Rant Thread II

[Grausamkeit]

MissC, I'm sorry you have to cut more stuff out of your diet. That sucks. I have no advice but I hope you keep feeling better.

HP, I can log in on my Moment. We have Sprint, don't know if that counts for anything. I can use the default browser to access most websites. The only thing that is slightly irritating is that I can't get Angry Birds on it.

[Mr.Doobie]

Two days ago I met a girl who was in a foster home that made her star in a series of child porn from the ages 8-10. Her story was really depressing, and I'm really sick of meeting people like this and hearing these stories. Is it really all this common? Do I just have a habit of attracting damaged people?

Whatever, I'm just sick of it. I want to help. I want to prevent the kind of shit that happened to me and all these other people from happening again, and I want to help the people that have already had this happen.

How? Please, G.net, can you help me find programs and such that I can get involved in to help?

[Fruitbat]

Originally Posted by MissCheyenne

I'll give rice and almond milk a try when I get to the proper supermarket. After two days on this diet, I have to admit, I do feel better. I'm not nearly as bloated and itchy and haven't had an upset stomach either. I am really gutted though, I already feel like a pain when I have to refuse food because of the gluten thing and with this on top, I feel like a really rude ungrateful shit.

Just tell them that ed scissorhands is having a party in your stomach if you eat gluten/lactose.

Glad to hear that you've had some relief from the bloating and itchiness.

Oh man vanilla and chocolate almond milk....yummy!


Mr Doobie We are all screwed up... all damaged.. carrying around baggage. Some of us refused to admit it, while others who would seem to have a ton of baggage just go about their normal everyday lives and try and get over it.

I left most of my baggage behind me. I just lug around a carry on now and try and let things go.

Oh and my advice is usually blah. Just remember you can't save the world, you can only save yourself and maybe along the way, you'll help others, but you can't help anyone unless you help yourself first..

[Grausamkeit]

Originally Posted by Mr.Doobie

Two days ago I met a girl who was in a foster home that made her star in a series of child porn from the ages 8-10. Her story was really depressing, and I'm really sick of meeting people like this and hearing these stories. Is it really all this common? Do I just have a habit of attracting damaged people?

Whatever, I'm just sick of it. I want to help. I want to prevent the kind of shit that happened to me and all these other people from happening again, and I want to help the people that have already had this happen.

How? Please, G.net, can you help me find programs and such that I can get involved in to help?

*MEGA-HUGZ FOR DOOBZ*



Most of the women I've known(relatives, friends, girlfriends) have had some type of sexual assault in their past. I can't dwell on it. If I do it fills me with rage and makes me want to murder people. All you can do is be a sympathetic ear and a shoulder if they need it. Just be as supportive as you can, hun. People used to think I was joking when I would say that dating women hurts a lot worse than dating men.

*HUGZ*

[Saya]

Originally Posted by Mr.Doobie

Two days ago I met a girl who was in a foster home that made her star in a series of child porn from the ages 8-10. Her story was really depressing, and I'm really sick of meeting people like this and hearing these stories. Is it really all this common? Do I just have a habit of attracting damaged people?

Whatever, I'm just sick of it. I want to help. I want to prevent the kind of shit that happened to me and all these other people from happening again, and I want to help the people that have already had this happen.

How? Please, G.net, can you help me find programs and such that I can get involved in to help?

What kind of work do you want to do? Nationally there's RAINN, in Philadelphia (thats where you are, right?) there's WOAR, they have a crisis line but it also looks like they do education and outreach, and there's an anti-trafficking organization but they don't have a website, other than there's a religious organization on the board (but it looks like a lot of different organizations are involved): Philadelphia Anti-Trafficking Coalition.

I know what you mean about getting sick of hearing about it, and I'd be wary about doing crisis line work because of that. I do education and outreach at my local sexual assault crisis center, and I do get disclosures, but mostly I feel really good about the work. If disclosures was all I did I'd probably be super burnt out by now, so if you want to do it I'd really suggest mixing it with other kinds of activism that don't get you down so much.

[thuyuyen]

I know people who were ***** repeatedly, and they have PTSD now. I really shouldn't have any problems.
New York Wall Murals

[Mr.Doobie]

Originally Posted by thuyuyen

I know people who were ***** repeatedly, and they have PTSD now. I really shouldn't have any problems.
New York Wall Murals

Awwww, an adbot is trying to be empathetic.

What kind of work do you want to do?

I want to help victims and I want to help end all the fucking bullshit that gets dumped on them by everything around them.

[Solumina]

It is a lot more common than most people think, last time I checked the statistics it was estimated that one in four girls and one in six guys in the US are inappropriately touched by the time they turn eighteen.

Sexual violence prevention can take a lot out of you but it really is very meaningful and can make a lot of difference. I did my volunteering through a local abuse shelter so that is one place where you can look, they may not have any opportunities for you to help but they should be able to point you in the right direction. You could also try contacting your local government to see what there is in your area, even the stuff that isn't run by local government generally does have a relationship with them, mostly for the purpose of getting out information (as well as getting grant money).

[Ben Lahnger]

Son of a bitch! I made a post in the Politics section, and next thing you know I've got a banner ad at the top of Gnet for Ron Paul, the Tea Party Libertarian Senator who is running for President. Whaaaaaaaaat?!?!?

Son of a bitch!

[MissCheyenne]

I swear, I need to learn how to bake because there's no way I'm paying £3.50 for SIX biscuits just because they are gluten free. I'm really pissed at how expensive this shit is. It's not my fault I can't eat the normal stuff and it's not like I'm just a picky eater either.

[Saya]

Originally Posted by MissCheyenne

I swear, I need to learn how to bake because there's no way I'm paying £3.50 for SIX biscuits just because they are gluten free. I'm really pissed at how expensive this shit is. It's not my fault I can't eat the normal stuff and it's not like I'm just a picky eater either.

Baking is easy peasy, just time consuming. Although some things you can make pretty fast, like tortillas and corn bread. It does suck when you don't have the time

[JCC]

If you can't make time for baking then you are dead inside.

[Saya]

Originally Posted by Mr.Doobie

Awwww, an adbot is trying to be empathetic.



I want to help victims and I want to help end all the fucking bullshit that gets dumped on them by everything around them.

I was thinking more of how do you want to achieve that goal? Through crisis intervention, education and outreach, or political activism, or a blend of all three?

If a local or national group doesn't have the kind of work you're looking for, creating your own organization, like a collective, could be an option. Like, I do enjoy doing outreach, but I'm starting a collective soon that might be more politically focused and cover more broad issues (reproductive rights, aboriginal rights, etc). Maybe create one more focused on victims and their allies, and more focused around what they want to see done? You could get qualified people from the community to run support groups but you can also channel the frustration of victims, family of victims and allies into political action.

Just as a suggestion!

[Fruitbat]

sick of it. screw it. bollocks.

[CuckooTuli]

My mother drives me crazy. She's having breast reconstruction surgery soon following on from her mastectomy 4 years ago, and is really not working with my sister and I at ALL while we're trying to arrange after-care for her - not the easiest given that we both work, and have to fit in with our co-workers in terms of holiday.

I love my mum, but she's so fucking dippy and it gets on my nerves sometime. She's just basically given my sister and I the dates and left us to do everything -she hasn't even arranged for a friend to come and feed her cats while she's in hospital, and basically asked my sister, who lives in London and often works 16-hour days, why she can't just stay at hers and commute for however long it takes until she's out (because she doesn't want to be cheeky with her NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOURS, with whom, she's on very good terms). And if you get the slightest bit impatient with her, she gets stroppy and accuses you of treating her like a burden. She doesn't have a bad bone in her body, but she's 52 going on 13 and frankly, it gets on my tits sometimes.

[Drew Keaton]

I just ranted loudly in a blog post. It felt good...

[Mr.Doobie]

Ok. I'm getting about sick of all these people ranting and raving about a welfare system they think needs fixed, but they'll only ever give the vaguest suggestions on how it should be fixed, and why. Overprivileged people that, whenever I ask why the welfare system should be changed, make allusions to the "Welfare Mom" who is perfectly capable of working and is just lazy and evil, who uses her welfare checks to get a brand new Cadillac and a mansion. Or some shit. All I know is that those stories are such bullshit, everyone I know on welfare can't afford shit (which is a lot, and always more then whatever asshat is attacking them), much less the luxurious lifestyle said asshats seem to think these people live.

I seriously want to know where all this comes from! I mean, if there is anyone that fits the "Welfare Mom" stereotype, they have to be rare, because I've never seen one, met one, and no one I know has ever actually seen or met one (the asshats say it's always someone they know who knows someone else who blahblahblah). And if it is rare, that's hardly a reason to think welfare needs to be reduced, or harder to get (because god knows it's hard enough to get already), and it's certainly no reason to go around assuming every person on welfare and/or food stamps is just lazy and doesn't want to work.

Sick of fucking classist bullshit.

[Grausamkeit]

My mom was a single parent with 4 kids on welfare. We couldn't afford a helluva lot. Sure as fuck not a car, or a house. We lived where HUD told us we were going to live.

Better those people you talk to should be complaining about the retired elderly that pull in medicare, social security and whatever retirement benefits they can so they can live high on the hog. Frontline did a special on it. I can't find it right now, but that episode they had these selfish elderly people in retirement communities saying that if the government needed money they should take it out of welfare and medicaid and leave their SS and benefits alone; better the children should suffer. Fuckers. These people are well-off and don't actually need SS or medicare and they'd let people's families starve rather than go without whatever well-to-do elderly people frivolously spend money on. Leave it for the people that really need it. I think we give social security and medicare out too freely to elderly people who may not need it and not enough to the ones who really do.

[Fruitbat]

Graus My dad had to retire at 65 (thanks the the rules in Australia at the time), when I was 14.

our standard of living dropped (hell we didn't really have a standard of living, we were already poor but my parents were paying off their own house, out in a rural area.) But our poverty was caused by my father's inability to manage money (and he was the breadwinner and so he did the money managing - fucken antiquated idea that is)

And so we lived well below the poverty line, and they continued to do so after I left home at 18. I used to give them half my wages when I lived at home, to help them out
(but then my wages went towards helping them pay for my sister who would pay them rent and then ask for half of the money back, so she could buy her dinner every thursday night when she had to stay late at school - but hey she got to travel around the world when she was a student because she screwed everyone over with money)

There are always people who work the system, regardless of if they are elderly or single mums or whatever and there are always those who don't work the system and who struggle. it's life.

My rant. Mr bat came along with me today for my shopping trip and we have so polar differences in clothes...

[honeythorn]

My brother has gone and bought a fucking Biorb aquarium.

One of the shittest aquariums known to Humanity. No surface area, godawful joke of a filtration system and even the 60 L is useless for actually keeping fish alive and healthy for a decent lifespan.

Why has he bought it? Because his daughter keeps climbing up and opening the hood of his 40 gallon proper aquarium and messing in the water. She's an insolent little bastard . He should lock the door of that room.

He's bought this joke of a deathbubble because it has a screw on lid. The screw on lid which stops fresh air getting to the already miniscule surface area, which means no fresh oxygen interchange . This wouldn't happen very well anyway because the surface area is tiny, and the filter is an undergravel piece of junk that creates no current and thus no surface agitation which is essential for good oxygen interchange. So any inhabiting fish cannot breathe as well as they should be able to.


He reckons she won't be able to mess with the water due to the lid. All she's going to do is figure out how to unscrew the fucking thing.


He doesn't look after his vastly more easy to care for 40 gallon. The water was filthy the last time I saw that tank.

He's such an asshole about things like this. He gets animals and looks after them for a while, then just forgets them and does the very basics like feeding them and giving them water. That's about it. I took his guinea pig off him because he was keeping the poor little sod in the basement at his old home. He used to sit down there smoking his weed and blasting his Rasta music. So the poor pig was half deaf and half stoned , and when my brother wasn't in the room it was in pitch darkness and not cleaned out anywhere near as much as it should have been.

Now it lives in a large hutch outside in the fresh air and gets lots of good food and fresh grass. You'd never think it was the same bloody animal. He ate nonstop for nearly an hour the first time I put him out on the grass. He'd never seen grass before and to him it was evidently like a giant heavenly saladbowl.


Christ my brother annoys me so much sometimes

[Grausamkeit]

Fru, I already know that. My point in bringing up the video was that it is a true example of people cheating the system who really don't need the money, not just some anecdote(like the myth of welfare moms who buy gucci and drive cadillacs) that people use to justify taking monetary benefits away from the poor who need it. Medicare was supposed to be a fall back for people who didn't have the foresight or money to put together a retirement plan. It wasn't supposed to be extra benefits for people who don't need it.

Honeythorn, I share your frustration about people who get animals they can't or don't take care of. My husband's grandparents own the house that we rent. A week after we paid the pet deposit to get a cat recently, they back pedalled and refused to let us get one. These people have a squirrel living in their house that neither of them can properly take care of(one of them is prone to heart trouble, the other is literally blind) and they are afraid that *I* will not be able to take care of an animal even though I am home every single day and have no physical or mental problems that bar me from taking care of other living things. I take great care of my two autistic children, but a cat is apparently too much for me to handle, in their opinion. Old people are fucking stupid sometimes.

[Fruitbat]

Originally Posted by Grausamkeit

Fru, I already know that. My point in bringing up the video was that it is a true example of people cheating the system who really don't need the money, not just some anecdote(like the myth of welfare moms who buy gucci and drive cadillacs) that people use to justify taking monetary benefits away from the poor who need it. Medicare was supposed to be a fall back for people who didn't have the foresight or money to put together a retirement plan. It wasn't supposed to be extra benefits for people who don't need it.

Honeythorn, I share your frustration about people who get animals they can't or don't take care of. My husband's grandparents own the house that we rent. A week after we paid the pet deposit to get a cat recently, they back pedalled and refused to let us get one. These people have a squirrel living in their house that neither of them can properly take care of(one of them is prone to heart trouble, the other is literally blind) and they are afraid that *I* will not be able to take care of an animal even though I am home every single day and have no physical or mental problems that bar me from taking care of other living things. I take great care of my two autistic children, but a cat is apparently too much for me to handle, in their opinion. Old people are fucking stupid sometimes.

Graus totally agree. Old people are fucking stupid sometimes

And the cheats.. there always are people who work the system and who take away from those who really need it. People who can afford it should be paying their own way.

[Ben Lahnger]

So I started a new job on July 5th. I finished the initial training and took over managing my new store on Wednesday, July 13th. Last Friday I hired a new sales rep to work in my store.

Tomorrow I have to fire a young man who is a nice enough guy and is paying child support for 3 kids. And I'm writing this because I never like firing people, especially if they are nice enough people, but it's a necessary part of the job.

But he used one of the live display store phones to have conversations with people about having drugs delivered to the store and having other people come to the store to pick up drugs ... and he left the instant messaging conversations displayed on the phone. Those conversations were photographed and forwarded on to my district manager and regional manager. So I have no choice.

Before I chose the store location to manage, I came down and secret shopped the place, and he was the one that took care of me. This past Saturday I discussed that visit with him, and talked about the illegal things he had brought up for conversation ... and how I didn't want him doing or talking about anything illegal in the store with anyone at any time ... and the next day he did this.

So I'm not happy that I have to let him go. But I have to, and I will.

[CarrionCorpse]

All my friends are cunts.
I don't know why I still hang around most of them-__-

[hoami82]

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