Rant Thread II

[Fruitbat]

Originally Posted by Solumina

V, I'm really sorry that you lived with a slob. It can be quite taxing to be the sole person responsible for cleaning up, no matter what gender you are. .

^this

I've always thought there is one person in the relationship that has higher standards than the other one, unless your partner has OCD, then there is a high chance they will spend 2hrs scrubbing a roasting dish to clean it (like on of my GF's did).

Still think you should run a course.... you could be the military's answer to Martha Stewart!

Originally Posted by Solumina

Dear lord Jake takes fucking forever to get ready. On average it takes him about an hour, and that is just getting ready to go to work or whatever, he takes even longer if we are actually going out to do something but since he hogs the bathroom while he is getting ready I end up getting done second because I want to brush my fucking teeth or some such quick and fairly necessary thing so he blames me for us being late, even though I spent most of my time sitting on my ass waiting for him to finish up. Today he has taken a solid 2 hours, thankfully there isn't anything that I need to be doing but he was supposed to have left at 5:00 to go meet his father for dinner, at least he can't blame me for being late.

Sol - it's all the makeup he has to put on before he goes out *joking*

I have the same problem with Mr Bat. I'm like out of the house, waiting for him, even when i've had to get babybat ready (and chase him for 10 minutes to get his clothes on him). Most of the time though, I look like I've survived a shipwreak, but at least I figure I'm out of the house and that is a victory for me on some days.

MissC - *super big hugs*

Graus *waves hand in the air* I was the product of a stay at home mum who never went anywhere and did anything, so I blame my lack of early socialisation on the fact that I get anxious in crowds....

BUT recently I heard of a phenonima on Ghost in the genes, which suggested that what happened to your grandparents affects/triggers certain genes and the fact that if your parents went through something traumatic, then your anxiety/stress genes (whatever gene is responsible for that) is triggered, thereby increasing the anxiety levels of generations to come.

Saya compassion fatigue, know it, lived with it. Take it easy, rest up, still be concerned about things, but don't give it 100% of your passion/time. You can still feel strongly about things, but you get to a stage where you think "fuck everything else, I just want to live my life the way I want to live it and I'm stick of recycling/whatever it is that's the issue."

Accept you feel that way, take a break, and it will come back to you if it was meant to be.

*gets off soapbox and goes back to editing book*

[Saya]

Originally Posted by Fruitbat

Saya compassion fatigue, know it, lived with it. Take it easy, rest up, still be concerned about things, but don't give it 100% of your passion/time. You can still feel strongly about things, but you get to a stage where you think "fuck everything else, I just want to live my life the way I want to live it and I'm stick of recycling/whatever it is that's the issue."

Its not that. There was a big hub bub last week after a cab driver went to the news saying that young women are trouble and they are reconsidering giving them service, because he said they skip out on paying and threaten to scream rrape. Meanwhile the police have said they haven't gotten a single complaint or report of this actually happening, but all the comments and all the calls on our open line radio have been in support of the cab driver, because women are sluts and have no business drinking downtown and getting into a cab alone in the first place.

But when I moved to the city, I was told to be very careful which cab company to call because some drivers are sleazy and will try something, including pressure you to pay with sex. So our collective had a coffee house and I brought this up and apparently only two small cab companies in the whole city ever bothers running a criminal record check, none of our cabs have barriers between the front and back seats like in other cities and there are no cameras either, and some of the volunteers and some of the visitors disclosed a lot of pretty disturbing experiences. I can't say much because of confidentiality, but it was a lot of disclosures to deal with at once and now I just feel overwhelmed that apparently this shit is common knowledge but its better to blame women instead of actually doing something to make everyone safer.

[honeythorn]

Originally Posted by Grausamkeit

It may sound weird to people who are used to dealing with the outside world or who even enjoy it, but constant bombardment of other people wanting to talk and interact is stressful for some people.

If you had to work with a woman I work with... you'd fucking stab yourself in the head repeatedly. There are times I have to practically hide from her , to avoid the sheer stress of being within a few feet of her monotonous chainsaw voice and mad pekinese dog looking face. She's really short and compensates for it ,by pretty much shouting when she speaks, and doing this directly under the nose of who she's talking at.

I'm eternally fucking grateful she only works 3 days a week

[carakitty]

The dog has vomited all his food today (again) and we can not afford a Vet visit right now.

I STILL haven't heard from the place i submitted my resume and cover letter to. When I turned in that stuff we did a mini interview.

I have blisters on my hands and fingers from shoveling snow AND I boiled over the milk I was warming for Hot Cocoa and Chai

Honestly guys, am I being petty?

[Beowulf]

Originally Posted by carakitty

The dog has vomited all his food today (again) and we can not afford a Vet visit right now.

I`m sorry to hear that Kitty, I hope your dog gets well again soon !!!. *Hugz*

[Grausamkeit]

Originally Posted by honeythorn

If you had to work with a woman I work with... you'd fucking stab yourself in the head repeatedly. There are times I have to practically hide from her , to avoid the sheer stress of being within a few feet of her monotonous chainsaw voice and mad pekinese dog looking face. She's really short and compensates for it ,by pretty much shouting when she speaks, and doing this directly under the nose of who she's talking at.

I'm eternally fucking grateful she only works 3 days a week

Nah, just stab her...problem solved(well, in fantasyland, anyway).

Kitty, just make sure your pup is getting plenty of water if he's vomiting. Even if you can't see the vet right now, they should be able to tell you something over the phone.

[Solumina]

Saya I know what you mean, that used to happen to me sometimes back when I volunteered with a peer education group. I think the thing was that, at least early on, I didn't expect to hear a lot of people's problems, we were there simply to educate people about healthy relationships, not provide any counseling, and it isn't like we were working with at risk youth, just students at the local middle and high schools (but in groups of about 20 as we were brought in by teachers, usually two of us would go, and would do our thing during their class), but if one person in the group had a story to share there almost always ended up being a flood of stories, ranging from stalkers to abuse to date ****, the first time it happened we were completely taken aback, it practically turned into a group therapy session.

By the end of it (okay so maybe more towards the middle of it) I was way too overwhelmed that all of this had happened, especially in what I had thought was such a nice, safe, happy area. I felt awful about it since I knew those students were sharing something deeply personal, and for some it was something they had never talked about before yet I had involuntarily tuned out. I wasn't in denial or anything it was just more like being in emotional shock, I just couldn't process it all and was pretty much nodding and making concerned/sympathetic noises.

Don't worry though, you just kind of need to take a step back, curl up with a good book or something, and let things process in the background for a little while.

[carakitty]

Beo and Wolfie; Thanks for the support. I know he's going to be fine. We just can't give him his dry food for the time being. He's been keeping down the mix of plain chicken, rice, and canned food fine so we will be keeping him on that. Hopefully soon the money stuff will settle down and we can take him to the Dr. to have a CBC done, or what ever the Dr. thinks will give us the best diagnostic picture. Sometimes being a Vet Tech in training is a blessing and a curse.

[Mr.Doobie]

Wendy's guy didn't share any of the weed we helped chip in for last night because if he would've shared it with us he wouldn't have gotten high enough to forget the pain of being rejected.

Apparently his only girlfriend dated him for a week in high school, and when she broke up with him he keyed her car because his heart was so "broken".

Can I just start punching him in the kidneys now?

[Grausamkeit]

Originally Posted by Mr.Doobie

Wendy's guy didn't share any of the weed we helped chip in for last night because if he would've shared it with us he wouldn't have gotten high enough to forget the pain of being rejected.

Apparently his only girlfriend dated him for a week in high school, and when she broke up with him he keyed her car because his heart was so "broken".

Can I just start punching him in the kidneys now?

Why not? But if you did you'd be the 'bad guy' somehow and the group would probably demonize you for it. But then, do you really care what they think?

[Fruitbat]

Originally Posted by Saya

Its not that. There was a big hub bub last week after a cab driver went to the news saying that young women are trouble and they are reconsidering giving them service, because he said they skip out on paying and threaten to scream rrape. Meanwhile the police have said they haven't gotten a single complaint or report of this actually happening, but all the comments and all the calls on our open line radio have been in support of the cab driver, because women are sluts and have no business drinking downtown and getting into a cab alone in the first place.

But when I moved to the city, I was told to be very careful which cab company to call because some drivers are sleazy and will try something, including pressure you to pay with sex. So our collective had a coffee house and I brought this up and apparently only two small cab companies in the whole city ever bothers running a criminal record check, none of our cabs have barriers between the front and back seats like in other cities and there are no cameras either, and some of the volunteers and some of the visitors disclosed a lot of pretty disturbing experiences. I can't say much because of confidentiality, but it was a lot of disclosures to deal with at once and now I just feel overwhelmed that apparently this shit is common knowledge but its better to blame women instead of actually doing something to make everyone safer.

Just when I think we are making steps away from this kind of attitudes/behaviours/beliefs....

Agree with what Sol said...

Get the public to be outraged, then something will happen.

[CarrionCorpse]

Yesterday was my last real day at the Halloween store. We packed everything up and put it into the pods to be sent to wherethefuckever to be saved until needed next year. I'm super sad about this, because I really love the people I work with. Especially my two managers. BUT we all get to get together on Tuesday to do pick up work at the surrounding Spirit stores. So I get to see everyone then.

[Solumina]

Usually I love to bake but today I would really just rather take a nap than make these cupcakes but I agreed to make them for a party tonight /lame rant

[Valhalla]

Originally Posted by Saya

apparently only two small cab companies in the whole city ever bothers running a criminal record check

Can you let me know which two these are?

Also this whole situation pisses me off to no end.

[Saya]

Originally Posted by Valhalla

Can you let me know which two these are?

Also this whole situation pisses me off to no end.

Bugden's is one, I can't remember what the other one is but I can find out tomorrow.

[honeythorn]

My oldest brother called me at midnight last night. I haven't seen or heard from him for over 3 years because he and his wife fell out with my neurotic mother.

His wife has always had a list of health problems. Angina, Kidney failure, Type 1 diabetes, she lost middle toes to MRSA..

Well he called me last night, drunk. He was crying. His wife is dying basically. And he was talking about topping himself when she does because he can't live without her. And he won't listen to reason. He won't see anyone about it. I didn't even know. And he say's no one gives a shit, and won't listen to my epxlanation that he didn't tell anyone, so how are we meant to help if we don't know?

I can't bear it.

[Grausamkeit]

Honey, that's really hard. I'm sorry y'all are going through that. *HUGZ*

[Solumina]

I can't remember the last time I had a crush on a boy but I seem to have developed one, shame his girlfriend isn't really my type and their relationship isn't as open as mine (and she seems to have developed a little crush on me) so no having fun with one and not the other.

[CuckooTuli]

I hate writing CVs. Hate it hate it hate it. There is no way of selling yourself that doesn't make you sound like a dickhead, and what's all the more demeaning is that most of the jobs I'm going for would undoubtedly make me want to claw all the skin off of my body inside of a week anyway even if I did get them. Which makes wanting to claw the skin off of my body the BEST POSSIBLE OUTCOME.

[carakitty]

My earlobes feel warm and red and slightly puffy. Hello infections?

[honeythorn]

Forklift truck training = FAILURE. Honeythorn style.

I'm proper shit at driving these damnable machines. I did warn the instructor that I can barely push an Asda trolley in a straight line, but he reckons he can save me from certain doom, or other people from certain death by being mowed down by yours truly.

On top of that my irritating cough that I've had for a couple of months ( I was beginning to think it was psychosomatic and all in my head ) has now turned into what I suspect may be a combination of mild Pharyngitis ( which I have had before so I know what it feels like ) and some variety of upper respiritory/chest infection.

The doctors has no free appointments available for at least 2 weeks straight. I'm now hoping someone will cancel late on a friday afternoon so I can leap in and show off my reddened swollen throat and attractive hacking wheeze

[Beowulf]

Originally Posted by honeythorn

Forklift truck training = FAILURE. Honeythorn style.

I'm proper shit at driving these damnable machines. I did warn the instructor that I can barely push an Asda trolley in a straight line, but he reckons he can save me from certain doom, or other people from certain death by being mowed down by yours truly.

On top of that my irritating cough that I've had for a couple of months ( I was beginning to think it was psychosomatic and all in my head ) has now turned into what I suspect may be a combination of mild Pharyngitis ( which I have had before so I know what it feels like ) and some variety of upper respiritory/chest infection.

The doctors has no free appointments available for at least 2 weeks straight. I'm now hoping someone will cancel late on a friday afternoon so I can leap in and show off my reddened swollen throat and attractive hacking wheeze

I`m sorry to hear your not well Honeythorn, hope your feeling better soon !!!. *HUGZ*

If you cant get an appointment with your GP, do you have an NHS walk in medical centre in your town where at least you can have someone have a look at you ?

Good luck with your forklift training, I`m sure you`ll get the hang of it !!!.

[MissCheyenne]

My Mum passed away last night.

[Saya]

I'm so sorry, MissC. *HUGS*

[Versus]

I'm really sorry to hear that, MissC. It's very cruel that you've had to go through all of this and I hope life takes a positive turn for you, soon.