Fetishes and Sexual Quirks (X-rated)

[honeythorn]

Originally Posted by Haunted House

I like having my collarbones bitten.

You REALLY should not have put that.

The cogs of my brain have been jiggled into life and ......well yes. I shall say no more about my love of collarbones or I shall ramble for a very long time.

[Tenrai Hogosha]

Rae Ven Rae looked like a Goddess in that outfit. I believe I have a good eye for what makes a woman look hot.

As far as DOM and sub go....If a DOM can work the mind and the body together most will submit to be taken.

[Rae Ven Rae]

depends on the person I guess-- a dominant woman will be pissed at even the attempt--a submissive one won't. if the attraction is there..

[Mistress Lilith]

There is no way in hell that a guy could get me to submit. I hate giving up control and will do anything to keep it.

[Tenrai Hogosha]

True, Guy or Girl DOM/s will always fight for control. It's in our nature to stand our ground. It like breathing.
However, I never understood a guy that was a switch.

[Rae Ven Rae]

I find giving in to the will of a stronger force a sensual pleasure --but I think of it as a power exchange, he takes because I give it for him to take-- a willing surrender as opposed to a forceful one--I suppose in this we are oppsite Lilith, but that is kewl...

[Tenrai Hogosha]

I totally agree. A willing surrender is more erotic to me. Its the hardest to achieve. But to each their own.

[Lapin]

I'm a submissive, no question. I feel odd for it too, because when it comes out in conversation, I'm treated like I'm weak.

I don't think it's weakness, but what do you all think? I've been feeling insecure about it lately.

[Miss Cogs]

I think I found a new one today. I think I might like it when really skinny guys can twist their bodies into strange positions.

[Rae Ven Rae]

Don't sweat it lapin, I know a lot of strong people who are subs--I can only speak for myself, but it is because I have so much control that I wish to relinquish it--like a captain of industry wants a mistress to degrade him because he hates the actual power he welds...or just wants to be a passenger and not a driver for a while...

For me, I was always everyone's rescuer--the one who held my family together, the strong one...

I feel such a rush when I DON'T HAVE TO BE strong...

but I can understand Lilith's position too--how power can be erotic--I just never could get there in the sexual realms...

[Lapin]

I got made fun of for it recently. I think one person's exact words were:

"You're submissive? But you're so scary looking!" (Pause) "Then again, I guess you are really girly and silly. I can see you being weak."

It really threw me for a second.

[Tenrai Hogosha]

Originally Posted by Lapin

I'm a submissive, no question. I feel odd for it too, because when it comes out in conversation, I'm treated like I'm weak.

I don't think it's weakness, but what do you all think? I've been feeling insecure about it lately.

A DOM must respect their pets/subs. Never be a sub or pet to any DOM that does not. That said.
Depend on how you view things. You may see your strength is in your ability to submit yourself to someone else as a pet.

[Rae Ven Rae]

I agree--it takes a certain amount of strength, in some cases, to admit that you would want to relinquish control--not for all cases, but for some. That is what gives you the high, going against the societal taboo of what is strong and what is weak...

Hun-- i think Lapin was talking about non BDSMers--people who were on the outside who don't understand the power exchange...

I am sure Lilith will concur that most Dom/Domme/sub relationships respect the gift that a pet gives to them in that rgeard...

[Lapin]

I've been called "Pet" so many times by so many people, and I've never been offended, but this same person claimed I should be.

I've always felt like I was the stronger one in the relationship. My partners always needed me much more than I needed them. They needed me to be there as their sounding board, their assurer, their , well, their beloved pet.

It was a bit of a mindscrew to be told that I was in fact the needy weak one. (laughs)

EDIT: Actually Ms. Rae, the person speaking is a dominant, and very into BDSM. I think they are still learning the "rules", so to speak, though.

[Rae Ven Rae]

I know--because a need for control generally stems from fear whereas reliquishing control can be, fearless -- depends on the people and the situation.

Most Dom's probably don't like one another though--LOL...all the strong personalities coming to a head...I love to watch their power struggle though...beautiful thing to behold...

Next time the so called Dom starts that BS tell him that it is about a power exchange--he needs his pet as much s you need a master...

It is cyclic respectful thing--there are weak subs sure--but there are also weak masters--weak masters see the need to dominate out of fear and not a true power exchange--I ran into those assholes and I can't stand them...lol...

[Lapin]

When they dominate out of fear, it's no fun for the submisssive. You can't see them as anything but children.

[Rae Ven Rae]

I know--and that is something you can say to a fake Dom like that dude (obviously fake, because he/she/it doesn't understand the rules of engagement)

[Tenrai Hogosha]

Originally Posted by Lapin

EDIT: Actually Ms. Rae, the person speaking is a dominant, and very into BDSM. I think they are still learning the "rules", so to speak, though.

In my view as a DOM.

No one can use that excuse of "Learning The Rules". If a person claiming to be a DOM does not understand or respect the trade, does not stop at safe words, etc.... That person is not a DOM. That person is a predictor using BDSM as an cover.

Again that is my view.

[Rae Ven Rae]

I agree -- some people use it as a cover to do messed up stuff--as in most subcultures, you have to be careful, but esp in the BDSM world, where people with horrid agenda's and power issues will pray on people with opposite end issues--it is said that most sociopaths prey on the co-dependent, sniffing them out like animals do squirrels--I think the BDSM world probably has a large population of such folks...

Just be careful...

[Mistress Lilith]

Rae Ven Rae, I agree that there has to be a large amount of respect on both sides. I would not be comfortable with half the stuff that my boyfriend and I do without knowing that he respects me and loves me unconditionally. Also, I never go into sex wishing to hurt him more than he wants; sometimes I get a little too rough, but as soon as he tells me, I back off.

Tenrai Hogosha, my guy is a switch only in the fact that he loves being a sub, but can being a little more aggressive if I want him to be. He would rather have me full out doming him, but if I want him to call me names or be on top (something he also doesn't like that much), he's willing to do it. He never really doms me, but there are times when I want him to fight a little or get a little aggressive. Only during foreplay though, I get to call the shots during sex.

[badteccy]

It's weird, but I can be one hell of a sub, but I hate taking orders from people (how angsty teen punk do I sound? Don't worry, I still follow rules). But with guys I just love to be taken and ordered around.
I can be pretty dominant at times though.

[TopHaggardDoll]

I think my boyfriend is developing a thing for vomit. Strange boy.

Then again, with the things I've admitted to liking, I don't have a place to say that someone is strange, lol.

Aslong as intercourse, oral sex, poo and animals aren't involved, I can deal with it. XD!

[honeythorn]

Bus guy has the most GORGEOUS hands. And yesterday he seemed to think it a good idea to get on the bus with an electric guitar. Not in a case, just the guitar. He started tuning and fiddling with the thing ( big mistake there ),and I could NOT help but keep glancing at his hands....* dribble *....Luckily he was in front of me and to the left a bit so he didn't see me ogling at him X-0

[TopHaggardDoll]

Honeythorn, you remind me of one of my mates who like...falls in love with people she sees on the train on a regular basis or something.

Her: Tanith, I luuuurve him....
Me: Lucy.....you don't know him.
Her:.............But.....I luuuurrrve him.

[Russia deBelle]

lol. i often find myself infatuated with pretty people i see in public. it's not an unhealthy thing necessarily, i forget them as soon as the next pretty comes along, so it never turns into a stalking thing. :-P