How do you get over a break up?

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:04 AM

I went out with my bf for 2 years and on valentines day he told me he didnt love me anymore, im finding this really hard, Im not eating or nothing i couldnt care less if i died right now, life isnt the same, how do i get over him?

Lady Ravenna · 02-17-2006, 11:11 AM

Eat lots of chocolate and take a nice hot bath and cry...thats what I would do...

Lady Ravenna · 02-17-2006, 11:12 AM

oh...and break something...and stand in the rain

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:12 AM

i already have, the chocolate it wont stay down id just throw it up

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:15 AM

im stressed as well, and it adds to it, i just wanna dei right now

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:18 AM

i know it is, i will later when im on my own,

why do i feel so bad

WolfMoon · 02-17-2006, 11:21 AM

Because the love you had was real and now it'll fester if you don't do a lot of crying and wailing. If you don't get it out, it's going to get ugly.

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by WolfMoon

Because the love you had was real and now it'll fester if you don't do a lot of crying and wailing. If you don't get it out, it's going to get ugly.

will that help? ive only cried once because physiccly i just cant do it

Queenofdarkness57 · 02-17-2006, 11:27 AM

I think you should start dating again, that might keep your mind away from him for awhile, and eventually you'll get over him.

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:30 AM

as bad as it sounds i cant get him off my brain, i dont feel attractive enough anymore to start dating again y'know i feel worthless

ExistentialDisorder · 02-17-2006, 11:30 AM

sometimes just talking about it helps a lot. v-day was only 3 days ago, so the wound is still fresh. time heals. that's extremely insensitive on his part, especially on that day. you should take xng's advice tho.

i've been going through a similar situation myself, with a two-year relationship with a guy that i'm most certain has been stepping out on me. i took action saturday and threw him out, changed the locks on my doors and put his clothes on the porch. it wasn't easy, by any means, but i wanted it done before tuesday, because even i'm not that cruel. we're talking now tho, and everything may not be a total loss.

maybe you should try talking to him.

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:33 AM

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sometimes just talking about it helps a lot. v-day was only 3 days ago, so the wound is still fresh. time heals. that's extremely insensitive on his part, especially on that day. you should take xng's advice tho.

i've been going through a similar situation myself, with a two-year relationship with a guy that i'm most certain has been stepping out on me. i took action saturday and threw him out, changed the locks on my doors and put his clothes on the porch. it wasn't easy, by any means, but i wanted it done before tuesday, because even i'm not that cruel. we're talking now tho, and everything may not be a total loss.

maybe you should try talking to him.

I have..so far only through msn, he's going to phone me tonight, he wants to stay friends

Queenofdarkness57 · 02-17-2006, 11:37 AM

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as bad as it sounds i cant get him off my brain, i dont feel attractive enough anymore to start dating again y'know i feel worthless

Oh NO! Don't say that really. Don't let a guy lower your self pride and make you feel that way. I agree with Xng too, go talk to soemone professional, cuz you seem to have a big problem.

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:39 AM

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Oh NO! Don't say that really. Don't let a guy lower your self pride and make you feel that way. I agree with Xng too, go talk to soemone professional, cuz you seem to have a big problem.

I dont want to have to say that, Im a naturally confident person but ..now i dont know what to do, I will talk with someone

Queenofdarkness57 · 02-17-2006, 11:40 AM

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I have..so far only through msn, he's going to phone me tonight, he wants to stay friends

I think being friends with him and you still like him is really hard, especially knowing it's not leading anywhere. But who knows maybe it might( i think I just contradicted myself, oh well...)

Queenofdarkness57 · 02-17-2006, 11:41 AM

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I dont want to have to say that, Im a naturally confident person but ..now i dont know what to do, I will talk with someone

Well goodluck with that.

WolfMoon · 02-17-2006, 11:42 AM

Bah!

It's perfectly normal to have your self esteem deflated when you've been dumped. Time does heal, sweetie. It might take a week or two before you realize what a complete jerk he was, but you'll feel better eventually.

If you're blubbering about him a year from now, then I'd be worried.

WolfMoon · 02-17-2006, 11:43 AM

ED,

*HUGZ*

Sorry you're probably having a rough time of it, luv. How are you doing?

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:43 AM

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I think being friends with him and you still like him is really hard, especially knowing it's not leading anywhere. But who knows maybe it might( i think I just contradicted myself, oh well...)

I know, i want to stay friends because i dont want to lose him, but i dont know how i would cope if he got another gf or anything like that

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 11:45 AM

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ED,

*HUGZ*

Sorry you're probably having a rough time of it, luv. How are you doing?

Its ok i culd kinda do with someone staight talking to me like you, yes im upset and that, i usally get over thins fast this though im not so sure about

Queenofdarkness57 · 02-17-2006, 11:55 AM

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I know, i want to stay friends because i dont want to lose him, but i dont know how i would cope if he got another gf or anything like that

You know when you do feel better, I'm positive if you get yourself a boyfriend he'll be so jealous he'll probably want you back.

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 12:00 PM

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You know when you do feel better, I'm positive if you get yourself a boyfriend he'll be so jealous he'll probably want you back.

I doubt ill have him back then, I dont deal well with emtional pain, I would just be expecting it to happen again,

why do i still love the bastard

Queenofdarkness57 · 02-17-2006, 12:07 PM

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I doubt ill have him back then, I dont deal well with emtional pain, I would just be expecting it to happen again,

why do i still love the bastard

Just forget about that dumbfuck. I hope he rots in hell!

Nemesis · 02-17-2006, 12:16 PM

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Just forget about that dumbfuck. I hope he rots in hell!

Thnk-you, its helped talking about it a little, *hugs to everybody, still not over him yet

BlackPaladin · 02-17-2006, 12:52 PM

I don't know what to say that would help you, because I am a male and can't talk just as freely with this situation's than womens do...

Try to take revenge... As Hard as Possible!!! He must feel the pain, the pain... Let him sorrow for what he did to you (sorry if it's a little bit hard but He is a real bastard)