Rant Thread

[Jaye Jang]

Originally Posted by Geoluhread

Let's say a teenager had a tumor in her breast that is 2cm x 1.5 cm, and she needed surgery. Would her breasts go uneven?

Geo, the answer is yes and no. It depends on a number of things, starting with whether the tumor is malignant or benign. If it is malignant, tests would be done to determine the severity (grade) and the spread (staging). Then tests would be done to determine if the tumor was caught early enough, had not metastasized (spread), if it was in situ, (in one spot) and small enough, etc. -- in short, lots of considerations. If all worked out to the good, then the surgeon could do what is called a lumpectomy -- whereby only the tumor itself is removed. If the tumor is benign it could actually be left where it is, unless the person wished it to be removed for palliative or cosmetic reasons(elective surgery). (There are also medications that will shrink a tumor. These would be trialed first -- as any good surgeon will only do surgery if it is absolutely necessary). Only if the tumor is malignant and has spread, would there be a consideration for more radical, invasive surgery.

As for your original question, the tumor itself would cause the breasts to be uneven as it is 'taking up space.' If it were to be removed the breasts should conceivably even out.

In short, best of luck and I hope it only turns out to be a cyst or a fibrous tumor (benign). *hugs*

[Geoluhread]

It's fibroadinoma, it is benign...
I had it for about a year... It's getting bigger but in very small rates, like it has grown only 0.5 cm. All 5 doctors i went to told me it's better to take it out sooner so it won't get bigger and that i am young, its place will fill out since my breasts are still growing.

Mom is terrified of the word surgery and treats me like i have brain cancer when it comes to discussing it.
I'm getting a bit worried because i will have the surgery eventually, but i don't want to have it too late that the tumor is already big and that its place won't fill or something...

She actually said that you aren't getting the surgery, not even on my dead body. *sigh*

[Underwater Ophelia]

Why aren't you allowed to get surgery?

[Geoluhread]

Only because mom doesn't want to.

[LiUsAiDh]

I thought you were 18 - can she prevent you?

[Jaye Jang]

Geo, tell your mom that if the doctors 'catch' it early enough, they could conceivably do 'hands-off' surgery (microsurgery using a trocar (microport) system). The surgery only involves making a few minor incisions -- one for the fiberoptic scope and one or two for the microsurgical equipment to remove the tumor. The end results are scars that look like an acne scar and can be correctible with time, plastic surgery or even cosmetics. 'Hands-off' surgery can also actually be outpatient surgery (you're literally in-and-out in a few hours) and is, therefore, much less costly. If some of her concerns are either cosmetic or economic, that should soothe her. If she is simply afraid of the surgery itself, gently remind her that you have to do what's best for you. (You're also dealing with her stressors, which is not helping you, either). *hugs* major.

[Geoluhread]

@Liusaidh, still not 18. And she still has a word being a part of the payment.

@Jaye, She is stressing about the surgery itself. She had a really bad experience with doctors. And they cut her open and almost cut her ovaries(sp?) when only appendix removal was the thing to be made... So she's afraid that something goes wrong and that doctors might cut the whole thing off... She says that you never know if a surgeon is a butcher or not.
I'm still too young for surgeries.... She can come up with anything

She tried healing with natural stuff that stink worse than crap but they didn't work. I explained to her that i no longer want to try new things just because someone tried it and worked for them, the reason is that those things take the Shittiest time with a chance for them not to work, and if they don't work i become an age (and the tumor would become too large) that it will affect me. So i'd rather go for the surgery, takes only a couple of hours, i get to go home the same day, and it's the sure deal..

It's been a while since we discussed that because the conversation goes "when are you trying the magnets?" -"i said i want the surgery" -"yes, but you didn't try the magnets, they might work" -"i don't want to try .... (The reason above)" -"But they're gonna cut your whole breast off!! No way!! No surgery!!"
Then i don't respond because i don't like yelling at my parents

[Jaye Jang]

Geo, Parents can be so trying, but I feel for your mother. Maybe if you could casually leave a magazine with some 'modern' surgical info 'laying around' and let her see it, it might help. I wish I could talk to her for you. I would reassure her that her experience was horrible and her concerns are understandible, BUT modern surgical techniques do not even require open surgery for an appendectomy these days (unless the appendix is perforated and/or -- God forbid -- gangrenous). Microsurgical techniques require only leaving a few tiny scars and maybe three hours' worth of surgery. You could also point out that 'shrinking' the tumor through medical management (medications) is still an option. One thing you might do is 'agree to disagree' with your mother by opting for a second opinion (i.e. see another doctor and find out if you actually need the surgery -- if for no other reason than to assure your mother that if two surgeons agree on this then it HAS to be done). If it turns out that the tumor is shrinkable, you will be able to reassure your mother and avoid surgery. As for your age and the financial considerations, considering where you are (until you come of 'legal age'), I don't know if you could get a limited Power of Attorney or not. If you could do that, it would legally limit your mother's input to assisting you with the medical payments. She might take exception to that, but you might have to CALMLY (for both yourself and your mom) suggest that you have the legal option (if you do), then have the surgery and get on with your life. *hugs* x2.

[Geoluhread]

Thank for all the hugs =P

I went to 4 doctors saying the same thing; it's better to get it out now since I'm young and they're gonna do a cosmetical incision... My tumor is near the skin, it's not that deep...
Still she isn't convinced...

If by next year she doesn't come around, i will tell dad to go ahead and tell the doctor to schedual an appointment regardless of my mother's opinion...

It would still be very nice for her to agree... I don't like doing stuff my parents don't agree to... Too much guilt

[Jaye Jang]

Geo, sweetie. Then my best suggestion would be to 'leave' the magazines around, let her 'find' them, and use a sort of 'reverse psychology' on her. Let her come to YOU and say, "Maybe you could try this?" (She sounds a little bit protective. That's not such a bad thing, unless it jeapordizes your health). If you can convince her, somehow, that the surgery is her idea -- or at least get her to where she is okay with it -- then you're both on the same ticket and that will be better for you in the long run. (The less stress and guilt you have going on, the better you're going to handle the surgery anyway). Best of luck.

[Nexus-6]

What a waste of fucking money! I bought myself a game on the way home from work that looked awesome & checked the system requirements to make sure it would run on my computer. No problems there, my computer is much more powerful in every area than recommended. Boy did I get a shock when I tried to install it.

WTF!!! To run it I have to run it through Steam online and Steam crashes my net connection. But there's more... it won't let me play the game until I download all the updates through Steam. Talk about catch 22!!!! Nowhere on the packaging does it say anything about having to do this and since the packaging is opened I can't return it. I pretty much just flushed $99 down the shitter. Fuck you!!!!

[Geoluhread]

A game for 99$? Wow!!

[Cicero]

In Australia they like to crank the prices of games up by about a million billion percent. I suspect they do it in some undercover deal with South East Asian tourism since so many people travel there to buy pirated copies of games for a pittance in comparison to their original Australian counterparts.

If I bought a game I couldn't use I'd probably just re-sell it on eBay. Might not get the full retail price back, but it would help lessen the annoyance.

[Geoluhread]

Yea... Here there's lots of stealing for programs and games too... We have cracks for everything...

I don't think that i ever bought something original... Just because you RARELY find it.
In the capital city however, the mega stores sell originals. (That's a bit far from where i live)

But i mean... 99$ is still alot.

[Nexus-6]

Geoluhread - newer release games here are expensive + it was actually a 5 game compilation. If you thought that $99 was expensive wait until you see the price on some music production software down here ($600+)

Cicero - The net where I live (isolated rural area) is absolute garbage but I'll be moving to a metropolitan area with better net soon so I'll hold onto it until then and if I still have problems I'm selling it.

[Geoluhread]

600...? *coughs*

The most expensive software i ever saw here is 25 Jds, (1 Jd=0.7$)

Well, you could try selling it to people around you.

[Saya]

Steam is pretty damn annoying, I have more than the minimal requirements to play Portal but I never managed to finish the game because Steam keeps frigging up *sigh* And you didn't register it did you? Might be hard to sell it if you did.

Me and a friend had a huge argument the other day, he says he's voting Conservative because Harper is opposed to anti-piracy laws. And I hate arguing with the fucker because he will never ever admit he's wrong. I just found articles that showed that the Conservatives are FOR anti-piracy laws. I sent him the articles and now he's not talking to me >.> Whats wrong with saying "Oh shit, you're right?"

[Saya]

The fucker is denying he said it!!! *SEETHE* I HAVE WITNESSES.

It alarms me that I care about that as much as I do.

[TheBloodEternity]

Oh, my. If anyone I knew acted like that I'm not sure how long I could stay friends with him/her.

Hmm... by the way, in Canada you're allowed to have pirated songs as long as its for personal use, right?

[Saya]

I can't remember what the exact law is but the laws are pretty damn lax, and no one can go after you because you downloaded music. But the Conservatives wrote up a bill that would change that, your internet service provider would have the right to shut off services if they find out you watched copyright material on youtube, and you get fined if you actually download things. The bill is dead now because of the election but Harper promises to revive it. If he gets a majority (which isn't likely at this point) it shouldn't have a problem passing. Luckily the Liberals and NDP are agaisnt it so that should be enough to vote it down, not sure what the Bloc has said about it.

He's saying now he supports Conservatives because of the economy. WHY?!!! Harper denies that there is a problem at all -_-*

[TheBloodEternity]

Internet shut off for just watching copyrighted material? Wow, I don't think the laws are even so harsh over here. Good that that didn't go through...

[Nexus-6]

Originally Posted by Saya

Steam is pretty damn annoying, I have more than the minimal requirements to play Portal but I never managed to finish the game because Steam keeps frigging up *sigh* And you didn't register it did you? Might be hard to sell it if you did.

It wouldn't let me install it without registering first The good news is I've managed to get the damn thing working & once I've finished downloading the updates it should let me play it offline.

[~Angel_Of_Darkness~]

I wish I could change my username....

[raggedyanne]

My boyfriend refuses to see our daughter that we put up for open adoption and says he is "getting tired" of my post partum depression. I don't know if I can take much more of this

[Xombie]

I have never hated any person, thing or idea as much as I hate this bitch.