Sexuality

[thetiesonyourcorset]

i see...well sure if you wanna try it then go ahead up to you!!!

[Ben Lahnger]

Originally Posted by Xnguela

I'd like to try to watch porn with my boyfriend. Not sure we'll like it, but it could be fun.

Ooh! New look for Gothic ... wow!

Xng, the experience can be widely different just depending on what material you decide to view. A bad first experience can color your expectations in a way that may not fairly reflect the whole of the genre.

There are a number of good reference points around the web for people who are looking for guidance. I would suggest starting with the Erotica Guide at Sexuality.org - as good a place to begin as any I can think of. Also, the article "Perfect Picks for Couples by Violet Blue" from Good Vibrations may be helpful.

[thetiesonyourcorset]

hehe...sounds like it was fun whatever it was,hehe

[joyslayer]

Porn, I find it not very useful. But this is just my way of viewing it. I happen to be quite "ready" so to speak just when my eyes met him. I can't help it. Although I have actually heard some good things about porn and your partner, but I believe it really depends on the realationship you happen to have with your mate before yout hink about it. Many people do not like the fact that it was someone else that made you horny. But then again, some really don't care.

[Sanctus Dei]

*sigh* almost any porn I've seen is sad, poorly acted, and just plain cheesy. BUT that's no indication of the whole industry. I'd rather play act my own porn then watch one.. it's twice the fun.

[dreamforthedead]

Lots more fun.. I saw this porn tape that my brother was selling (he steals it from my dad then sells it at school) and it was 4 70-something year olds going at it.. That put me off for a while

[thetiesonyourcorset]

ewww that's rather disgusting *pukes*

[Blushing Heliophobe]

Ummm...love is when your butt sags and the entire senior citizen sex community says you're still beautiful?

I can see that as an inspirational chain email...

[Ben Lahnger]

Originally Posted by dreamforthedead

Lots more fun.. I saw this porn tape that my brother was selling (he steals it from my dad then sells it at school) and it was 4 70-something year olds going at it.. That put me off for a while

Wow! Talk about getting gypped ... sort of like stealing a carton of DVD's from Blockbuster, opening the box and finding out it's a bunch of Barney videos ...

well, except for the gross-out factor! Ha ha ha!

[Ben Lahnger]

Pornstar wanabe no more?

I am a closet exhibitionist ... let me explain that. I have no interest in flashing or exposing myself to unwilling participants. No danger of me ever being one of those raincoat weirdos. So I'm an exhibitionist in that I like being watched by willing participants. I've had opportunities to indulge this interest some in the past. This also explains my fascination with being a pornstar.

So my friend Nikki is creating new material to promote her phone sex business on the web. And since she knows my interests pretty well, she proposed a project to me.

She has no real interest in being on camera herself. But she does not want to have to hire female talent and go through all the headaches of the model releases, testing and regulation compliance, at least not yet. She also knows that I am curious but cautious about being on camera myself. And she wants to make a video to promote her business on her website.

So she's asked me to make a video with her. It would involve nothing more than a camera focused on her tits, and me jacking off on them. The whole thing would be a close-up ... no faces or main-body detail. So it would be a taste of that kind of experience without really exposing myself, so to speak.

It sounds like fun, and she does have the cutest 36C breasts. So I am interested. Although there are other, more involved things I would usually prefer doing with her. But I guess I'll tell her that this will just be round one!

I let you know if I decide to do it.

[Bride_Of_Satan]

I have no problem with porn. I wouldn't watch it at my age but I consider it another form of acting, only more intimate. What I do have a problem with is prositutes. What is the point? Okay, they give guys a few good nights but where is the love exactly? Like I said if porn is like acting then it means nothing either way, you don't have to love the person you're doing and you don't have to do it for a living. Prostitution is the complete opposite thing.

[Ben Lahnger]

I don't think any prostitutes are confused about the difference between sex for money and sex for love.

I used to live with a woman who was acting as an escort and also ran her own agency. From that experience, I've decided that women should have the choice about what they do with their bodies. I have also learned that most women who sell their bodies for sex end up with a screwed up view of men, and it affects their ability to have a decent relationship. So I'm not saying it's a good choice, but they should have the right to choose it if they want.

My biggest issue is with guys who are married or otherwise committed to a monogamous relationship, who see escorts. I have a real problem with that.

[katsumy]

Originally Posted by Xnguela

Prostitutes are also actresses, if you think about it. They screw men and pretend to like it. What's the difference between that and porn? Same amount of emotional involvement. It's just a job. They don't think that they're in love, they think they're making money. Kind of like porn stars.

I personally feel that prostitution should be legalized, if for nothing else than for the sake of the prostitutes. We could regulate it, then, make sure everyone's clean and of age. I think that would be the right thing to do. After all, prostitution's one of the world's oldest occupations.

"prostitution's one of the world's oldest occupations" - Yes thats true, and I like the idea of legalizing it, after all for some woman that their way of life (to have money).

[Ben Lahnger]

I'm always amazed by the abilities of the human brain. I also am amused by the selective way that it chooses to use those abilities.

For instance, I can misplace my car keys 3 feet from where I'm sitting. But I can spot a woman who is not wearing a bra from a block away!

[Sanctus Dei]

*giggles as she imagines a prostitute warehouse where each employee has to punch a time clock and claim her tips to keep in line with taxes*

So what exactly does "love" really have to do with sex anyway? *opinion follows* Sex is raw lust... no "love" involved. Your signif can love you when he's spending quality time staring into your eyes while you both pass thoughts about the day... but when he's nailing you from behind squeezing your ass and fumbling around to fondle your breasts?? He's not thinking one bit about love!!! (chances are he's even momentarily forgot your name.. *grin*)

[Manimal]

There is a difference between fucking and making love. Both can happen during the same sexual encounter (assuming there's love involved at all) but there is a distinct difference. We all know what fucking is... it's the making love that too many people miss out on, I think.

[rockandrose]

There's nothing wrong with a session of a wild passionate fuck, which can be just as good or better than making love.

I can't handle too much fairy floss love, it scares me. There's a limit for me, I think.

[Wise Child]

I see no reason why sex can't be about love. Just as walking in the park can, if you're doing it with someone who makes you all googly-eyed.

Personally, I've never found it particularly romantic. Which is good, as romance makes me slightly queasy. I see girls getting proposed to or given huge bouquets of flowers in public, and I think, aren't you embarrassed? - 'cause you frickin' well should be!

Just kiddin' with that last bit. But personally, I hate all that stuff. It just feels so cliche. Not to mention lazy. If a girl loves flowers, fair enough, it's a nice gift. But personally I don't especially and for a guy to give them just 'cause "all girls like flowers" shows a lack of thoughtfulness and a complete disregard for things I actually do like.

[thetiesonyourcorset]

i love romantic things!! i'd love James to get my flowers esp Roses but he hasn't ever done yet...hopefully he WILL one day!! he says that if we're still together when i'm 20 he's gonna propose to me i want to get married when i'm 24/25 as i'll still be young and i'll be making babies straight away! i love making love and i also love passionate fucking!!

[Sanctus Dei]

My previous post was in passive response to Bride of Satan's question (which made no sense to me) ...and I quote..

"What I do have a problem with is prositutes. What is the point? Okay, they give guys a few good nights but where is the love exactly?"

Making love is great but I was purely talking about raw sex. Perhaps I was unclear about that, sorry.

[joyslayer]

Personally, I believe prostitution should be legalized as well. Even if it isn't going to be, women still do it. But as for the love vs. fucking debate. Not every time someone has sex involves love, but there is a physical if not physiclogical attraction to the person. But love can be described as simply lust, depending on the person.

[joyslayer]

Sex is quite the enjoyable task, but do you think that love need be invloved to make all the more passionate?

[Manimal]

Legal prostitution is fine but it needs some serious regulation. Street walking should be illegal no matter what.

If I want a slurpy I don't need a sidewalk vendor walking up to my car to negotiate how much for 32 oz of frozen blue goodness. I go to the mini mart like everyone else where I know the slurpies are safe and the cups are clean. Such as it should be for legalized prostitution.

[joyslayer]

I think yes, for the passion question. Love makes it feel more intense, like, it sort of makes it feel different, with every thrust. The more you cheerish the person, the less shy you will be. That leads to more intense, more feeling in sex.

I absolutely agree with you, Manimal.

[TeapotScar]

Obviously love is the key to good sex. Anyone who's ever debated otherwise has never been in love, and/or has never had sex. It's just and undeniable fact.

Prostitution... I just watched a film called "Mandragora" about male prostitution in the Czech republic. Not just any males, though- 15/16 year old males. It wasn't a documentary, but it was the most disturbing thing I've ever watched. I can't help but think of prostitution from the point of view of the prostitute, and there's no way anybody in their right mind could possibly enjoy something like that. So I don't know if it should ever be legal, just because I don't know if it should ever be a job option for anybody- even those who have nothing else available to them.