Rant Thread II - Page 237

Grausamkeit · 06-07-2011, 07:48 PM

Fruitbat, I'm sorry, hun.

My rant: Those stupid 'Teen Wolf' pictures at the top of every page/section! I installed an adblock, but I'm guessing that they are a bit of annoyance that must be suffered through for the time being.

Still Jack · 06-08-2011, 05:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Solumina

Why?blah blah blah

Because I'm so skint I can only afford rice oven chips and assorted other vegetables. meat is just too expensive .

honeythorn · 06-08-2011, 10:35 AM

Get to know a farmer. Most of them suffer rabbit infestations , and would more than likely be quite happy to provide you with free rabbit and probably wood pigeon .

Either that or sign up for that new game show, Compete for the meat ( in which you literally do win a huge frozen chicken or something )

Ben Lahnger · 06-08-2011, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Fruitbat

Oh it went along the lines of:

Fruity: You need to lift your game. (tells him how I'm really feeling)
Mr Bat: (Mocks my feelings.)
Fruity: Goes off a little about how that makes me feel.
MrBat: I hate you when you are a nagging bitch.
Fruity: I don't like you anymore.

We haven't really spoken since.

I'm still wearing my superwoman cape and he's still wearing his slacker of the year medallion, so it changed nothing.

OUCH! I'm not a big fan of ultimatums (blackmail is always ugly), but if it looks like the relationship is really going in the tank, you might suggest counseling and if he resists you could tell him it's counseling or it's the highway.

Because most of these things boil down to communication. And right now you need him to hear your concerns and he's blowing it off as nagging. The more he deflects what you're trying to tell him you need, the more you have to say it and the more he perceives you are "nagging". So you reach an impasse.

And it will probably take a third party to communicate to him that it really is in his own best interest to be a better listener, and to work with you to develop better communication skills. Things like learning to speak in "I feel" and "I need" statements. Hell, in time he might even get better at asking for what he wants (if he's a typical, emotionally-blunted male) without it being a personal attack.

Anyway, I'm optimistic that you can find a path through this that gets you where your heart wants to be. You got together with this man for good reasons; I'm hopeful that you can remind yourself and him of those reasons while telling him what you need.

Saya · 06-08-2011, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Still Jack

Because I'm so skint I can only afford rice oven chips and assorted other vegetables. meat is just too expensive .

Can you afford a can of coconut milk? I got a flu and I'm too sick to cook much, so I made a big pot of coconut curried veggies and its heavenly, I made it Sunday and I'm not halfway through yet.

Still Jack · 06-08-2011, 03:43 PM

Good idea. cheers.

CarrionCorpse · 06-08-2011, 11:50 PM

Another mate of mine wants to bring a different bimbo girl to party this time.
I wish with all my fucking power that my guys could pick more interesting, smart, good-looking girls to get with and ask to party, because these ones are just not working for anyone.

Fruitbat · 06-09-2011, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Ben Lahnger

OUCH! I'm not a big fan of ultimatums (blackmail is always ugly), but if it looks like the relationship is really going in the tank, you might suggest counseling and if he resists you could tell him it's counseling or it's the highway.

Because most of these things boil down to communication. And right now you need him to hear your concerns and he's blowing it off as nagging. The more he deflects what you're trying to tell him you need, the more you have to say it and the more he perceives you are "nagging". So you reach an impasse.

And it will probably take a third party to communicate to him that it really is in his own best interest to be a better listener, and to work with you to develop better communication skills. Things like learning to speak in "I feel" and "I need" statements. Hell, in time he might even get better at asking for what he wants (if he's a typical, emotionally-blunted male) without it being a personal attack.

Anyway, I'm optimistic that you can find a path through this that gets you where your heart wants to be. You got together with this man for good reasons; I'm hopeful that you can remind yourself and him of those reasons while telling him what you need.

Ah thanks Ben, but I'm afraid to say that I can say "I feel" and "I need" a million times but if he isn't playing by the same rules, it doesn't work.

The ultimatum was:

Fruity: I'm not coping, I need help. i have to dig deep, blah, blah, blah.
Mr Bat: *laughs* digging deep, sure.

Fuck it. I am over relationships.

Still Jack · 06-09-2011, 05:57 AM

You need a coke binge and a lot of JD.

MissCheyenne · 06-09-2011, 06:49 AM

Jack, dude, if I'd read about your lack of meat a day or so ago, I would have brought you some (my brother is a butcher, it's cheap as fuck for me to buy). Assuming you're still in Sheffield that is.

Despanan · 06-09-2011, 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Alan

It's a headline that there were no executions today over here.

ALAN! This is NOT interesting! You are not an engaging person! Your ideas suck and no one cares about the stupid war-zone you live in deciding not to kill anybody for a while!

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Originally Posted by Fruitbat

My rant. Mr Bat and I had a major blow yesterday. it was massive. The kind that breaks a relationship.

OH MY GOD! THAT IS SO IMPORTANT! see Alan? SEE? this is what you need to be talking about. No one gives a crap that you and your friends have a breif reprieve from being beheaded at the hands of a crime syndicate. FRUITBAT'S MARRIAGE IS FAILING! THEY ARGUED OVER THEIR FEELINGS AFTER THEY DISAGREED ABOUT PIZZA TOPPINGS.

Get with the program Alan. PRIORITIES man, THIS ISN'T ABOUT YOU.

Still Jack · 06-09-2011, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by MissCheyenne

Jack, dude, if I'd read about your lack of meat a day or so ago, I would have brought you some (my brother is a butcher, it's cheap as fuck for me to buy). Assuming you're still in Sheffield that is.

Cheers.

. It's all good though. My mate chadders gave me three kilos of beef because he's going veggie.
Cheers though, I really appreciate it.

Grausamkeit · 06-09-2011, 11:56 AM

So, I googled 'nun tits' today and came up mostly with faces. I r disappoint!

Stupid tit-faced nuns!

Ben Lahnger · 06-09-2011, 06:14 PM

Ha! You know you have to turn Safe Search off, right?

Also, search for it in quotes.

Er ... oh, I get it ... tit-faced! Ah ... well, LOL then!

(I wonder if a nun would rather be tit-faced or shit-faced?)

Fruitbat · 06-10-2011, 12:21 AM

Oh my god, I just like so totally forgot that I'm like having this super amazing party and I've only invited pretty people, because I don't want any ugly people to come, because you know like, fat ugly people, they just can't communicate at all.. I mean that's just so totally ewww...

I'm pretty sure that ugly is contagious, just like poverty is... like totally...

Underwater Ophelia · 06-10-2011, 09:03 AM

I suddenly miss uni.

Still Jack · 06-10-2011, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

I suddenly miss uni.

As in Unimatrix or University?

Stormtrooper of Death · 06-10-2011, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by CarrionCorpse

Another mate of mine wants to bring a different bimbo girl to party this time.
I wish with all my fucking power that my guys could pick more interesting, smart, good-looking girls to get with and ask to party, because these ones are just not working for anyone.

I would, but alas, I'm in the hospital until the end of the month!

CarrionCorpse · 06-10-2011, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Fruitbat

Oh my god, I just like so totally forgot that I'm like having this super amazing party and I've only invited pretty people, because I don't want any ugly people to come, because you know like, fat ugly people, they just can't communicate at all.. I mean that's just so totally ewww...

I'm pretty sure that ugly is contagious, just like poverty is... like totally...

It's not that they're ugly, it's that they are uninteresting, don't drink, have nothing in common with any of the rest of us, and act like they're in middle school.

I'll drink with almost anyone as long as they don't bore the fuck out of me and can act like an adult.

Grausamkeit · 06-10-2011, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Fruitbat

Oh my god, I just like so totally forgot that I'm like having this super amazing party and I've only invited pretty people, because I don't want any ugly people to come, because you know like, fat ugly people, they just can't communicate at all.. I mean that's just so totally ewww...

I'm pretty sure that ugly is contagious, just like poverty is... like totally...

Another party I'm not invited to. When will people like us fat, ugly girls?

Saya · 06-10-2011, 04:37 PM

If my sister says one more time "That's just your opinion" to dismiss anything I say I'm going to scream.

Grausamkeit · 06-10-2011, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Saya

If my sister says one more time "That's just your opinion" to dismiss anything I say I'm going to scream.

My husband says that shit all the time to invalidate what I'm saying.

Saya · 06-10-2011, 05:02 PM

But as soon as you do something he doesn't like, its not just an opinion, right?

I'm not even upset about what we were arguing about, I just hate such a cheap cop out.

Versus · 06-10-2011, 05:39 PM

I hate lecherous bitches.

Grausamkeit · 06-10-2011, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Versus

I hate lecherous bitches.

Awww....

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But as soon as you do something he doesn't like, its not just an opinion, right?

I'm not even upset about what we were arguing about, I just hate such a cheap cop out.

Are you kidding? He takes it as a personal offense, for some reason. Mostly we fight about religion because he imagines that I'm going to say something offensive even before I've said anything. Not that he's been inside a church for the past decade or so...