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01-13-2008, 04:14 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Santa Ana CA, USA
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Originally Posted by Delkaetre
I don't tend to draw any gender distinctions. Either someone's character is strong enough that they can overpower me and have my full obedience and respect, or it isn't and they had damn well better learn to lower their eyes appropriately. That's in the 'scene' thing, at least.
Outside in the reality that everyone gets to live in, I tend to hold doors because it's polite and I am offended when someone lets a door slam in my face, so I will not do it to others. Same for holding lifts, same for apologising if I accidentally walk into someone, etc. I don't find that to be in the least a sub thing, it's simply manners.
But I am a little old fashioned in my manners and bearing. I am often called 'Victorian' because I keep such an upright posture and use such formal diction and manners. Apparently I'm very school mistress-ish, so even politeness and quiet manners are converted into a vaguely dominant attitude! Haha... terrible thing, habit.
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I tend to be the same for the most part, it's interesting because people never expect it. At least when it comes to holding doors and being "polite". When it comes to gender I never was the type to submit to men in any fashion, needless to say I was always at odds with my father in that respect, heh. But with women it was and has been different, or at least when it comes to one I like/care about.
Sadly there are a lot of people who, given an inch, take a mile and here at least there are a lot of them especially within the "scene". I was also raised that if you do not look someone in the eye you are A) disrespecting them and B) it was a way to know whether they were lying.
That and again the inch/mile analogy. There is a difference between politeness and good manners and such tho. Those are just the way things should be, be nice it comes back to you. Even being raised in a small redneck town I figured that out LOL.
Some in the "scene" take issue with me on my thoughts because I don't just "do" whatever it is they expect me to do, then again my beliefs have been hammered through the rather nasty crucible that is my past. It's why I tend to be very guarded especially when it comes to the "sub" aspect of things. Once bitten twice shy.
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01-13-2008, 04:26 PM
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#19277
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: London
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Originally Posted by Dreggas
I tend to be the same for the most part, it's interesting because people never expect it. At least when it comes to holding doors and being "polite". When it comes to gender I never was the type to submit to men in any fashion, needless to say I was always at odds with my father in that respect, heh. But with women it was and has been different, or at least when it comes to one I like/care about.
Sadly there are a lot of people who, given an inch, take a mile and here at least there are a lot of them especially within the "scene". I was also raised that if you do not look someone in the eye you are A) disrespecting them and B) it was a way to know whether they were lying.
That and again the inch/mile analogy. There is a difference between politeness and good manners and such tho. Those are just the way things should be, be nice it comes back to you. Even being raised in a small redneck town I figured that out LOL.
Some in the "scene" take issue with me on my thoughts because I don't just "do" whatever it is they expect me to do, then again my beliefs have been hammered through the rather nasty crucible that is my past. It's why I tend to be very guarded especially when it comes to the "sub" aspect of things. Once bitten twice shy.
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I don't quite understand those who assume that someone should automatically do whatever it is. To be a good Dom/Domme, surely you should prove that you are strong enough to handle the sub, instead of take a temper when the sub's not already perfectly molded to your whims?
As for being 'bitten'- you poor creature. I've avoided any complications within the scene, chiefly by avoiding playing with anyone I do not know reasonably well. Outside of it, I've had trouble with people who've assumed that my manners and civility are a sign that they can take me for all I've got. It hasn't worked, but it's still unpleasant to deal with.
Meeting someone's eyes is something with various connotations. In the world in general, it's only polite to make eye contact. Someone who won't even look at you is probably not worth your time. Within the scene, though, eye contact takes on different meanings. Is that a look of challenge, daring to meet the Domme's eyes? Or is that a look of devotion, staring in blind trust at the Domme you have put your safety in the hands of? It's very much a matter which changes from scene to scene.
hmm.... we should stop dragging this off topic. Do you have/ use an MSN? Is it in the MSN thread?
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01-13-2008, 04:38 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Santa Ana CA, USA
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my msn is under jmarcellus at hotmail .com
also have yahoo.
I am taking off for a but but feel free to add me 
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01-14-2008, 06:29 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Harlem
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http://a330.ac-images.myspacecdn.com...563f88e351.jpg
This is probably about as goth as my hair can get. Well... sorta. I was lazy about it this time.
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01-14-2008, 06:32 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Under the clouds.
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Originally Posted by KontanKarite
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K- I love it! It looks very wonderful.
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01-14-2008, 06:37 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: London
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Originally Posted by KontanKarite
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The first thing I thought of was a cockatoo... Heh, looks cool though.
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The noblest sentiment I have encountered and the most passionate political statement to stir my heart both belong to a fictional character. Why do we have no politicians as pure in their intent and determinedly joyous in their outlook as Arkady Bogdanov of Red Mars?
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01-14-2008, 06:44 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: London
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Damn, too late to edit
Misscogs, I just saw your new pics. Damn, you're beautiful! One of the very, very, very rare people who suits black lipstick, it looks so good on you.
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The noblest sentiment I have encountered and the most passionate political statement to stir my heart both belong to a fictional character. Why do we have no politicians as pure in their intent and determinedly joyous in their outlook as Arkady Bogdanov of Red Mars?
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01-14-2008, 06:47 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Under the clouds.
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Originally Posted by Delkaetre
Damn, too late to edit
Misscogs, I just saw your new pics. Damn, you're beautiful! One of the very, very, very rare people who suits black lipstick, it looks so good on you.
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Thanks. ^__^
It's a realif to hear that it looked good. I was afriad that it was going to look horriable.
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01-14-2008, 07:01 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: London
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It's stunning on you, dear. I'm sure the boys (and most of the girls) of the board will agree.
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The noblest sentiment I have encountered and the most passionate political statement to stir my heart both belong to a fictional character. Why do we have no politicians as pure in their intent and determinedly joyous in their outlook as Arkady Bogdanov of Red Mars?
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01-14-2008, 07:04 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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Kontan-I love the pic! Your hair is excellent!
Mis Cogs-You're gorgeous, what more can I say? I love the pic you labeled as "Blank". Very cute, in a semi-creepy way. I dig the semi-creepy though.
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01-14-2008, 07:04 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2007
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Originally Posted by Miss Cogs
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Utterly stunning. I won't repeat what I said to you last time you posted pictures, but that statement still holds true.
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"Meow. Mew. Mrow. Maow? Miaox." - Lovely Delkaetre speaks cat.
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01-14-2008, 07:07 PM
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#19288
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Under the clouds.
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Originally Posted by lostintranslation
Kontan-I love the pic! Your hair is excellent!
Mis Cogs-You're gorgeous, what more can I say? I love the pic you labeled as "Blank". Very cute, in a semi-creepy way. I dig the semi-creepy though.
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Creepy, wasn't going through my mind when I took that picture. =p But thank you, I'm glad that you like the picture and I love hearing your thoughts.
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01-14-2008, 07:08 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Under the clouds.
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Originally Posted by Methadrine
Utterly stunning. I won't repeat what I said to you last time you posted pictures, but that statement still holds true.
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Thanks Meth, I'm glad that you as well as everyone else thought the pictures turned out great. 
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01-14-2008, 07:11 PM
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#19290
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Join Date: Jun 2007
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Originally Posted by Miss Cogs
Thanks Meth, I'm glad that you as well as everyone else thought the pictures turned out great. |
Not everyone pulls off black lipstick that good. Lovely.
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Wasted forever, on speed, bikes and booze.
"Meow. Mew. Mrow. Maow? Miaox." - Lovely Delkaetre speaks cat.
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01-14-2008, 07:19 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Harlem
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Originally Posted by lostintranslation
Kontan-I love the pic! Your hair is excellent!
Mis Cogs-You're gorgeous, what more can I say? I love the pic you labeled as "Blank". Very cute, in a semi-creepy way. I dig the semi-creepy though.
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Thank you. It took me all day. Not really. I've been having this weird kick with my hair where it looks like a cross between Robert Smith and the Queen Alien Xenomorph...
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01-14-2008, 08:14 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Calgary Alberta,Canada
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Originally Posted by Miss Cogs
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I just LOVE those pics! Makes me wanna hug you.
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01-14-2008, 08:22 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Under the clouds.
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Originally Posted by DarkGentleman
I just LOVE those pics! Makes me wanna hug you. |
Awww. Here. We'll internet hug. *hug*
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01-14-2008, 08:54 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Calgary Alberta,Canada
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Originally Posted by Miss Cogs
Awww. Here. We'll internet hug. *hug*
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**a big squishie hug** (sigh) I feel better now.
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01-14-2008, 09:57 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Gothenville
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01-15-2008, 12:30 AM
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#19297
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: "Under the silence in dreams"
Posts: 1,446
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I can't see 
*fucking firewall.*
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This is the strangest life I've ever known - Jim Morrison
Alas! Must it ever be so?
Do we stand in our own light, wherever we go,
And fight our own shadows forever? - Edward Bulwer-Lytton
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01-15-2008, 12:42 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: "Under the silence in dreams"
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Oh you are gorgeous
(what a shameless flirt I am)
The guy to the right looks EXACTLY like my boss' brother!!! (his name wouldn't happen to be Dudley, would it?)
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This is the strangest life I've ever known - Jim Morrison
Alas! Must it ever be so?
Do we stand in our own light, wherever we go,
And fight our own shadows forever? - Edward Bulwer-Lytton
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01-15-2008, 12:47 AM
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#19300
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Pretoria, South Africa
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*blush* Thank you, Nevan.
A flirt you are, but I mind not!
The guy on the right is called Allen (or Chrystovarr). He is now in my new band.
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