"Im pretty new to this whole thing..."
Metalmonstereatme,
First, I'd like to say welcome!

I am new here, too. I joined the Gothic.net community after observing several threads and the way people interact. It was my cup of tea, unlike the actual community I live in now (conservative good-ol'-boy town).
"...The only place i can shop any way is the thrift store, and honestly if you look hard enough there are some good cloths in there to make a decent outfit out of..."
I agree with you that I do not wish to go to Crap Topic for the fact that I could find and "do-it-yourself" (DIY) anything four times cheaper at a Goodwill or Value Village! Which, of course, is better and more special than that at Hot Topic. I am always seeing mass produced goth mockery items for sale in sizes way to small for my hot pumpkin ass (voluptuous, thank you!), therefore I choose to find another way to express my likes in clothing and to do it at a much more economical fee!
"...then again i dont really tink it matters what you like or listen to tht makes you anything, im just hppy with being me. I get alot of shit for loveing tool, but, well, i do. and im not a big fn of the cure, noithin against them, just not really my kind of music i guess.
I probably did a comeplete fail on an entry, but i think you guys probably dont relly care that much.
In my opinion, I believe what one decides to like and listen has much to do with whom they are. What one likes and dislikes, listens to and ignores has quite a lot to do with the human desire to be unique, as are many more characteristics that make one group of people more and more individual from the next group of people. It is the difference from the cookie-cutter, close-minded, taboo-fearing, and unimaginitive mainstream (and much more) that causes goths to come together in online forums, homes, basements, parks, recreation areas, etc. just to bask in our protected desires we value that is our individuality and the knowledge that we won't be heckled by one another for our differences because we, as a group, no, as a COMMUNITY of Goths do not judge unjustly for we are cut from the same tattered, abandoned cloth. I believe that most goths disapprove of the mentality behind the basis of judgment of one another. Identity can be a very dangerous thing, and as far as I know, nobody will be sticking me in a labeled box anytime soon.