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06-14-2010, 10:22 AM
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I feel weird..
I really feel weird right now.
Someone who lived on the dorm I live at just died today.
And I really have no idea how to feel about it. I didn't really know her..
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06-14-2010, 01:30 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
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Maybe if you didn't know her and have no way to relate to her personally, there isn't much to feel. You trying to beat yourself up over not having more of an emotional investment in the death of someone you didn't know? I wouldn't.
If this is really a problem, go watch The Lion King again.
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As the poets have mournfully sung,
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the rolling in money,
the screamingly funny,
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06-14-2010, 01:44 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: victoria british columbia
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death is confusing, where is she now?
we never really know...their is a foggy window between our worlds
and we can never see through....
I try to imagine another realm where my loves have gone
a blue world where they are waiting for me
but it is a fantasy...
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06-14-2010, 01:56 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: In the broken temple bells, in the ringing...
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Well if you didn't know her then you have no reason to feel weird or sad about it. It's none of your business ( I don't mean that in a rude way ) and apart from the fact she lived near you, you apparantly have no connection or contact with this woman, apart from the fact you perhaps saw her around and knew she lived near you .
It's a shame she's dead but she's past caring wether you're thinking about being sad about her death or not.
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06-14-2010, 02:10 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Thou Viking capital Denmark.
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Well, I talked with her a few times and actually didn't like her much.
But I suppose it reminds me that I am not immortal, I am in fact not gonna live forever.
Probably just that.
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06-14-2010, 02:21 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: In the broken temple bells, in the ringing...
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No one lives forever. Death will have you in the end one way or another ( gosh...how very "Goffick" )
You don't know when it'll come so forget about it and get on with life.
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06-14-2010, 02:25 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Thou Viking capital Denmark.
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You are probably right
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06-14-2010, 03:37 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2005
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Anarasha
But I suppose it reminds me that I am not immortal, I am in fact not gonna live forever.
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I thought for sure if only one of us was going to live forever, it was going to be you.
THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!
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Lead me not into temptation ... follow me, I know a shortcut!
As the poets have mournfully sung,
death takes the innocent young,
the rolling in money,
the screamingly funny,
and those who are very well hung.
Your days are numbered - 26,280 per person on average - 2,000,000,000 heartbeats ... tick, tick, tick
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06-14-2010, 03:47 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Smexyville, Colorado
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I concur with Ben and Honeythorn. If you didn't know them well, there's not much to feel..
However the confronting of one's own mortality can be very weird, not to mention incredibly distracting. It is rather a jolt when some one one's own age dies, especially when it is un expected.
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06-15-2010, 11:08 AM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Thou Viking capital Denmark.
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Yeah.
Found out today it was a heart attack though(heart stopped, that's the same thing right?), so at least it wasn't any weird circumstances though still unexpected.
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06-15-2010, 10:00 PM
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: Perched on a near-by building
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Anarasha
I really feel weird right now.
Someone who lived on the dorm I live at just died today.
And I really have no idea how to feel about it. I didn't really know her..
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Whether her death was unexpected or not, we never know how we are going to feel until the moment of truth.
I try to 'think' my feelings, but it doesn't usually change them.
If her life, because that is probably what is really relevant to you, (even in absence) stays with you, then keep that memory. The reason for doing so may eventually become clear.
If not, pay your respects in any manner appropriate to you (ie. even in private) and try to focus on the next thing in your own life.
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06-15-2010, 11:15 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: The Wall...
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I'm possessed of a weird tendency to feel apathy. It really doesn't do me many favors. It's easy to see someone in your shoes saying,
"What the hell? Someone just randomly died, why? Couldn't that happen..." and you want to say, 'to me?' but you don't... instead you timidly probe the ways it could. The akwardness, the fear... maybe the fear doesn't become prominent, but perhaps it is an instinct in human beings to feel as if the presence of Death lingers. You can't help but feel a little weird....
It would make great anime if Death really DID linger, too. It kinda reminds me of Sandman--"If I had known YOU were Death, I would've died sooner!"
But that's just me.
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06-16-2010, 03:37 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2010
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Like Shadow says in FFVI, "the Reaper is always just a step behind me" or Haohmaru from Shin Samurai Spirits, "all creatures will die, and all the things will be broken.." (Alright... I admit that I'm a bit of a nerd.)
But seriously, death can occur at any time; we should all remember this fact. I seriously need to write a poem dedicated to this idea...
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06-17-2010, 04:14 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: CL
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OK think about her and walk in tho the bathroom.
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06-18-2010, 12:45 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Sheffield UK.
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Life's a game, person that has most fun wins.
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06-18-2010, 10:26 AM
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Thou Viking capital Denmark.
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That's actually a brilliant way to deal with life Jack o.o
I feel much better today, thank you everyone.
I suppose it is just weird when someone you know - however distant - dies.
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06-18-2010, 12:11 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Get a CT scan and find out
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Anarasha
I really feel weird right now.
Someone who lived on the dorm I live at just died today.
And I really have no idea how to feel about it. I didn't really know her..
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Other than sorrow at the fact that a life has been lost, I don't see why you should feel anything.
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06-20-2010, 01:26 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: CL
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Originally Posted by Tumor
Other than sorrow at the fact that a life has been lost, I don't see why you should feel anything.
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Why feel sorry In many cultures they honor the dead.Its a time of happens and celebration.
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06-20-2010, 12:40 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2006
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Originally Posted by Daywalker
Why feel sorry In many cultures they honor the dead.Its a time of happens and celebration.
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A life lost, especially at so young an age, is always something to feel sorrow for.
As for those other cultures, it is my understanding that they celebrate not the loss of the life, but the accomplishments achieved and actions performed and friendships built (etc.) during the span of that life. Since Anarasha has stated that he didn't really know her, what aspect of her life has he got to celebrate?
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06-20-2010, 08:14 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: the concrete and steel beehive of Southern California
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Regardless of whether or not we knew the individual death that happens close to us locally disturbs our instinct for self preservation because it may strike us next, so we want to know how and when and by what means the person died. We feel uneasy until we know why and how. This weird feeling has evolved in those who survived to propagate the "worry" genes. Those in ancient past who didn't worry about it didn't bother to find out that it was a leopard striking every full moon for example, or a poisonous food or water supply.
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06-21-2010, 01:27 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Smexyville, Colorado
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Mr. Pain, at first I only liked you because you complimented my pics.. now I have a growing appreciation for your wisdom.
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06-23-2010, 09:28 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: CL
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Tumor
A life lost, especially at so young an age, is always something to feel sorrow for.
As for those other cultures, it is my understanding that they celebrate not the loss of the life, but the accomplishments achieved and actions performed and friendships built (etc.) during the span of that life. Since Anarasha has stated that he didn't really know her, what aspect of her life has he got to celebrate?
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I WILL tell you what there is to celebrate about. That he had a life that will never change he was here on this world. celebrate the good thing he did for other people. celebrate the love he gave to family and friends .celebrate the good times. celebrate in his honor that the fact they they will all ways be with you in spirit. Hell celebrate a honorable death for all i give a shit.
accomplishments achieved and actions performed and friendships built What that never happen it his life. Even one friend even one accomplishment even one good action is a reason for celebrating.
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06-23-2010, 09:32 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: CL
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[quote=HumanePain;622671]Regardless of whether or not we knew the individual death that happens close to us locally disturbs our instinct for self preservation because it may strike us next, so we want to know how and when and by what means the person died. We feel uneasy until we know why and how. NO knowing all that makes you uneasy.
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06-23-2010, 09:33 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Antigo, WI [feel free to say 'where???' lol]
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Daywalker
I WILL tell you what there is to celebrate about. That he had a life that will never change he was here on this world. celebrate the good thing he did for other people. celebrate the love he gave to family and friends .celebrate the good times. celebrate in his honor that the fact they they will all ways be with you in spirit. Hell celebrate a honorable death for all i give a shit.
accomplishments achieved and actions performed and friendships built What that never happen it his life. Even one friend even one accomplishment even one good action is a reason for celebrating.
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that was beautiful Daywalker. even with the profanity lol
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06-23-2010, 09:51 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: CL
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l thank you LOL Sorry I'm not one for censorship.
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