Come on people, can you please at least try to be civilized?

[Duane]

This is pretty cool compared to Gaia and Myspace, this is the nice club. Sure, people have their moments, but with the idiots here me being one, they can't help but be unpleasant to them every now and then.

[JCC]

Originally Posted by Godslayer Jillian

Most were conservatives? I can't picture that in a goth forum.

Imagine how aghast they would be at the political landscape of Gnet now.

[PinstripesAndPithHelmets]

Originally Posted by Godslayer Jillian

You make it sound like it's an epidemic. Between me not being able to see where's this evil around Gnet, and you not being able to see how much we actually get along, I believe you're the one that is wrong.

Right.... If you say so.

[mindless1]

I've been on, well most forums people highly respect me. Why? Because I am respectful to them. If a person gives me a reason to disrespect them I will, but someone making death threats and disrespecting someone....it's pretty un-entertaining, in fact it's like a bunch of faceless losers in a dark room doing nothing. That's like, the metaphor for gothic.net....so gawth, isn't it? BTW I enjoy being my schizo self....there's nothing wrong with mentioning you have issues, I saw that people made posts about Bipolar, about cutting, about girlfriends cheating etc. So I made a post about having schizophrenia. Ugh, I don't know- I know lots of people remember all this nonsense but I've forgotten most of it. That's the problem, because you all don't know who's who on here.

[Godslayer Jillian]

JCC is George Bush.

[Lolly PopMuzik]

Originally Posted by Godslayer Jillian

JCC is George Bush.

Would that make you Alberto Gonzales then? :P

[Corpsey]

Originally Posted by Lolly PopMuzik

Would that make you Alberto Gonzales then? :P

That would make you Barak Obama's Wife.

[Sir Canvas Corpsey]

Originally Posted by PinstripesAndPithHelmets

If gothic.net is hoping that we'll learn to get along and have civil discussions on our own, he/she is going to be sorely disappointed. It's a lovely goal, to be sure, but a rather unrealistic one.

At heart, we're a pack of bloody savages with modern technology. That's not to say that other forums aren't made up of savages. On the contrary, it's a commonality between all groups. Tighter moderation won't fix that. It would only present the false appearance of civility by forcefully removing contention rather than resolving it. In short, it would be treating the symptoms rather than the cause. The cause, unfortunately, seems to be untreatable.

This post pisses me off so much, you're so arrogant, and you have the audacity to act like you're some wise sage when you're basically stating the obvious reality of the world but missing the humor in our interactions.

Fuckin' hell....

[PinstripesAndPithHelmets]

Originally Posted by Sir Canvas Corpsey

This post pisses me off so much, you're so arrogant, and you have the audacity to act like you're some wise sage when you're basically stating the obvious reality of the world but missing the humor in our interactions.

Fuckin' hell....

If it's so fucking obvious then why does this thread exist? I don't see the humor in people tearing each other down just to make themselves feel better. Half of the posts on this site are devoted to ragging on people for their tastes in clothing, music, movies, literature, etc. If you think that's fun, then you're part of the problem.

So, in short, fuck you and your indignation.

[Necrophagist]

*applause* In regard to Pinstripes.

[JCC]

Originally Posted by PinstripesAndPithHelmets

I don't see the humor in people tearing each other down just to make themselves feel better.

We don't need to make ourselves feel better, we're great. The 'lack of self-esteem = bully' misconception is a popular one. The reality is that we are so great, we automatically assume that people want our opinions on everything, and they do, even if they don't know it yet.

[Tam Li Hua]

I realize I may be setting myself up for a fall here, but here it goes anyways.

I've seen a lot of great ideas posted thus far to make Gnet better, but here are my $.02:

-- Allow folks to edit their posts or comments for more than five minutes. This is the -only- forum I know of that has such a rule, and I've never understood it. I'm sure that there's been quite a few people who have, upon posting, realized some time later that they need to correct something or add or detract from a post or comment [and thus cut down on the flaming], but who can not due to the five-minute rule.

Yes, people can comment again and attempt to explain their position a little better, but by that time their 'correction' is lost in a sea of flaming. Thus, please consider this suggestion.

-- Be active on the boards. Perhaps you are active on them, under a different name...but in that case, let us know who you are. Let us feel that you actually care about us and what's going on here, and that this isn't simply something you do when you're bored.

These boards need better management, to say the least, so this would also be something good to keep an eye on.

If I think of anything else, I'll post it in the Suggestions forum.

[PinstripesAndPithHelmets]

Originally Posted by JCC

We don't need to make ourselves feel better, we're great. The 'lack of self-esteem = bully' misconception is a popular one. The reality is that we are so great, we automatically assume that people want our opinions on everything, and they do, even if they don't know it yet.

I certainly don't see why someone secure in themselves and their own beliefs would feel it necessary to attack another forum member because of, for example, the music that person listens to.

I find that arrogance is often a mask for an inferiority complex, much like being a shameless braggart. In some cases a sense of superiority is justified, but never to the point of vicious arrogance. An individual truly happy with themselves need not be vicious, and the vicious are usually not happy with themselves.

Take that as you will. If you can stand stooping to listening to someone like me, that is.

[JCC]

Originally Posted by PinstripesAndPithHelmets

I certainly don't see why someone secure in themselves and their own beliefs would feel it necessary to attack another forum member because of, for example, the music that person listens to.

I find that arrogance is often a mask for an inferiority complex

Well, I can't argue with your Psychology PHD and countless years of experience in the field of psychoanalysis.

Oh... wait...

[PinstripesAndPithHelmets]

Originally Posted by JCC

Well, I can't argue with your Psychology PHD and countless years of experience in the field of psychoanalysis.

Oh... wait...

Do you see the irony in this response?

[Godslayer Jillian]

Originally Posted by Tam Li Hua

I'm sure that there's been quite a few people who have, upon posting, realized some time later that they need to correct something or add or detract from a post or comment [and thus cut down on the flaming], but who can not due to the five-minute rule.

That's precisely why it SHOULD stay there.
People should be liable to whatever they say. I'm sure there's several people who wouldn't be above changing their posts to win an argument.
The five minute rule allows changes to errors that are immediately noticeable and small additions to a post.

I like it like that. If I said something and someone proves I'm wrong, it's there and stays there.

[XXChristabelXX]

funny. you let the dogs run amok , shitting in the yard with no consequence. you clean it up. the dogs come back to shit again and you ask them not to? or what- another admin hiatus to allow the board to fail to adhere to its own standarss? fucking a.

[Godslayer Jillian]

I take you're in the "I want mods" side.

[Duane]

We don't need active mods.

[XXChristabelXX]

no. I am in the ' shit or get off the pot' category. half measures are for pussies, eapecially when they whine about the effects of their own ineffectuality

[Godslayer Jillian]

What the hell does that even mean?

[XXChristabelXX]

If you are brazenly lackadasical and half asses, don't bitch about the consequence of your inaction

[Godslayer Jillian]

Layman terms please.

[XXChristabelXX]

you are lazy and undereducated, don't get pissy when someone else uses big words

[Solumina]

It isn't the words that you are using, it is how you are using them that is the problem.