Bdsm? - Page 2

killer_asian_Dax · 04-24-2007, 11:37 PM

Sub in the room and dom in the world describes me to a T.

As far as AEA- I stopped requesting it when I realised that most people either get SUPER freaked out by it or don't know how to not go too far. It's definitely an art.

As far as the cutting goes- it could be a symptom/release of depression, but at the same time it could very well be just bloodlust.
For me- it's definitely a bloodlust and nothing remotely near any sign of depression.

From depression to the emotional -v- physical aspects....

Personally, I think I prefer to be a sub in the bedroom as a sort of stress release from always having to be in actual control of everything in the real world. It's a strange emo/phys relationship.

I've never quite understood the satisfaction one gets from being emotionally subjugated. Everyone I've asked to explain it to me, can't. I much prefer the tangible proof of destruction.

KontanKarite · 04-25-2007, 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by killer_asian_Dax

Sub in the room and dom in the world describes me to a T.

As far as AEA- I stopped requesting it when I realised that most people either get SUPER freaked out by it or don't know how to not go too far. It's definitely an art.

As far as the cutting goes- it could be a symptom/release of depression, but at the same time it could very well be just bloodlust.
For me- it's definitely a bloodlust and nothing remotely near any sign of depression.

From depression to the emotional -v- physical aspects....

Personally, I think I prefer to be a sub in the bedroom as a sort of stress release from always having to be in actual control of everything in the real world. It's a strange emo/phys relationship.

I've never quite understood the satisfaction one gets from being emotionally subjugated. Everyone I've asked to explain it to me, can't. I much prefer the tangible proof of destruction.

I can tell you why I did it...

mrs.wes straker · 04-25-2007, 05:40 AM

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Originally Posted by KontanKarite

I can tell you why I did it...

Why? I'd like to know, too.

PersephoneX · 04-25-2007, 05:48 AM

I'm sub in the bedroom. Which counters what people see on the outside.
I only feel safe being sub with my ferret, i think.
Ferret gets angry because he feels weird about doing something as risky as asphyxiation. He hates hurting me. I think its partly because he knows what’s happened to me in the past.

mrs.wes straker · 04-25-2007, 05:59 AM

I once read an article about a woman who was terrified of her boyfriend's asphyxiation practices. Basically, he couldn't peak without seeing her unconcious. She was afraid he was going to end up killing her.

PersephoneX · 04-25-2007, 06:09 AM

I really enjoy being on the receiving end. He’s terrified of going too far. Or misjudging how much pressure to put on me…He doesn’t see how what he’s doing to me, is different to what my ex did. He says he can’t see how it isn’t inline with abuse. I feel bad about putting him through it sometimes. And other times its fine…

killer_asian_Dax · 04-25-2007, 06:23 AM

I would very much like to know why Kontan. Perhaps it would help me understand.

DarkChildOne · 04-25-2007, 06:30 AM

Wow. I never expected to get so much support on this. As for the AEA, its gets us BOTH off. Seeing how much control he has over me at that point adds to the tension. With the cutting, well, i dont know where that part came in on my post, but i like the pain and the sight/taste of blood. I like being hurt. I am a masochist to a T. Persephone, you and your "Ferret" sound like me and my boy right now. He is scared to death of hurting me and he isnt sure about the whole dom thing. He has never been on top before. So this is a new experience for both of us. I have never been able to be on the bottom because i was always the strongest of mind, heart, and will. Therefore, it automatically fell to me.

When it comes to AEA, me and Rust have put together that when my pressure turns soft and i gently push his arm away that that is the singal to loosen or let go. Thats when he shares his breath with me and kiss and then i do it to him. Tee hee tee hee.

Anyone want to continue this conversation one-on-one in yahoo, Msn, or AOL just say so, i have all three.
And once again, its great to know i have such support and that i am not just hardwired wierd.

PersephoneX · 04-25-2007, 06:43 AM

Kontan, I'm also quite curious to know, now...

KontanKarite · 04-25-2007, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by mrs.wes straker

Why? I'd like to know, too.

Simply put, it's like physical masochists. Some do it to see how much they can actually endure. Same with emotional torture. For me, it was just to see how much I could actually take. A twisted kind of experiment. It's not something I don't think I'd ever put myself through again. But the nature of the relationship always left me wanting her all the time. The more she denied my feelings, the more I wanted her to have me. To have without having, to be reminded that your feelings couldn't measure up to others left me wanting to try harder and harder to be a better mate. Eventually, there was a line drawn. She's left wanting now. The tables have turned and I don't desire her as much anymore. My heart is at rest. I ran it through the gauntlet and oddly enough, it feels stronger for me than it ever has.

Vako · 04-25-2007, 02:30 PM

I have had exposure to the BDSM fetish scene. I can understand why certain individuals would be into that. It is something I want no part of. I am interested in a stable relationship based on romance, affection, caring, and mutual respect. Sound impossible? Maybe, but I can always work up to it. He's out there somewhere, and I am a patient soul.

eternalcrimson · 04-25-2007, 02:47 PM

I couldn’t have said that better myself.

That’s sort of what I’m looking for although there is always room for a little kink

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KontanKarite · 04-25-2007, 02:49 PM

Vako, sometimes BDSM doesn't involve bondage and pain. Some people might just like being pinned to things like walls and such. It's more or less about an aggressive and passive lover relationship.

Vako · 04-25-2007, 02:53 PM

Oh, don't get me wrong. I have a rather kinky side. One of my kinks is electricity, among other things.

My kinky side is something I would only explore with someone who I was already in a solid relationship with. I have no interest in torture, disfigurement, or injury is what I meant.

KontanKarite · 04-25-2007, 02:56 PM

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Oh, don't get me wrong. I have a rather kinky side. One if my kinks is electricity among other things.

My kinky side is something I would only explore with someone who I was already in a solid relationship with. I have no interest in torture, disfigurement, or injury is what I meant.

OMG, YES!!!! I love electricity.

eternalcrimson · 04-25-2007, 02:56 PM

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Vako, sometimes BDSM doesn't involve bondage and pain. Some people might just like being pinned to things like walls and such. It's more or less about an aggressive and passive lover relationship.

…but it is about control which is why I never really got into it. Not that it scares me it’s just when I’m literally squeezing the life out of a guy I’m thinking in my mind of all the things that can go wrong (e.g. accidentally killing them).

KontanKarite · 04-25-2007, 03:29 PM

That's what code words are for or something to indicate a sign that enough is enough.

Vyvian Blackthorne · 04-25-2007, 03:58 PM

Ghoott...I love BDSM....

Though I do have my share of problems....

DarkChildOne · 04-25-2007, 05:43 PM

Thats intense. I cant exactly say i understand, but i do know what its like to be left wanting.

Anyone ever "Over-sexed" their mate?

eternalcrimson · 04-25-2007, 06:20 PM

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Anyone ever "Over-sexed" their mate?

That description fits me to a tee. I haven’t been able to find a mate yet that can keep up with me. Without going in to too much graphical detail, I can last for hours and usually my partners are pooped or cum way before I do. Even my ex said I was extremely viral and he couldn’t keep up with me (and he is one kinky bastard

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DarkChildOne · 04-25-2007, 07:03 PM

Indeed! My mate cums and he like freezes. His body holds very still and then goes limp panting. I giggle insanely and then ask if we can do it again in 15 minutes. Thing is, i have never been fully satisfied to the point of "Oh. My. God. I need nicotine and sleep."

Vako · 04-25-2007, 09:32 PM

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Thats intense. I cant exactly say i understand, but i do know what its like to be left wanting.

That would be quite the tease-along and total turn-on. Leave the partner with just a little bit more of the pleasure each time, and leave them in a state of desire, wanting more, then eventually in a future session, Go full orgasmotron in
ecstasy.

KontanKarite · 04-25-2007, 11:31 PM

Actually, the next thing I want to do is overstimulate someone. Get them off and then continue on and on during that time when the body is super sensitive to touch post orgasm. Mwahahaha...

eternalcrimson · 04-25-2007, 11:44 PM

I’ve only had that happen to me once before and that was when I was with my ex. His touch felt so good that he made me tremble by just touching my belly button. He would take the backside of his hand and rubbed my face. OH GOD it feels good just talking about it. I love being over stimulated. I haven’t been over stimulated to the point of orgasm but pretty close.

eternalcrimson · 04-25-2007, 11:51 PM

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I’ve only had that happen to me once before and that was when I was with my ex.

Shit! I didn't edit it in time.

I meant to say the closest I've had it happen to me. I didn't mean to say it happen to me once. Sorry about the mistake.