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02-03-2007, 08:32 PM
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Should i ask her or not?
Well i have a freind who ever since i meet her i have been in love with her, The kind of love i feel for her is Romantic love because i genuily love her more for her and not for sex. But i really want to do something special for her on Valetine's day to show her i love her but don't have much in the way of reletionships or with asking girls out so i was wondering if anyone here could help me on wether to ask her out or not and what to do to ask her out on Valetines day?
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02-03-2007, 08:39 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
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Well, I have a boyfriend of 2yrs2months, just saying. And whatever you do will not be good enough, also just saying. My boyfriend could have a plane fly down from space saying a super sweet message, and it would be great but I could always find something better he could have done.
Do you understand? I'm not so sure if I do now... I'm so dumb .-. Either way, how well do you know her? If you know something really secret about her or w/e it may help. I'm not helping... Hmmm. Ask her out, but go over the top.
Sorry, that advice sucked. It's because I'm new... Oh well. 
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02-03-2007, 09:10 PM
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^ Ok i do not understand. Anyone esle?
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02-03-2007, 09:27 PM
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First of all, what was up with your spelling?XD
Anyway, I think you should ask her out before St. Valentines if there has not been some kind of flirting goin on there. You wouldn't want to pressure her to go on a Valentine's date if she wouldn't feel comfortable with a normal one.
If the date goes well, then you can ask her if she has any plans for St Valentines.
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02-03-2007, 09:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Godslayer Jillian
First of all, what was up with your spelling?XD
Anyway, I think you should ask her out before St. Valentines if there has not been some kind of flirting goin on there. You wouldn't want to pressure her to go on a Valentine's date if she wouldn't feel comfortable with a normal one.
If the date goes well, then you can ask her if she has any plans for St Valentines.
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My spelling? Well i am really tired and do not have spell checker.
Well we have dated before last year but we had to break up due to she was moving but then did not move. But no i would and do not want to pressure her on a Valentine's date, but i was not really planing one just to like go surprise her at her house and talk to her, get her a black rose(her fave), and then just hang out and ask her and give her the flower when i felt the time was right.
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"The Goths are beautiful, a vast depth of sub cultural,
aesthetic and poetic ideas, and we would identify with that
as we did back in 1979. But not the post modern distortion
...the costume without the brain."
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02-03-2007, 11:02 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Elgin, IL
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If you really feel that you love her in such a way, then ASK HER OUT!!! Sorry just saying, if you really REALLY feel that way for her then tell her how you feel before she meets someone else. Otherwise your sorry ass will regret it BIG TIME. Then again my apologies for using such words it's just that I've had SOO many chances to ask out my crush in Middle school and I was too shy and next thing I knew i saw him with a girl...
Back to topic, or if you're too shy to tell her face to face leave her one of her so called black rose on her porch with a lil I Heart you note. Don't forget to give details on Valentines Day and ask if she wants to go out on a date. Mmmkay?
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02-04-2007, 08:56 AM
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Definitely do it! There's nothing sadder than a missed opportunity. The worst she can say is no, and then you might have to be emo for a little while, but you'll get over it. ;P
But anyway, since you've dated before... those kinds of feelings sometimes never go away. She'll probably say yes. =)
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02-04-2007, 09:06 AM
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@Encaitare: Yeah i think i am going to do it, just have to think of the prefect way and time of doing it. Emo ewww
Maybe she will, maybe she won't will have to wait and see.
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"The Goths are beautiful, a vast depth of sub cultural,
aesthetic and poetic ideas, and we would identify with that
as we did back in 1979. But not the post modern distortion
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02-04-2007, 12:02 PM
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You'll never know unless you ask. I'm not much for the whole romance stuff and I've never believed in 'love' perse (in regards for caring about others), but every girl I've ever known for any length of time tells me that whether or not they could accept the guy's offer, they were touched by his effort and thoughtfulness.
So whatever you do,
A) do it
B) make sure it comes from the heart
C)whatever you plan, make sure it's with her in mind.
No matter how it turns out from there, she'll never forget it and she'll always have a fond thought of you.
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02-04-2007, 05:14 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2006
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@killer_asian_Dax: Ok you guys and gals have made up my mind for me. I will go ahead and ask her but i will wait and ask her valetines day night and do something romantic at her house, like maybe go and surprise her with some flowers and something like that.
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"The Goths are beautiful, a vast depth of sub cultural,
aesthetic and poetic ideas, and we would identify with that
as we did back in 1979. But not the post modern distortion
...the costume without the brain."
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02-04-2007, 05:42 PM
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Oh wow, sorry, I just now saw this thread:
1) Definitely get her flowers, a whole bunch, and many colors works better than all red roses, unless she loves roses (you would be surprised how many girls don't like roses).
2) Make sure YOU look good for her! Dress up sharp (have your clothes dry cleaned and pressed if possible), a clean, smooth shave, and maybe just a TINY pinch of cologne (it is so easy to over do it, then she will be staying 10 feet away the whole night).
3) Have your car vacuumed inside, with no smells, washed and waxed on the outside. Have a home cut CD of romantic tunes that she likes.
4) Try not to talk about yourself, but about her and her interests, family, friends. If she starts asking questions about you, you are doing well! 
5) This is going to sound strange after everything I just said above, but be yourself.
But most of, be CONFIDENT! Have plenty of smiles! Show those pearly whites and look her IN THE EYES!
OK, just my humble opinion. Best of luck dude!
Let us know how it turns out!!!
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02-04-2007, 05:50 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2006
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you said she likes black roses wich means she's into the dark thing i'm guessing. Yes, do that! Get her black roses. Or even a single rose can mean more than a dozen depending on the type of girl she is. Do something unconventional. Go on a night time walk or take her to do something fun like a show(the music kind). Make sure that when you ask her you have alot of confidence and make it clear you want HER and your goal is to go out with HER. Girls really do like being the only one in a guys eyes. work with that.
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02-04-2007, 06:15 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Houston Texas
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@HumanePain: Thanks,
1. She doesn't really like a hole bunch of flowers, shes the one flower type girl. So i am getting her flower, just a single black rose.
2. I am gonna wear one of my Victorain era stlye shirts, with pin stripe maching vest and pants.
3. My car doesn't have a cd player, and plus its a piece of junk.
4. Will keep that in mind.
5. I always am myself.
@OCD Insomnia: Yes she is into dark things more or less. I am just going to get a single black rose. I am thinking of the night walk thing, theirs some good places to go around her house that have romantic tendecnys.
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"The Goths are beautiful, a vast depth of sub cultural,
aesthetic and poetic ideas, and we would identify with that
as we did back in 1979. But not the post modern distortion
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--Peter Murphy
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02-04-2007, 06:18 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2006
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Originally Posted by deathbecomesme
@HumanePain: Thanks,
1. She doesn't really like a hole bunch of flowers, shes the one flower type girl. So i am getting her flower, just a single black rose.
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oops, you did mention that in the first post but it went in one eye and out the other!
sorry.
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02-04-2007, 06:25 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2006
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Originally Posted by HumanePain
oops, you did mention that in the first post but it went in one eye and out the other!
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Yeah i did, i think i am going to update my plans and ask her tomorrow instead of on Valetine's day and ask her to a Valetine's date that way she has a bit more time to think it over and all that stuff.
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"The Goths are beautiful, a vast depth of sub cultural,
aesthetic and poetic ideas, and we would identify with that
as we did back in 1979. But not the post modern distortion
...the costume without the brain."
--Peter Murphy
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02-04-2007, 07:01 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2007
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Best of luck to you. Go get 'em tiger!
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02-04-2007, 07:42 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2006
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Originally Posted by killer_asian_Dax
Best of luck to you. Go get 'em tiger!
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Thanks, i need the luck.
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"The Goths are beautiful, a vast depth of sub cultural,
aesthetic and poetic ideas, and we would identify with that
as we did back in 1979. But not the post modern distortion
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--Peter Murphy
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02-04-2007, 11:18 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2006
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Originally Posted by deathbecomesme
@OCD Insomnia: Yes she is into dark things more or less. I am just going to get a single black rose. I am thinking of the night walk thing, theirs some good places to go around her house that have romantic tendecnys.
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I hope I helped. Anything else specific you need help with please, feel free to ask. I love helping with relationships. I'm awesome at it.
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02-04-2007, 11:36 PM
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Get her drunk, get her up the duff, and then she HAS to date you or people will think she's a slut. It's the only way.
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02-04-2007, 11:49 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2006
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Thank goddess for humor.
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02-05-2007, 09:41 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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Originally Posted by Tha Duckman
Get her drunk, get her up the duff, and then she HAS to date you or people will think she's a slut. It's the only way.
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Yes ladies, that's my bitch...
He's a keeper, isnt he?!?
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02-05-2007, 10:36 PM
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Yes. Yes I am.
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02-06-2007, 06:11 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2007
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Originally Posted by Tha Duckman
Get her drunk, get her up the duff, and then she HAS to date you or people will think she's a slut. It's the only way.
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HEEHEEEHEHEE!! When I read this I thought I was going to fall off my chair! Thanks for the giggle! The sad part is, sometimes it's true! :-) Anyway, so Death, how did it go!? I hope everything worked out like you wanted it to.
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02-06-2007, 06:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Tha Duckman
Get her drunk, get her up the duff, and then she HAS to date you or people will think she's a slut. It's the only way.
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You're so fucking Irish.
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02-06-2007, 06:43 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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oi oi oi! Careful with the mud slinging... i'm still training him...
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It's not so much the pain
It's more the actual knife
Pretending the picture is perfect
I cut myself to sleep
I close my eyes for a second
And curse my fragile soul
I scream to hide that I'm lonely
The echo calls my name
*ANIMAL CRACKERS*
http://www.myspace.com/persephone_x
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