) interview with four sex workers, not geeky per se but very intelligent ladies.

[Ben Lahnger]

Yes, I would be very interested in that. I've read some fascinating articles online from women sex workers in various aspects of the industry, and there's some interesting views on female empowerment from that quarter, and no small amount of enlightenment about male behavior and attitudes too.

What I also like is that often those women understand that while the respect and boundaries need to be in place for both sexes so they feel in control of their own bodies and lives, these women also understand that a man can feel passion and lust for a woman he admires and respects ... and as long as he manages his behavior appropriately, that's a good thing.

[d0p3y]

prostitutes should be the next big role models for young girls....

Hey lil girl, why use that big brain of yours to contribute something to society when you can sell your self dignity, it's much more valuable!

I laugh at this .... here I go ... jajajajaja

[Ben Lahnger]

So you're saying no one should ever become a masseuse, a physical therapist, a personal trainer, a construction worker or many other careers that require you to use your body to make a living because it's not dignified?

I know a few sex workers who would be irritated with you for trying to tell them what they can or cannot do with their own bodies.

[d0p3y]

no what i am saying is that , Yes some of those woman are intelligent, but in your posts your making them seem as some sort of wonder woman and i grant you they have alot of life experience but they would not be the most proper people to teach "anyone" about good life choices. IMO

and it's no about woman here, i have the same level of respect for a gigolo i do for a hooker.

[ShadowxMakerZ]

Originally Posted by triggerhappi26

well if you're into voyeurism then having your roomates watch, or walk in on you is more thrilling.

I would agree...

[Sinjob]

Neck kisses get my dick off...HARD. My instinct after is to grab her head and...yep.

[Saya]

Originally Posted by d0p3y

no what i am saying is that , Yes some of those woman are intelligent, but in your posts your making them seem as some sort of wonder woman and i grant you they have alot of life experience but they would not be the most proper people to teach "anyone" about good life choices. IMO

and it's no about woman here, i have the same level of respect for a gigolo i do for a hooker.

The post made her sound like some sort of wonder woman because people don't expect sex workers to be fully human, to have, you know, interests and emotions. It shouldn't be news that a woman knows how to create a website, but there it is.

As for prostitutes, most of them are abused (60% are diagnosed with PTSD) and it is incredibly dangerous work, that exploits the most vulnerable in society (most start as children and teenagers, for example), and part of the reason the violence against them is so tolerated is because no one is willing to give them a voice or even give them any respect as human beings at all.

[d0p3y]

saya, i admit i was talking out of pure ignorance, the only thing that made me unconfortable is that i have a 12 year old little sister and i would not want her to find a post like that and get the impression that these woman are actually in safe or self rewarding career, and become a victim of this whole bussiness that is built on exploitation of 'vulnerable' woman.

in retrospect i guess i was a little paranoid, but i bet most of those woman that are in the porn or prostitution business were brain washed when they were quite young, and only got 'Intelligence' as a natural process of maturing.

[Saya]

No, many of them are just as intelligent as anyone else. Some of them, granted the minority, do have good jobs (A woman who posts erotica pictures of herself on her own website isn't quite the same as a prostitute who had to do it because there was no other choice, right?) and some find it empowering even (I know dominatrices who *really* do enjoy it), and others its internalized and a defense mechanism. When its all you've done, and you're suffering mental health issues because of it, its not easy to get out. A prostitute may be very clever with computers or math but if she's suffering from PTSD its going to be really hard to find a job, or you know, if her pimp might kill her if she tries to leave (half of the mortality rate of prostitutes in the US is due to murder)

[d0p3y]

I guess, i was generalizing because all i've been exposed to is men coming to young girls asking them if they wanted to be "models" and prostitues on the street being pimped. So i guess i was missing the side of the women who are self made if you will. always glad to be taken out of my ignorance thanks saya. ^__^