Rant Thread II - Page 345

Fruitbat · 01-20-2014, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by BourbonBoy

Why is it when you say you don't want kids people take it out of context and think you don't like kids?

I suppose because it's the easy assumption to make... I love babybat, but when I told everyone he was to be an only child, they made all sorts of noise, even complete strangers were like "Oh how can you do that? He'll get lonely, you're being selfish."

Yeah, those idiots didn't bother to find out the reasons behind my decision and quite frankly they weren't worth the breath involved in explaining it.

BourbonBoy · 01-21-2014, 10:31 AM

Thing is, a great friend blew her top when I mentioned that I don't want kids, even though I've never met her daughter. We were talking about possibly becoming more than just friends over the past few months, but when I mentioned this over IM, suddenly I was a two faced asshole. We haven't really chatted since, just b/sing each other while gaming, but that's about it at this point.

Acharis · 01-22-2014, 08:11 AM

Well, I don't see why you're an asshole as you were upfront.
I don't understand why people who already have one child are so insistent to have more... I've been dumped for half-considering tubal ligation when I'd been clear from the start that I didn't intend to have kids.

Starting to climb out of this psychiatric shitfunk a bit but am still having panic attacks and feeling a real lack of purpose. No fucking idea why. I have a house to live in and enough food to eat, and am receiving medical care. I think I'm going to distract from my useless shit and go help someone else.

ape descendant · 01-23-2014, 01:39 AM

I had to put my cat down, he was only 3.

BourbonBoy · 01-23-2014, 07:28 AM

*deep hugs* Ape. I'm so sorry.

BourbonBoy · 01-25-2014, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Acharis

Well, I don't see why you're an asshole as you were upfront.
I don't understand why people who already have one child are so insistent to have more... I've been dumped for half-considering tubal ligation when I'd been clear from the start that I didn't intend to have kids.

The thing is, she can't have anymore children after her first child, since the surgeon messed up her insides when she had a caesarian. I think she was mostly reacting to all of the guys who've been with her before and demanded she create an heir for them, when I was the first one to say, "No, it would be nice but I don't want that." Either that, or from what she's told me, she's so used to being treated like crap, the second I mention a whiff of that, she thought she should be out of there. I'm not making excuses, but I've known her that well for a few years.

deathsdj · 01-26-2014, 04:03 PM

Really sorry to hear about your cat ape. As an animal lover who has lost a few pets (friends really) I know how that hurts.

deathsdj · 01-26-2014, 04:11 PM

Speaking for myself I am good with the one child I have. I waited until I was 42 trying to make sure I was in a sound relationship before bring a child into it but even that level of patience ended in a fail. Still my daughter is amazing to me and I am so happy being daddy. I'm very satisfied in that regard. Now I'm 46 and honestly I am just to old to go through that again. I don't look or feel old but you can't deny the number. It is what it is. She has friends and a half brother so she is not lonely for other kids. Preschool this year and real school next ought to keep her busy in that regard as well.

Everybody has the right to decide for themselves whether they want to have kids and as long as the decision is made responsibly I for one will respect it.

Fruitbat · 01-26-2014, 04:13 PM

Ape Super squishy hugs darling. What happened to your kitty?

BB I think its so much better to examine the issue of kids before you have them. After all, it's not as though they come with a return policy.

Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs out there. Particularly when they are little and the only real method of communicate they have is to cry and they don't come with an instruction manual or an off button.

And the methods that they have for putting children to bed/sleep aren't that great - let's see there's leaving the child to cry (controlled crying) or co-sleeping basically. Not great options when you have clinical PTSD.

Acharis · 01-27-2014, 06:44 AM

*hugs* I'm really sorry Ape.

Very true Fruity. It's a tough gig. I truly don't see myself coping well with a child.

As for todays rant...Will somebody fetch my damn glass of bleach already? I ordered it ages ago.

ape descendant · 01-27-2014, 08:03 AM

Thanks for your kind thoughts, everyone. We got his ashes back, I'm not sure why that makes me feel a little better, but it does.

TheLonelyGhost · 01-28-2014, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by ape descendant

Thanks for your kind thoughts, everyone. We got his ashes back, I'm not sure why that makes me feel a little better, but it does.

I'm glad to hear that it makes you feel a little bit better. You're in my thoughts as well. <3 Just wanted to let you know that.

BourbonBoy · 01-30-2014, 06:23 AM

Haven't had a back flareup in more than a year, yet this past week it's been near crippling when I get out of bed. I think it's tied to my need to suddenly run two miles every other morning and not doing my yoga stretches.

ape descendant · 01-31-2014, 06:31 AM

Damnit BB, DO YOUR STRETCHES!!!!!

BourbonBoy · 01-31-2014, 06:24 PM

Don't worry Ape, I started the other day and flipped my mattress. Both are helping out a lot!

Fruitbat · 02-02-2014, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ape descendant

Damnit BB, DO YOUR STRETCHES!!!!!

You have such a way with words beautiful... can you be my speech writer?

had the awesomeness of watching a 'dubious' spot appear on my face. It was quite fascinating, how it turned from what looked like blood under the skin, to a scabby looking little thing five days later, then two days after that, it had a raised lump around it, like a moat.

I'd love to point some figures, give it a big scientific name, but heck, I'm not that sort of girl. I'm more of a "cor, check this out? Isn't it interesting?"

Went to the doc, and I've had it dry iced - if it returns, then it gets cut out. I get a badass scar on my face, and it will just make me all the more realistic when International Pirate day comes around again.

Catch · 02-03-2014, 01:33 PM

I got frostbite this winter. It was cold.

Acharis · 02-04-2014, 02:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Fruitbat

I get a badass scar on my face, and it will just make me all the more realistic when International Pirate day comes around again.

That's badass. Chicks dig scars

ape descendant · 02-04-2014, 06:47 AM

BB, good, ya best take good care of yourself.

FB, Oh girl!! I hope your face turns out ok. *hugs and loves* I'll have to think op some awesome speeches, you work on your presidential cadence.

Fruitbat · 02-10-2014, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Acharis

That's badass. Chicks dig scars

Thank you Acharis. I must admit that I'd never noticed that chickens were partial to scars

Okay, I'll work on being all presidential... hmmm.. I'll have to be charming and charismatic... shite... I'm going to have to become a vampire, because there is absolutely no way that I can manage this... although I have been taking lessons from the cat....still can't manage to lift my leg that high, and lick my inner thigh.

It's all up to you Ape. You are going to have to write some mighty awesome speeches.

TheLonelyGhost · 02-11-2014, 09:22 AM

Recently my mood swings have been bothering me a lot lately: having bi polar sucks.... that's for sure. A little while ago I was very irritated and annoyed and now I feel completely fine??? This is nuts, lol.

MissCheyenne · 02-18-2014, 01:28 PM

So, further to my long ago rants about my step father : he's getting remarried next year......ON MY MY MUM'S FUCKING BIRTHDAY! <rages>

BourbonBoy · 02-18-2014, 11:38 PM

Fruity, I completely understand where you're coming from, and as much as I hate to be a necro when it comes to old subjects, but when it A) comes to deciding to have kids and B) deciding not to date someone with children, how can I be considered an asshole for choosing to date someone who isn't a single parent nor has ever been married/divorced, which is the situation that I live in given the age group where I reside. Where I live, people think something's wrong with me since I'm neither a single father nor ever been divorced.

Solumina · 02-20-2014, 11:43 AM

I'm really nervous about starting work tomorrow, I haven't worked in so long and on top of that this is a very different environment from anywhere I've ever worked. I'm really excited about it but at the same time it just kind of feels too good to be true and I'm worried that I'm going to screw it up. Gah I know I'm probably stressing myself out for no reason and that this is in fact a good thing but my brain just wont shut up about how it cold go horribly wrong.

TheLonelyGhost · 02-26-2014, 10:33 AM

Well two days ago I was flipping out; this was something different that happened to me. I was close to the edge and was almost sure that I could no longer be happy in life. Meanwhile as I'm feeling like crap and my mother is aware that I'm having mixed moods, she says nothing to me. I'm crying in front of her, it's impossible for me to hide the tears and she doesn't really think nothing of it. Anytime I cry: it's always somebody's fault which is something I don't understand. Pretty sure she didn't know what to say, but it's as she doesn't want to admit that I have a disorder. This kinda stumps me.