Sex Change

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by MitsyMayhem

I'm sure you don't intend to, but don't start an argument in my thread.

You're so lame.

[Disaffected Shoelaces]

Originally Posted by ellelino

cause life has nothing to do with your sex

Originally Posted by ellelino

It [your sex] does affect your life

You're dumb. Stop bullshitting - reading a textbook (a really, really bad one, judging by your advice) doesn't make you a psychologist, it makes you a kid with a book. If you're unable to think outside of what you've read (which is a must for anyone who wants to study psychology, because it is essentially a huge of body of studies and theories, many of which are in conflict with one another), well, that just makes you a dick with a book.

But hey, in a sense, you ARE psychology - because you contradict yourself, too.

[MitsyMayhem]

Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

You're so lame.

For wanting to avoid an argument in serious thread about one of the people I care most about who's on the brink of suicide I'm lame? Okay, yes then Ophelia, I'm lame.

Anyway, I will give a decent reply after I finish my homework and talk to my friend today. And Solumina, I appreciate your empathy.

[Underwater Ophelia]

You're not lame for not wanting an argument in this thread, you're lame for thinking your thread is any more important than any other thread in which people start arguments in.

[MitsyMayhem]

Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

You're not lame for not wanting an argument in this thread, you're lame for thinking your thread is any more important than any other thread in which people start arguments in.

I don't. And if you've been paying any attention, I've been trying to reduce the amount of arguments I'm in and that anyone else is in. But this is an argument, a pointless one where you are simply nitpicking at words. So it's done.

[ellelino]

My sincere apologies to you Misty, my intentions were never to cause an argument, nor to prove myself as a psychologist to anyone. I was only trying to give an advice and my opinion
As for Ophelia, Misty put this post for a reason, to seek help for her friend, and thus she has every right to demand a response for her topic only, anyone who wants to argue my position as a psychologist, feel free to do so in a new thread.

Back to the topic, I honestly wish the best for your friend, but from the few cases I've seen I do stress that her decision is made for the right reasons, because it is simply not something that someone would want to regret. It is often that the expectations are not met after the procedure, however if your friend feels confident about it, then she/he shouldn't consider nor accept any other alternative.
Good Luck

[Jaye Jang]

Okay, MM, this is the best I can come up with: 1) Is there a disinterested, absolutely trustworthy third party in whom you can confide? Someone who knows both of you, and who would not go to the parents or the counsellor? If so, try passing messages to your friend that way.
2) Try putting an encouraging message in the personals section of the paper and let your friend know to look for it, and keep it in a secure place, for future reference and encouragement.
3) Send a cross (fish, Star of David), whatever, religious ornament to your friend with your gnet initials or some initials the parents will not recognize etched or scratched on the back (i.e. HIT for Hang In There). This will give them a visual reminder that you care, some physical encouragement they can literally hang onto, and should not upset the parents too much.
4) Use the time-honored gravel thrown at the window and pass messages that way, if you live close enough. (Pass messages in school the same way if you can -- i.e. tuck notes in the windshield wipers, locker, etc.).
5) Hang in there yourself and keep on encouraging your friend to do the same. Time has a way of working things out.