Dead brother

Metabolik · 08-22-2007, 08:54 AM

My mum got pregnant 3 times, once about a year before I was born, again when I was 6-7, and again this year...each fucking time was a mis-carage.
All I wanted was a little brother. God won't even give me that...I fucking hate god more than anything I've hated in my life.

Breathless Horror · 08-22-2007, 09:12 AM

I'm really sorry man. May aunt had a miscarraige two years ago on my birthday, so I know a little of where you're coming from. If you ever need someone to chat with, I'm usually around. my MSN is d_m_freak8@ the hot mail *big e-hugs* I'm really sorry.

Metabolik · 08-22-2007, 09:14 AM

Thanks. Theres alot shit I need to get out of my head.

Breathless Horror · 08-22-2007, 09:16 AM

I'm going out soon, but feel free to talk to me any time, or e-mail me if I'm not around.

Metabolik · 08-22-2007, 09:17 AM

OK, will do. Thanks again.

BLEED REBELION!!! · 08-22-2007, 02:49 PM

Im sorry man. I pretty much agree with you . If there is a "God" he is an asshole...

korinna5555 · 08-22-2007, 03:23 PM

Miscarriages suck..

MollyMac · 08-22-2007, 03:40 PM

yeah. they do. and if you think it hurts you, imagine how your mother feels and take care of her, ok?

korinna5555 · 08-22-2007, 04:06 PM

I know how you feel (my mom miscarried when I was two), and I know how your mom feels. You both will be in my prayers.

MollyMac · 08-22-2007, 04:22 PM

It just hard to hear it.. it's hard to grieve a miscarriage. It is a loss, a huge loss, and yet there are no rituals to honor it. Ther eis no wake, no flowers, no coffin- it is merely not talked about.

Amarantha · 08-23-2007, 10:49 PM

Idea for a miscarriage ritual:

The tossing of a single flower bud into a body of water.

?

(Yeah, I'm sick and twisted, but I'm also bored and have nothing better to do)

DeathChii · 08-23-2007, 10:53 PM

I'm sorry =( My mother had the same problem
On sister before me had a mis-carriage,
and then another 3 children after me. lol
Out of 5 I'm the only one that actualy came out =P so yeah
I always wish I had siblings but there's not much you can do =(
I'm sorry for your mother. Feel better -hugs-

MollyMac · 08-24-2007, 04:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Amarantha

Idea for a miscarriage ritual:

The tossing of a single flower bud into a body of water.

?

(Yeah, I'm sick and twisted, but I'm also bored and have nothing better to do)

It beats the awkward silence of everyone knowing you had a miscarriage and saying nothing because, as I was told, "It wasn't even half to term, you can have another".

Anguelon · 08-24-2007, 04:47 AM

I was once one week pregnant and I didn't know. I once came home crying my eyes out and I was in so much agony that I started bleeding, it then occured to me that I was pregnant. Usually,the first trimester is the most critical. I don't think you need to hate God. Things just happen for a reason sometimes. I really do understand what you're going through. Be free to email me or add me through my public profile.

Metabolik · 08-24-2007, 06:01 AM

Thanks for the support everyone. I'm starting to feel much better, I do look after my mum, but it stresses me out that she goes out to the pub alot and then usually comes home drunk. She needs to stop drinking.

Linen · 08-24-2007, 06:19 AM

I always wanted siblings too, but my parents divorced when I was 3, and neither of them got married again after that. It is kind of lonely. I can't relate to the miscarriage thing, but I'm sure (especially the recent one) has been traumatic for all of you. I wish you and your family the best.

MollyMac · 08-24-2007, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Metabolik

Thanks for the support everyone. I'm starting to feel much better, I do look after my mum, but it stresses me out that she goes out to the pub alot and then usually comes home drunk. She needs to stop drinking.

If it is a *temporary* coping mechanism that is one thing.. but if it is not temporary, you may want to try to find a way to talk to her and reach out to her. It's hard for her, hard for you, and I am sorry you are going through it.

Time will heal, if you let it.

1 4m 4n 3gg ph34r m3 · 08-24-2007, 03:01 PM

Hahahah Your Mama Cant Even Give Birth To Shit!

Metabolik · 08-25-2007, 12:57 PM

Oh fucking GREAT! We have some asswipe shitface who's come onto this site and I think he is gonna post shit about everyone. Why the fuck do you think you are so fucking funny? FUCK OFF! stupid shit rag. Infact I bet he is just some lonely computer nerd with no friends...fucking asshole...kill yourself...please, or i'll have to do it for you.

Underwater Ophelia · 08-25-2007, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Metabolik

Oh fucking GREAT! We have some asswipe shitface who's come onto this site and I think he is gonna post shit about everyone. Why the fuck do you think you are so fucking funny? FUCK OFF! stupid shit rag. Infact I bet he is just some lonely computer nerd with no friends...fucking asshole...kill yourself...please, or i'll have to do it for you.

Just relax. He shouldn't have made that joke, but he doesn't care, so there's no point in getting yourself all worked up. It only hurts you.

Anyway, I agree with MollyMac--think of your mother before yourself in this case, and try to be there for her and help her out.

Metabolik · 08-25-2007, 01:31 PM

Yea...sorry I get really pissed of at that kind of shit, my temper is fucking horrific. I always put my mother before myself, always. I can't stand it when I see her crying sometimes. I'm just wondering if she should go back to the support group or something...and i'm also wondering if I should go back to my old support group, it would be good to see everyone there again, if they are still there of course.

korinna5555 · 08-25-2007, 04:31 PM

I was almost four weeks..

Metabolik · 08-25-2007, 05:00 PM

I'm sorry to hear that. I wish the best for you next time.

MollyMac · 08-25-2007, 08:57 PM

Let the egg yokel slide, just take care of yourself and your family and let the bullshit of other melt away.

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PS, I am sorry to hear it, Korina.

Porphyria · 08-26-2007, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Anguelon

I was once one week pregnant and I didn't know. I once came home crying my eyes out and I was in so much agony that I started bleeding, it then occured to me that I was pregnant.

I'm not the sort of person who likes to start shit, but this kind of thing makes me really, extremely angry.

It's not like what you see on TV. You wouldn't have known you were having a miscarriage at one week. Pregnancy symptoms don't emerge until the 2nd or 3rd week and you wouldn't have missed a period yet, so I seriously doubt it would have occured to you that you were pregnant. Even over-the-counter pregnancy tests can't detect a pregnancy at 1 week.

Miscarriages in the first few weeks are often mistaken for unusually heavy periods. At 1 or 2 weeks, the baby is just a ball of cells and doesn't have the mass to stimulate the spontaneous uterine contractions that would result in pain and bleeding. If the cells are rejected, they're generally flushed out during the normal menstrual cycle. It's believed that very many women have 1st and 2nd week miscarriages and never know it.

Please don't lie about stuff like this because there are so many women who do lose babies in the later months of pregnancy and it is gruesome and traumatic. It cheapens the situation when every other girl has a tragic miscarriage story to tell.

Sorry about your mom, Metabolik.