"Body Image Issues" - Page 16

GoThiC_GurL · 11-16-2005, 04:29 PM

well i was told to stop them because they werent working thats why i dont take them anymore. just so everyone knows.

OnixxFilth · 11-17-2005, 05:34 AM

Question, Neutral- are you a goth? Otherwise, what are you doing here?

Tall One In Black · 11-17-2005, 01:32 PM

1) I have a chip on my shoulder the size of a Honda and I'm just itching for someone to knock it off.
2) I am hypersensitive and will insult anyone and everyone to make me feel better about myself.
3) I will contradict everything you say in the most offensive way possible.
4) I like to number my thoughts so that I can keep score on the insults. That way, I'll know for sure that I'm winning.

Uh, what comes after 4?

OnixxFilth · 11-18-2005, 10:06 AM

Well, okay, Tall One, but if you didn't want our help, why did you post on here? Most people on this thread are looking for some kind of support/help.

Tall One In Black · 11-18-2005, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by OnixxFilth

Well, okay, Tall One, but if you didn't want our help, why did you post on here? Most people on this thread are looking for some kind of support/help.

I assume you're talking about my post with the numbered statements? I was replying to two posts that have apparently been removed.

Why did I post here? I posted in response to other posts. This thread isn't just for people who are looking for help, it's also for people responding to those looking for help.

OnixxFilth · 11-18-2005, 10:37 AM

Huh, well that clears up some confusion. Didn't mean to offend or anything.

Tall One In Black · 11-18-2005, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by OnixxFilth

Huh, well that clears up some confusion. Didn't mean to offend or anything.

It was unfortunate that I didn't quote the original writer to whom I was responding... because now it looks like I'm enumerating my faults. :P

I certainly have faults - more than just four! - but thankfully I'm not the immature brat that list describes.

No offense taken.

Agwani · 11-20-2005, 09:22 PM

I don’t know exactly how to express I feel about my body. This rambling is the best I can do:

I am beautiful
I love my body

But my opinion about myself doesn’t mean a damn thing.

Because ultimately, when it comes to the mating game, what I care about is what others think of me.

…

I am not perfect.

I have an insane over-bite and rather crooked teeth.
I have no ass.
My knees are futt-bugly.
I have loads of stretch marks
My boobs no longer defy gravity.
I always have acne.
I have huge bags under my eyes.

But when I want to, I can walk into a room and act like the hotest piece of ass you’ve ever seen.

And you’ll believe me.

…

Body image is such a peculiar thing. I can love and hate myself at the same time.

I model. Even was published in a nationally distributed magazine once (that sounds WAY more impressive than it is). I post my photos and folks tell me I’m ‘damn fine’.

But, in those photos, you don’t see my teeth, my knees are bent, my breasts are beautifully supported, and my skin is pale and flawless with layers of make up. The lighting hides my stretch marks and the bags. And when I’m naked, you don’t notice that I have no ass.

Those photos of me are the ‘perfect me’, if there is such a thing. And though I am happy to see that it’s me in that image, I am sad that I’m not that image all the time.

OnixxFilth · 11-21-2005, 01:11 PM

That's why I like those Dove ads that some critics are tearing down just because they show real women with real body shapes. Most photos in mags are airbrushed to perfection. One critic of the ads said something like,"We want to see the beautiful people." I felt like screaming at him,"Your beautiful people don't exist in reality! Their photos are touched up, or they've had plastic surgery- it's all an illusion!"

Agwani · 11-21-2005, 06:46 PM

Onixx, people were actually complaining about that?

I thought their campaign was wonderful.

How sad.

OnixxFilth · 11-22-2005, 06:03 AM

Yeah, lots of Hollywood types and critics- media people and such. I know, it IS sad.

OnixxFilth · 11-22-2005, 10:11 AM

Damn right they're not!

1TOOMANY · 12-13-2005, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by TStone

HA! I may have to use that size descriptior next time I'm shopping for the sexy clothes!

*Holds stringy garment upto Victoria Secret sales rep*

"You're about the same size, you're fucking hot-ass pussy, aren't you?"

Yo, how did i miss this one!!!!!!!!! T-Stone LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AHAHAHAHAHA

crimsonmoon · 12-14-2005, 03:38 PM

i seriously didnt have body issues until year6 which was when all the popular girls started reading these beauty magazines and started calling me fat and thinking paris hilton is beautiful.why do they make these magazines?

TeapotScar · 12-14-2005, 05:05 PM

Those magazines... People want to feel bad about themselves, people want reasons why they haven't found the perfect man, why people aren't drooling all over them, or why the boy in math class circled "No" when they sent them one of those "Do you like me, circle one" notes. The market for people looking to obsess over their body is incredible.

The line between self-improvement and self-hate is sincerely blurred. But thinking about it, the magazines are responding to the market increase, so who is it we have to blame? Ourselves? Each other? It's a tricky subject.

Danag · 12-15-2005, 08:01 AM

I hate looking at myself in the mirror when I'm naked. My face is fine, but everything else ... well ... Let's just say, I'm really skinny with a huge scar on my stomach. A lot of people say I'm "Hot", "cute", or "handsome". But ... They don't see me with my shirt off. I do.

... I also really hate my laugh. >_>

Danag · 12-15-2005, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by TeapotScar

Those magazines... People want to feel bad about themselves, people want reasons why they haven't found the perfect man, why people aren't drooling all over them, or why the boy in math class circled "No" when they sent them one of those "Do you like me, circle one" notes. The market for people looking to obsess over their body is incredible.

The line between self-improvement and self-hate is sincerely blurred. But thinking about it, the magazines are responding to the market increase, so who is it we have to blame? Ourselves? Each other? It's a tricky subject.

I once read an article written by a kid in a newspaper, and he pretty much ranted about how girls act and dress so ... unflattering to try and get guys to like them. He pretty much said, "Really, guys don't care what girls look like. This whole thing about girls and their lack of self esteem, causing them to dress like [whores] is really stupid."

Empty_Purple_Stars · 12-15-2005, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Danag

I hate looking at myself in the mirror when I'm naked. My face is fine, but everything else ... well ... Let's just say, I'm really skinny with a huge scar on my stomach. A lot of people say I'm "Hot", "cute", or "handsome". But ... They don't see me with my shirt off. I do.

... I also really hate my laugh. >_>

I relate man..

I have surgical scars all over my abdomen, and I am about to have some new ones..I friggin hate them and have for years..But I have found that they aren't as repulsive to everyone else as they are to me..

Plus they do fade in color as the years pass.

I am TRYING to see mine as more of a 'Survival Badge' these days than something else ugly and gross about my body..

It is a challenge, but it makes more sense for me to try and view them as something positive.. I can't make them go away.. I won't be able to stop the new ones.. But why make myself feel horrid and disgusting for the rest of my life if I don't have too be that way?

Plus guys have an edge with scars that girls don't as much..

ALOT of women think a scar on a man is SEXZIE!!

Bride_Of_Satan · 12-15-2005, 10:44 AM

I think all people have at least one body issue - whether its how weird their thighs look to how frizzy their hair appears.

I absolutely hate my stomach. I've been doing sit ups for months and stretching for ages to try and flatten it out but its just toned up and still rounded, its not flat like I wanted it to be. So I'm really self-consious when I perform on stage in short tops. I also can't stick my arms. Why are women basically 'blessed' with chicken wings??? I have the muscle in my arms that a man would have but if I don't squeeze them flab hangs from my arms making me feel unattractive and somewhat "Alien-like".

However, I do agree with you on the topic about Botticell's paintings. These are some of which I find inspirational and comforting when you feel down about your own body image.

Anorexia was one thing I went through at the age of 12 and I'll never forget the misery I went through along with it. Eating a bite of my sandwich and sipping water all day. I lost a stone and a half but I hate the way my chest looks because of it. I can gain as much or as little as I want with healthy eating but my ribs still remain sticking out looking skinless and weird.

That is why I avoid looking at myself in the mirror or wearing skinny fit clothes when I feel big. I stick to my hoodies or trench coats and sit until I feel better.

Tall One In Black · 12-15-2005, 02:48 PM

I have an 8.5" scar on my chest. It's basically like an open-heart surgery scar, but it's horizontal. Not a pretty sight.

Danag · 12-15-2005, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Empty_Purple_Stars

I relate man..

I have surgical scars all over my abdomen, and I am about to have some new ones..I friggin hate them and have for years..But I have found that they aren't as repulsive to everyone else as they are to me..

Plus they do fade in color as the years pass.

I am TRYING to see mine as more of a 'Survival Badge' these days than something else ugly and gross about my body..

It is a challenge, but it makes more sense for me to try and view them as something positive.. I can't make them go away.. I won't be able to stop the new ones.. But why make myself feel horrid and disgusting for the rest of my life if I don't have too be that way?

Plus guys have an edge with scars that girls don't as much..

ALOT of women think a scar on a man is SEXZIE!!

It can be a challenge, yes. When I would sleep with my ex (Just sleep. No sex), we would go in the nude, and the first couple times I was a little shy about it because of my scar. But other than that, I don't think about it on a regular basis.

I guess it really comes down to this: If your beloved truly loves you, he/she will accept you and your body no matter what. And that's all that really should matter.

Aw, hehe. Why is it that girls find scars attractive?

edible_eye · 12-15-2005, 07:08 PM

one of the greatest nights of sex i spent was a drunken night-long foray into all types of decadent and depraved sex acts with a girl i'd befriended in college. she was shy, despite the alcohol, when i went to remove her shirt and finally told me that she had a scar across her belly. i didn't care - what guy really would - and sure enough, after peeling the tank top from her torso, she sat before me with a foot-long scar which created an indent. she tried to cover up and i spent many minutes kissing her hands while she covered it, slowly but surely peeling them away so i could lavish lust and love upon the remnants of her incision. eventually, she warmed - i continually told her how sexy she was, how sexy her scar was how fuckin' hot her skin was and how badly i wanted to fuck her. i believe i kissed and caressed that particular perceived fault of hers for close to twenty minutes and she was moaning and pulling my face into her belly by the time my mouth and tongue began their downward path.

and through the night, i remembered to return to her point of insecurity intermittently to kiss and lick her, all the while telling her just how fuckin' amazing she was.

she came more times than she could count - and yes, i'm patting myself on the fuckin' back.

whether or not i had anything to do with it, she was wearing belly shirts by the end of the second year. we fell out of touch after our class ended but if we passed each other while walking, we always had a smile and a wave.

- sigh -

- memories -

rockandrose · 12-15-2005, 07:14 PM

E_E, that was a hot and drool-worthy post!

Can you get any hotter? Seriously, stop it!

edible_eye · 12-15-2005, 10:38 PM

ah, the dream...

two, lusciously delicious women...

life is good.

syn · 12-16-2005, 08:17 AM

I hate my tits, and my ass, and hmm, could go on for a while here. Can I have a new me? Please?