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03-14-2006, 09:40 AM
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Newport, South Wales, UK
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Grief over your appearance
Hi all.
Over the last few weeks I have been going out round the pubs and clubs, wearing my usual non-work outfit of: dr.martens, leather trousers, and unmarked black t-shirt / hoodie.
For some reason on these nights out I have been getting a load of people asking me if I am gay!
Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against gay men or women, indeed when I was in university a few of my friends were gay ; it’s just that I am heterosexual myself , and I have never seen or known any gay people dress the way I do.
Has anyone else here had comments like this made to them on nights out?
This has been baffling me.
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03-14-2006, 09:45 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: I own Pitseleh!!
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Maybe it's the leather pants?
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I think the real issue is why you're bothered if people ask you if you're gay.
Last edited by WolfMoon; 03-14-2006 at 09:54 AM.
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03-14-2006, 10:02 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Columbus,Ohio
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They could be just hoping you are?
{Why we need an entire thread devoted to this question,but who am I}
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03-14-2006, 12:50 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2003
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Bravo, Geisha!
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03-14-2006, 01:34 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Um, lower, oh yeah, uh, uh ... YES THERE!
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
That's like someone dressing in a short skirt, tube top and a thigh highs and wondering why people keep calling her a whore.
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Hey, wait a minute! I happen to be quite fond of that "look". Why would anyone call a woman dressed like that a whore?
No offense intended to the actual whores out there. ;-)
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03-14-2006, 01:38 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: El Paso, Texas/ Ciudad Juarez, Chihuahua
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Even my closest friends have asked me at some point if I'm gay.
I take it as a compliment 
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Originally Posted by George Carlin
People who say they don’t care what people think are usually desperate to have people think they don’t care what people think.
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03-14-2006, 02:48 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Um, lower, oh yeah, uh, uh ... YES THERE!
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Well, I still like the look!
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Lead me not into temptation ... follow me, I know a shortcut!
As the poets have mournfully sung,
death takes the innocent young,
the rolling in money,
the screamingly funny,
and those who are very well hung.
Your days are numbered - 26,280 per person on average - 2,000,000,000 heartbeats ... tick, tick, tick
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03-14-2006, 02:53 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Um, lower, oh yeah, uh, uh ... YES THERE!
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Okay, now we're talking! If you dress like that and then act like you didn't want any attention, that's when I have an issue with it.
Of course, I also don't assume just because a woman dresses like that means she wants to f*ck me. But a guy can dream, can't he? Heh heh heh!
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Lead me not into temptation ... follow me, I know a shortcut!
As the poets have mournfully sung,
death takes the innocent young,
the rolling in money,
the screamingly funny,
and those who are very well hung.
Your days are numbered - 26,280 per person on average - 2,000,000,000 heartbeats ... tick, tick, tick
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03-14-2006, 02:57 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Behind you ... (well, if your back's to London)
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If gkb's anything like most guys from the UK, his problem with being called gay is simply that it may hinder girls from coming to sample his goods.  Not to be confused with homophobia - I know plenty of straight guys who wouldn't like to be called gay, not because they find the idea necessarily offensive, but because if girls hear and mentally write them off their shag count may go down. And we all know what a catastrophe that would be, to the average male... well, the ones I know, anyway.
The solution is the same as for the girls Geisha's talking about ^ - basically, either stop dressing that way, or accept that many people will make assumptions about you based on the way you dress.
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A dream is just a nightmare with lipstick ~ Toni Morrison
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03-14-2006, 03:10 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Columbus,Ohio
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The general consensus seems to be:'People are going to judge you based on your outward appearance'.
Lose the leather pants and see how people react to you now.
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03-14-2006, 03:50 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Behind you ... (well, if your back's to London)
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Or better yet, give them to me... I split a pair after two. Fucking. Days. And they wouldn't replace them, as there were none left in my size. I got vouchers. Fucking vouchers. In fcuk. It was like God was playing some kind of horrible joke on me.
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The meek shall inherit the earth. Just as soon as the rest of us have finished with it.
A dream is just a nightmare with lipstick ~ Toni Morrison
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03-14-2006, 05:56 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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Hey gkb!
You are confused because you don't understand why these people are calling you gay when you are (just) wearing leather pants. If you cut two holes in them (one for each butt cheek to protrude from) would their opinion make more sense to you?
If you did this, perhaps everyone, including yourself, would be less confused.
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03-14-2006, 07:24 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Columbia, S.C. (USA)
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wouldn't it depend on the style of leather pants tho? I mean, there are a lot of different styles of leather/pvc pants, some much more gay looking than others. are they high gloss? do they have a bunch of zippers, pockets and chains? are they tight or baggy? etc...
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Would you find yourself [or]
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03-14-2006, 07:40 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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I agree with Existential on this one. Some leather pants depending on cut and style rate much higher on the homo-o-meter. And I don't consider all leather pants to be a signifier of someone being homosexual.
Don't cowboys wear leather pants? Didn't John Wayne wear them?
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03-14-2006, 07:56 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Columbia, S.C. (USA)
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dang. well i should buy me some leather pants then. if only my ass were a bit smaller.... ok, a lot smaller...
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What if all the world you think you know
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Is it all you wanted to be?
What if you could look right through the cracks?
Would you find yourself [or]
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03-14-2006, 07:58 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Columbia, S.C. (USA)
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Originally Posted by 655322
I agree with Existential on this one. Some leather pants depending on cut and style rate much higher on the homo-o-meter. And I don't consider all leather pants to be a signifier of someone being homosexual.
Don't cowboys wear leather pants? Didn't John Wayne wear them?
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they wore chaps. not quite the same as pants. they're suppose to go OVER the jeans, or whatever other pants you're wearing. that is, SUPPOSE to. A lot of guys at leather bars just wear the chaps, with a jock strap, or tighty-whities underneath, so most all their junk can hang out.
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"What if everything around you
Isn't quite as it seems?
What if all the world you think you know
Is an elaborate dream?
And if you look at your reflection
Is it all you wanted to be?
What if you could look right through the cracks?
Would you find yourself [or]
Find yourself afraid to see?..." -NIN
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03-14-2006, 08:01 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Columbia, S.C. (USA)
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What's "Roy G Biv" my ear?
My ears are 4g at the moment. i want to go 00, but it's getting a lot harder to stretch them further. and i'm impatient.
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"What if everything around you
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What if all the world you think you know
Is an elaborate dream?
And if you look at your reflection
Is it all you wanted to be?
What if you could look right through the cracks?
Would you find yourself [or]
Find yourself afraid to see?..." -NIN
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03-14-2006, 08:18 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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Yes, no confusion there...
Ok, what do black leather pants, black boots, a black leather jacket, dark sunglasses, a shotgun, and a Harley Davidson make me?
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03-14-2006, 08:20 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Columbus,Ohio
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The Terminator.
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03-14-2006, 08:45 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Columbia, S.C. (USA)
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Originally Posted by Xnguela
If you had 7 piercings, you could do it in the colors of the rainbow:
Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, Indigo, Violet.
C'mon, a rainbow of piercings in your right ear? Totally screams "I'm gay".
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eww!
I'd beat my own ass for that one...
*pukes*
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"What if everything around you
Isn't quite as it seems?
What if all the world you think you know
Is an elaborate dream?
And if you look at your reflection
Is it all you wanted to be?
What if you could look right through the cracks?
Would you find yourself [or]
Find yourself afraid to see?..." -NIN
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03-14-2006, 08:58 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Columbus,Ohio
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03-14-2006, 09:02 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: Right Here
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I disagree that wearing Leather Pants automatically sets off the "Gay-Dar".
Leather/Latex/PVC Pants have been a staple in the Goth/Industrial scene for more than Twenty friggin years.
Manimal owns a pair and they are sexzie as fucking hell. Plus I am ordering him some new ones.
Certainly how you wear them, and what you wear them with, makes a big difference.
But to say they make any man who wears them look "Gay" is just plain wrong.
I can name heaps of STRAIGHT musicians who wear them and have for years, and they still have to beat the women off with a club.
Leather/PVC/Latex pants on a good looking man, are always drool worthy.
Regardless of sexual preference.
I find it interesting that almost everyone focused on the pants as the reason people were frequently asking if GkB was a Homosexual.
Body Language/Mannerisms go a hell of a lot farther in expressing someones sexual preference than mere clothing does in people's perceptions.
Rather than asking a bunch of people who don't know you, your body language, or your way of presenting youself to the world, try this;
" Hey Are You Gay? "
"No, I'm Not Gay, Why Do You Ask? "
That right there ^^ will go a hell of a lot farther in answering your question than this thread will for you.
My 1.7 cents.
Last edited by Empty_Purple_Stars; 03-14-2006 at 09:09 PM.
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03-14-2006, 09:51 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Columbus,Ohio
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
Like I said, the perception is only Rock Stars and Gay people wear them.
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Sooner or later,this picture was going to show up: http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y14...ies/Eric-1.jpg
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03-14-2006, 10:07 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: I own Pitseleh!!
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EPS, most sheeple will look at a guy in leather pants at a bar/pub and assume he's gay.
Those are certainly not my views, but my husband has a lot of guy friends that hang out. Their first reaction to a guy wearing leather pants is "He's GAY!"
Meh.
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03-14-2006, 10:24 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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Originally Posted by Reject_Bunnies
The Terminator.
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Well done Reject you answer was correct. The Terminator isn't gay is he?
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
Oh and, 655322, do you mean this homo-o-meter?
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hahaha, that's funny! That's kind of what I was thinking of. But Richard Simmons isn't gay. He said so himself! He wears very short shorts though. Short shorts on a man, that's gay too?
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