Less of a Goth? - Page 9

Stilldead · 06-27-2005, 07:55 PM

The only piercing i have besides my ears is a prince albert.
I kind of lost my momentum there!

OnixxFilth · 06-29-2005, 09:42 AM

Ooh, I've heard those can be dangerous (prince albert). My brother knows a guy who got it done and now he has to take Viagra 'cause they hit a nerve or something! :shock: I once considered getting one or both of my nipples pierced, but then I realized that my boyfriend tugs on them too much and is a little too rough for me to have that sort of a delicate piercing. I have something I'm debating whether or not I should do. See, I once had a ring in the cartilege of each of my ears, but then they got infected and I had to let them go. My ears actually turned purple! I kind of want to get them redone (or at least on one ear), but I'm afraid it'll just happen all over again and I'll have wasted my money. I wish I knew how it got infected in the first place, so I could avoid whatever it was! So, should I go for it or not?

Morbideus · 06-29-2005, 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by OnixxFilth

Ooh, I've heard those can be dangerous (prince albert). My brother knows a guy who got it done and now he has to take Viagra 'cause they hit a nerve or something! :shock: I once considered getting one or both of my nipples pierced, but then I realized that my boyfriend tugs on them too much and is a little too rough for me to have that sort of a delicate piercing. I have something I'm debating whether or not I should do. See, I once had a ring in the cartilege of each of my ears, but then they got infected and I had to let them go. My ears actually turned purple! I kind of want to get them redone (or at least on one ear), but I'm afraid it'll just happen all over again and I'll have wasted my money. I wish I knew how it got infected in the first place, so I could avoid whatever it was! So, should I go for it or not?

Yeah, go for it. I had both of my nipples pierced at one time (the Wife loved it) but one of them was infected for a FULL YEAR!! I Eventually took them out, a year of pain and pus was plenty. It turns out it was most likely a reaction to the metal the rings were made of. I mention that because that might be how your ear cartiledge got infected.

BOT, I have night job where I can where anything I want. It's a warehouse and I am all alone.

WolfMoon · 07-01-2005, 04:17 PM

Well, most of my customers are old coots, but I'm allowed to incorporate "goth" into my look. Most of my customers remember me cuz of my look. It's funny that the only people I see on a regular basis who remember Betty Page(I get alot compliments on my bangs) are all between the ages of 50-80.

Jeez............

:roll:

dreamydancer · 07-03-2005, 02:15 PM

Yeah, the elderly can be cool. The only non-goths I know who listen to Siouxsie and the Banshees are some of my teachers who are like dinosaurs. No they're not old, probably in their late 40's.

Whenever I go to watch some old black and white film or an independent movie; the only people I see in the theater are over 50. That's how I can tell if it's a good movie.

dreamydancer · 07-03-2005, 02:36 PM

Yeah, I’ve been feeling like “less of a goth” lately. There were these new goth chicks who attended my school last semester. They’re so pretty. The goths at my school before they came were colored and exotic like me. But they graduated as seniors and left town. I had to bid farewell to my goods friend Christina and Brian. :cry: But I never had the guts to talk to the other girl.

The new girls look more common --- stick thin (seriously, it appears that they wear size 0s), funky hair styles with bangs, and uber thin eyebrows. No, I’m not trying to criticize the many who look like that, I’m just describing their appearance. Honestly, it would be great to look like that for a change.

They pull off the bangs and thin eyebrows without looking ridiculous. I wish that I could do that to my hair and face, but I can imagine that they wouldn’t suit me. While I am fair skinned, I can never have a Snow White complexion. I’m too much of a yellow bellied Sneech.

Of course goth is more than the look. I guess I feel like one of those days where I can't accept myself.

My best friend Elena, befriended one of them in English class. I believe her name is Alex or something. They were on the subject of the local club one day. Elena mentioned that I saw her at Numbers (the goth club.) “Oh, the Mexican looking one who wears all the black?” she responded. I wasn’t there so I don’t know if it came out snobbish. I take it that it didn’t sound very friendly.

I feel pressured to fit in with them. I feel dumber than usual, why should I care if others in my subculture accept me?

Some may argue that this belongs in Body Image Issues or Goths of Color threads. Well I’m feeling like less of myself so I’m posting it here. And please feel free to poke fun at my pathetic whining.

Morbideus · 07-04-2005, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by dreamydancer

My best friend Elena, befriended one of them in English class. I believe her name is Alex or something. They were on the subject of the local club one day. Elena mentioned that I saw her at Numbers (the goth club.) “Oh, the Mexican looking one who wears all the black?” she responded. I wasn’t there so I don’t know if it came out snobbish. I take it that it didn’t sound very friendly.

I feel pressured to fit in with them. I feel dumber than usual, why should I care if others in my subculture accept me?

They are new, right? They should be trying to fit in with YOU. Talk to them, they may be cooler than you think.

As far as the "Mexican looking who wears all the black?" comment, it is certainly possible nothing was meant by it. The Maternal side of my family is Italian, so when I go to Family Reunions, I see an onslaught of statuesque females with long black hair, all dressed in black. BUT, they aren't goths, they're just Italian *shrugs*. It may have been something like that. How can anyone know you are of the same ilk if they don't know you?

Just a thought...

dreamydancer · 07-04-2005, 08:38 PM

I suppose you're right. Thanks for the thought.

Morbideus · 07-04-2005, 09:30 PM

:wink: You're welcome.

OnixxFilth · 07-05-2005, 10:38 AM

Yeah, I have a lot of those days where I feel like "less of a goth", which is why I started this thread. I envy alternative models in Gothic Beauty magazine and wish I could afford those dresses. I feel like my little cobbled together outfits made from skirts and tops gleaned from hand-me-downs and a lot of decidedly non-goth stores are somehow not as good as the big name brands like Tripp and stuff, like because I can't afford the expensive shit I'm somehow not as worthy to be called a goth. I dunno if that sentence was grammatically correct, but you probably know what I mean.

WolfMoon · 07-12-2005, 08:02 PM

Hold the fuckin' phones there people!!!

Did you guys just say that you felt like "less of a goth" for not owning a brandname wardrobe?

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How many people do you think ever wore brandname clothing when the BatCave was still around, or even would have if there was such a thing for goths at the time?
Goth is all about DIY, people! Or at least being thrifty if you lack sewing skills.

Onnix, don't worry about only having cobbled together outfits, that's 90% of my clubbin' wardrobe right there! Don't worry about trying to fit in with the elitist snob crowd, you're already Uber! Your genuine love for the music (aside from liking bands like *CoF*, which I guess is a forgivable offense ;P) already assures the stamp of approval on your Goth-Card(TM).

Goths buy what's on the discount rack just like everyone else, our stuff's just darker! Besides, alot of those brand names out there aren't worth shit as far as wear-n-tear goes. If you must save up for a gown one day, ask around the web about the quality of the item or company. Me, I like making my own stuff. It's fun and no one else has anything just like mine!

And that's what's really important!

:wink:

Dreamy, don't be intimidated by other goths. They'd probably be more than happy to befriend you, they might just be shy about entering a new person into the group. Just go up and talk to them. If they blow you off, just know that at least you tried to be a nice, then you can be as snarky as you like!

And as far as "why should I care if others of my subculture accept me?", well humans is pack/family type critters. We like to be around those like us. Much as we decry the pressure to fit in with society, we do want to fit in with someone, somewhere. And why shouldn't it be with other fabulous dressers that have the same exsquisite taste in music that we do?

:P

Solumina · 08-22-2005, 08:40 AM

I've never really felt all tha gothic or all that pretty but now I'm at a school were there are like maybe a dozen other goths and I have seemed to be labled the "hot goth chick" and I'm getting way more attention thatn I'm used to which is really a very odd thing for me...in the past two years I don't know if a single person had so much as a crush on me and now there are three guys that I know like me and I am so not used to this that have no idea how to handle the situation

OnixxFilth · 08-29-2005, 01:54 PM

Well, Wolfie, I have actually gotten slammed online for daring to admit I own a pair of boots from Hot Topic. The person who slammed me was all into trying to get me to buy some different boots from some online site. Hey, I never buy online shoes because how are you gonna try 'em on? Besides, sending back something so big is a hassle. Thanks for the reassurance, Wolfie!

Kettu · 08-29-2005, 04:18 PM

I pick my clothes on what i like and what makes me feel the best. I own some things from hot topic, i have some diy things. Its not the clothes that make the person, its the person who makes the clothes.

winged_dreams · 08-29-2005, 11:29 PM

I have lots of clothes from Wal-Mart and the Deb. Just wait til I get a sewing machine though! That's going to be uber fun!

Panther · 08-30-2005, 07:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Solumina

I've never really felt all tha gothic or all that pretty but now I'm at a school were there are like maybe a dozen other goths and I have seemed to be labled the "hot goth chick" and I'm getting way more attention thatn I'm used to which is really a very odd thing for me...in the past two years I don't know if a single person had so much as a crush on me and now there are three guys that I know like me and I am so not used to this that have no idea how to handle the situation

I don't suggest handling it like I do. I freak out when males show serious interrest in me.

Just spend time with them, and see if any of them spark your interrest. Don't lead them on (that is a sin worthy of torture), and don't pretend to be interrested when you're not, even if you do decide you like one or more of them.

I suggest that time spent with one of htem is equally spent with all of htem, and in groups. feels less date like, and if you figure out they suck, then you'll have other people to hang with.

At least, that's what I would have done if I'd had that problem.

OnixxFilth · 08-30-2005, 09:09 AM

I'm not nearly talented enough to do much DIY stuff- the closest I've ever come was when I got a plain black hooded sweatshirt with a zipper and added patches of bands I like and hand-tooled pyramid studs all the way around the cuffs and the rim of the hood.

Star of Blight · 08-30-2005, 10:01 AM

Best advice possible; be yourself. Don't worry or care about labels, or if you "fit in" with your chosen clique. If people don't appreciate you for who/what you are, fuck em.

Preferably with a long sharp object.

*aNgElTeArs* · 08-30-2005, 10:41 PM

i dunno if this is right or not, but isn't it partly how you see the world, and how you want to potray your soul. Is this right?

OnixxFilth · 08-31-2005, 10:50 AM

I like your way of thinking, Star of Blight! I'll just have to keep your advice in mind!

Kali Maxwell · 09-01-2005, 09:44 AM

Indeed, it is your inner self.

I care about clothes a little more than I should, I think. I lived with a Roman Catholic family who dispised all but the most innoncent and girlish things, and I never got to pick my own clothes until I turned about 15. I could suggest, but in the end, mommy made the decision.

I guess I'm just going crazy because I'm truly "out of the closet" now.

OnixxFilth · 09-01-2005, 10:08 AM

Oh, Kali, that's almost exactly the situation I was in! I was raised Catholic and at my private school we had to wear our skirts to our knees- I'm not even sure if girls were allowed to wear pants! Pretty much the closest thing you could get to a uniform without it actually being one. At any rate, I don't remember ever wearing pants to school in elementary school. Now in college I can wear whatever I damn please- on the first day of school I wore a miniskirt that damn near showed my undies when I bent over!

Star of Blight · 09-01-2005, 10:10 AM

Okay I'm gonna start a little mini poll here, raise your hand if you were raised Roman Catholic (or any iteration there of) and are now "goth" per say and not very catholic.

*raises hand*

This should be funny.

Peter · 09-01-2005, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Star of Blight

Okay I'm gonna start a little mini poll here, raise your hand if you were raised Roman Catholic (or any iteration there of) and are now "goth" per say and not very catholic.

*raises hand*

This should be funny.

Confirmed Roman Catholic, now an atheist goth ...

Empty_Purple_Stars · 09-01-2005, 12:25 PM

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