.: Randomness :.

[Darcnyss]

It's been quite a few days now that I've just been lurking most of the time. It just seems I just don't have anything meaningful to say anymore.

Oh, and congratulations on the memory and monitor, Nevan. I am extremely jealous now, since I could do with those components myself.

[Nevan]

Quiet phases come and go.

I missed my fencing class last night because of that monitor

Tonight my instructor's probably going to make me do push-ups or climb a rope or something.

[Methadrine]

Originally Posted by Darcnyss

It's been quite a few days now that I've just been lurking most of the time. It just seems I just don't have anything meaningful to say anymore.

*surfaces the submarine to the surface of reason*

You're not the only one... Haven't been around much myself since Gnet turned into Sillyfest 2008 a couple of days or a week ago.

*dives again into the lurking depths of Gnet*

[Mir]

How do you Goths deal with all the staring and the finger pointing? (I'm referring to the way you dress) It took all of 4 days of playing around with eye liner and nail polish and I'm done. I can't stand it. I'd rather appear as nondescript as possible than to stand out and be stared at.

[Solumina]

I'm fairly oblivious to the majority of the world around me so I never really took any notice of people looking at me. I wish that I could be more helpful.

[Delkaetre]

Originally Posted by Mir

How do you Goths deal with all the staring and the finger pointing? (I'm referring to the way you dress) It took all of 4 days of playing around with eye liner and nail polish and I'm done. I can't stand it. I'd rather appear as nondescript as possible than to stand out and be stared at.

I don't tend to get too much staring and finger pointing. And when there is, you have a choice of options.
1) ignore
2) smug superiority because you know you look better than them
3) smug superiority because you'd have the manners not to point and stare
4) smile
5) you have succeeded in getting people to stare. Success!
6) see option one

I wouldn't advise most of those, myself. I like options 1, 4, and 6. You dress the way you want to. If they have a problem, it's their problem and shouldn't bother you.

[Mir]

I agree, unequivocally, with the "you should do what you want to do" statement. I usually do what I want to do.

I guess, my want for "not attracting any attention to myself for appearance related reasons" outweighs my want "to dress however I like". I guess its just me then. I'm just weird. ha.

[HumanePain]

Originally Posted by Mir

How do you Goths deal with all the staring and the finger pointing? (I'm referring to the way you dress) It took all of 4 days of playing around with eye liner and nail polish and I'm done. I can't stand it. I'd rather appear as nondescript as possible than to stand out and be stared at.

The context determines the reactions and your subsequent response:

a) people in the same neighborhood/workplace/commute/relatives: These people have known you and no longer give you a second glance. People do get used to things. Initially there are questions and comments and maybe even jokes ("Can I join your church?"), but then they talk to you or greet you like any other customer in line at the store or in a meeting or whatever.

b) strangers: there will always be stares and looks, in this case I am the one who gets used to it and it no longer bothers me.

[Delkaetre]

Weird? No, it's just being human.
Even goths don't like to look too out of place in certain contexts.
We'd never dream of going to a club in something that could attract derogatory stares and comments, we still wear things that will get us a certain kind of acceptance. Just not by the wider segment of society.

And people who disagree should perhaps note how much time goths spend on their appearance, how disparaging they can be of those who are doing it wrong, and how they follow certain fashions of their own.

[Mir]

Del: I guess my fashion sense and mind set probably screams out hippie. I'll admit that I have been to goth clubs looking pretty much like a cross between a hippie (style of clothing) and a metal head (all in black) and never really had any problems. I never got people flocking to chat me up, but, I never got any disparaging remarks/stares either.

HP: Doesn't it get really tiresome though? I mean you run into a lot more strangers than you do, relatives and friends.

[Delkaetre]

Originally Posted by Mir

Del: I guess my fashion sense and mind set probably screams out hippie. I'll admit that I have been to goth clubs looking pretty much like a cross between a hippie (style of clothing) and a metal head (all in black) and never really had any problems. I never got people flocking to chat me up, but, I never got any disparaging remarks/stares either.

HP: Doesn't it get really tiresome though? I mean you run into a lot more strangers than you do, relatives and friends.

To be fair, the only goths that actually do the 'disparaging stare' thing in public are those without even the most basic of manners and even less tolerance of others. Thankfully, they're pretty rare!
Besides, there's a ton of 'hippy in black' kind of goths.

[Mir]

Ha, well, I'm just a hippie in black that looks like a love child of about three different fathers and five different mothers. *laughs*

Edit: And I only said that because I'm not a "Hippie wearing black Goth". The only label I feel remotely comfortable with is the hippie label. Hippies are usually the loveliest people I meet.

[HumanePain]

Originally Posted by Mir

HP: Doesn't it get really tiresome though? I mean you run into a lot more strangers than you do, relatives and friends.

Actually no. I get up, go to work, come home, mow the lawn, eat dinner and surf the net then go to bed. Same routine, same people along the way.

On the weekends, it is grocery shopping at the same store, same dry cleaners, walking past the same neighbors to get the mail, the same club at night, same restaurants, so no, I really don't see that many strangers, except at the restaurants or bookstores.

[honeythorn]

Ha, I know this feeling. Even the local chavs are used to me and do not say anything. I am the pet goth of the towns " normal " bars, which is the only place available to me for drinking, as my friends outvote me every time! Oh well. I can cope with the hideous excuse for music, as long as I have lots and lots of Jack and a couple of glasses of wine ( and my friends to laugh at ) I got many compliments for my humbug stripy heels last time

[Mir]

HoneyTHORNEEEEEeeeeeeeee!! Good evening! I am a solid Uncle Jack man myself. =)

[honeythorn]

Aaaaah hello Mmmmm Jack...I cannot drink it neat though >.< I have to mix it with Bitter lemon or Lemonade with LOTS of ice and a slice in a big tall glass. Several of those and some wine, and I'm anyone's .Terrible things can occur...I hug people.. anyone! , I have even danced!

[Duane]

Hello darkness my old friend, said the 2 men, one with an afro, another with an acoustic guitar.

[korinna5555]

I wore my discharge tie dyed shirt today.
Whooooo for Hippie-Goths!

[honeythorn]

I have definitely decided. I am putting the monstrous visage of Weretie on a T shirt this weekend. He shall be portrayed in all his glory across my bajengas for the world to see. I shall take a picture of it as well

[Slap Your Love]

I'm so bored.. I've posted like mad on here because
of sheer boredom. I think I'm about to stoop down
to finding a chat room. Wow, that's sad..

[Delkaetre]

Aww, poor thing.
If you have an MSN, I could link you to needless amounts of comics and random assortments of things.

[Slap Your Love]

Unfortunately I don't. :/

[bleedingheart344]

You need to get it. You'd be able to communicate with most of us that way.

[Mir]

Woohoo! I know what I'm going to get you for your birthday! A case of Uncle Jack, some dancing shoes and a ticket to a Goth Club! =D

[Slap Your Love]

I do happen to have aim. That's about all I use. O.o